Bizarre situation with neighbour and DH - is this inappropriate or am I being silly?

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Hello,

I had to name change for this one, as I feel like a complete prat asking for help with a sweet old lady. I need a bit of perspective so if you think I'm being ridiculous, feel free to say so and I won't take it personally.

Here's the story. I got married quite recently (I'm 27, DH is 34). We moved into our flat several months ago. There is an older lady (I think in her 60s, though I'm not sure) who lives alone down the hall and I think she has a bit of a crush on DH. That would be completely fine with me, but it's getting a bit too much. Initially she just went out of her way to chat with him every time he was around. Now, though, she has moved on to asking him for help with things in her flat. Sometimes she'll say that she's feeling unwell, other times she desperately needs help getting something fixed. It started to get a bit irritating after a while, but I still didn't mind until she started knocking on our door later and later in the evenings.

She completely ignores me. She's been to my flat multiple times now and knows who I am, but goes out of her way not to say hello to me when we see each other. This week DH was away on a business trip and I was alone. She came by the other day, claiming to be feeling ill and faint and asked if DH was around. I told her that he wasn't but offered to help her myself. She declined and said that she would be fine. I actually insisted (if she was really ill, I didn't want that on my conscience) but she refused my help and left.

Well, he came back tonight and so did she. Knocked on the door about 30 mins ago, claiming to be ill and he went to her flat and is still with her now.

I started getting annoyed so I complained about her behaviour to a friend who I was chatting with online. The friend said that the situation could be much worse than a simple annoyance. She said that the neighbour could cause a lot of trouble, accuse him of assault, or anything she felt like if things turned sour.

I think this is taking things a bit too far but it scared me a little too. Is my friend being completely paranoid or do I have something to worry about?

Yes, I think she got some sort of message from you going round. But she may just be plotting her next move!

Love the mn button idea. Would be great for all sorts of situations.

I envisage a klaxon motif on the side bar or on the app itself.
An alarm would sound like in Ghostbusters and one of MNHQ boffins would shout 'we got one' just like Janine out if Ghostbusters .
Then,like a snow line at school MNetter at the start of the list would be called and if available be given a quick précis on what the situation is and react with the appropriate look and personal message to the fucker who is messing with 'one of our own'.
I also think there should be a Gibbs head slap emo but there you go.

Loving a Gibbs head slap !

oh god... maybe she is on MN???

Op where is your neighbour? Hope she didn't kidnapp your dh :) :)

God it pisses me off when people call people in their 60s OLD

I can relate to you, my father died in September and I went in to get the house redecorated. His neighbour kept coming through saying she heard a hissing sound and blamed the Solar Panels. Every time I was there she came through. She would ask if I was the person moving in and I had to tell her again and again, no. She got the decorator in to hear the noise, I went in, my friend went through and the final straw came when she got the friend who was staying in the house for 7 weeks to come through. The house was silent. She was phoning the police, the fire brigade, (don't ask) and the hospital for my brothers phone number. She then phoned me and I lost it with her and told her it was harassment and that I was so angry that she had involved the tenant as it was nothing to do with him. She wanted him to take a day off work because the electric people were coming to check the meter which I already got changed. Never mind that they would have to cancel a fully booked theatre performance if he took a day off. I'm sure she has mental health problems but she has just had her driving licence renewed and needed her doctors approval. She visits him most days so he knows what she is liked. I have heard nothing for two weeks, fingers crossed.

60 is definitely not old.