Whatnext074 is now handfulofcottonbuds - thread continued

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Both my previous threads have reached their maximum postings so I have decided to NC from Whatnext074 to handfulofcottonbuds - thank you to walkacrossthesand for suggesting it as it makes me smile.

My previous thread is here www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1902849-Whatnext074-thread-continued still don't know how to convert links

I have had amazing support and advice from MNers since my H left me for OW - over 3 months on and I still can't believe this has happened.

Thank you to all those lurkers and de-lurkers who have contacted me to say that they have found the advice given on my threads really helpful to them too which is mainly why I am continuing my thread.

I have felt so many emotions, been distraught, desperate, strong, indifferent, weak, scared, independent and sad. What has helped is knowing I'm not alone and knowing there is always someone on MN who offers a hand and I will always be grateful for that.

I have a challenging few months ahead, mediation in January and divorce shortly after and moving out of my home. I am scared right now about my future, for 11 years, I knew my future would be with my H and we could handle anything but now I have to find who I am and create my own future.

Thank you for all your support - I cannot tell you how much it helps xxx

Oh no! Now my DS has called, his friend is going out and he needs to come home. I can't have both of them seeing each other.

Oh - he smells as well.....

Don't refuse your son to come home...if he needs to pop on then your stbxh will have to be man enough to deal with it. He's on your home remember.

Yuck to the smell.... Urgh

Ask him to leave for a bit? I'm imagining it's the last thing he wants too. If he's crying now, he'll be wailing if he sees your son and is again facing the consequences of his twuntish behaviour.
You call shots. Your house your rules x

Ps hold your nose while you say it

mrscraig

My DS is coming home.

Well done x you're doing brilliantly

Okay, he's home and has gone to bed (late night) I told my FWH to go in the garden.

...sorry, you probably don't all need a blow by blow account

(Deluding)- have followed from beginning and think you are amazing!

As long as it's not a sniff by sniff account - yuk, you're so well rid...

Sorry, delurking

Thank you moggle x

You know, there's no need to be rude to me in my own home, I've done nothing wrong! The only thing I can think is that he's promised OW that he won't even talk to me. I don't want a chat at all but when I ask him something, I don't expect to be answered rudely.

He was struggling with the door and I asked if I could help and he said, "no, you can't help"!

moggle - I've had 8 months of typos from mamma

He's behaving like a petulant child. Silly prick. You are worth so so much more. Keep being terribly polite. He's embarrassing himself. You're incredible x

I expect he's being rude because he can't allow himself to be nice to you. If he was to be nice to you he might have to acknowledge to himself he's list a good woman.

Nowt wrong with a typo

You're doing brilliantly xx

Oh ffs....lost not list!!!!!!!!!

Isn't this a more extreme version of when he was last in your house? Then, he , miraculously got it together for the lawyers/mediation.

You are doing brilliantly, don't let him worm his way into your head with his dramatic/self pitying behaviour.

He's just crying the whole time!

I know this is hard cotton but ignore, ignore, ignore. He is doing it to get a rise out of you, sick little bunny that he is. You have seen what a great actor he is in the past. Show him, by ignoring him, that you really do not care.

PS you need to think about a new thread very soon so we can still come here and call your FWB all the names under the sun and hold your hand

I think there may be problems in his 'relationship' - he's alluded to it but then stops himself. Of course, that could all be an act and I've said that to him then he cries even more and says that he never thought he'd be responsible for causing so much pain for such a stupid mistake.

I said that it's not a mistake as far as he's concerned because he's living with OW and they are making a go of it. He cried even more and said he doesn't know what he's doing.

I said she must be expecting him home soon but he said he has no time when he needs to be home. I'm not fishing, I'm trying to be the better person. He just cries! I told him he's messed up - he agreed.

Oh gosh - am I almost at 1000!

Your heart is too big cotton. So what if his relationship goes tits up? He has made his bed!

I must admit that evil me would be doing an unbridled dance of joy to celebrate the fact that the wanker had thrown his life away led by his dick and the thought that the grass is greener elsewhere.

I told him I don't hate him and was intending to follow it up with because he's nothing to me but as he was crying so much, I couldn't say it.

I did however say that OW is nothing to me but he and she cannot detach her from this and she must take responsibility for her part and I cannot make a decision on a settlement without all the facts about their income. They're going to get such a shock next week.

He said my solicitor letters really upset him as they are full of anger. I said they are just firm and I have an excellent solicitor. He said that he gets really anxious and it's his solicitor telling him to ask for money from me. I said that's rubbish - he employs her and he tells her what to write just like I tell mine.

MN is missing a "like" or "thumbs up" button cotton. Your last paragraph, well said, well said indeed!

I haven't got a clue what time he's going! He's started on another job now. It's all very bizarre and my legs are freezing in my dress - I just want to put my loungers and slippers on and take my flipping make up off!!