Beyond pissed off. Do I LTB??? Wwyd?

[madcatlady444]

My DH is in an am-dram group, last night of show last night, his entire family staying at our house to watch the show. He hasn't come home from the after-show party, it's the next morning now and isn't answering his phone, but can manage the occasional text. I am so angry I am shaking, what do I tell his family?? Everyone is going to be getting up soon, I am so embarrassed. He's expecting me to make lunch for his whole family (10 of us in total) on fucking Mother's Day but he hasn't come home & is too cowardly to answer his phone. He says in his text he is with other people in the group, but I don't really care. He is just taking the piss, and i have had enough. I really really want to LTB, wwyd? I would really appreciate your advice mumsnetters, am I overreacting??

I hope you can salvage something nice for yourself today. Is he always this selfish and unreliable?

Absolutely don't even think about telling lies to his family. They just get the facts as they are. I certainly wouldn't feel like cooking but probably would do something for lunch because it isn't exactly his family's fault his behaviour is so dreadful. If he think's he's done nothing wrong then there is absolutely no hope. Unless it's a total one off.

Just to update you all, he came back really drunk, he had been drinking all night, then assaulted me & DD1, DD2 called police he has been arrested.
I might have to pull this thread in case he finds it. Thank you so much everybody, I really appreciate your support. This relationship is definitely over.

What a tit. Good luck OP with the fallout and getting him out of your life.

Sounds like an ego gone wild, what a knob. Love to you and your family.

Oh I'm so sorry that is awful. Glad he's out. Your poor girls and poor you

you could get this thread moved to an unsearchable location if you want to keep it going for support. I will PM you if you need details. Big hugs X

Pull the thread, name change an go to the other place if you feel you need support, people will be here for you if you need it

Yes please hellonheels

Oh love >>>>>hugs

My best wishes go with you op

Oh my goodness. Did he assault you in front of his family? Have the thread moved to the other place so you can come back for help xx

Oh no I can't PM from this device. Please could Thecatthatsmiled or someone PM the OP about where to post more safely?

So sorry it's ended this way. Sending big hugs your way.

Oh ffs.

So sorry. Wishing you all the best. Hope his family are supporting you.

Take care xx

Oh my goodness , sending you and dds hugs.

Sounds fucking awful. What a loser.

Oh dear. Sorry you are having such a bad time. Yes, do keep posting one way or the other. With hideous situations like yours support gives such strength. Sounds like he has a lot of problems, presuming that this is not one-off behaviour. Hopefully this will enable you to become a lot further away from all his problems. Sending you strength.

Have pm madcatlady. Just hoping I have told her right

LTB.

It was the beginning of the end when my ex-dp went out Friday night and didn't roll in until Sunday. I trusted him implicitly and I found out he was at his mum's but that he cared so little not to let me know where he was, did it for me

Good luck.

Pm-ed you Mad (probably twice as have fat fingers)

Ooh, I x posted with your update.

Hope you are all okay. He sounds a piece of work!

Are you and DDs OK?

Yes- are u safe?? Are the family still with you? Are u hurt? X

Hope you are all OK.

It may be worth contacting women's aid for advice.

Where were his family at the time? Good lord. Hope you are OK.