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The dating thread 65

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Queenofthedrivensnow · 03/11/2013 22:09

Grin
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ladygoingGaga · 05/11/2013 22:38

No I've not seen that, is it a film or book?

Thing is up until today he has been incredibly attentive, then nothing. I hate all this bullshit, and don't do games.

He can fuck the fuck off

FolkGirl · 05/11/2013 22:39

I think that's the thing lady. I don't do games either and it doesn't matter how nice they are, or attentive they've been, if they've started playing games, then they're out.

Hormonalhell · 05/11/2013 22:42

Aw lady it's horrible isn't it? Hmm Feel for you but I wouldn't give him any more satisfaction.

I have the just not into you book. Speaks a lot of sense.

ladygoingGaga · 05/11/2013 22:46

After 6/7 dates I was just starting to think we had potential, bugger.

Only this weekend though he was talking about taking me away for a night next week, I just don't get it Confused

Hormonalhell · 05/11/2013 22:49

I would have too Lady, I do after date 3! You've known him awhile and so it's really unfair but maybe something has happened? You just never know

Queenofthedrivensnow · 05/11/2013 22:54

Folk girl looking at it that way gap yeh stock is up Grin I think I might have upset him because I didn't gush excessively over the story but he will turn up tomorrow. I think he tries to not look too keen.

Lady well done but it's crap starting again isn't it Hmm

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ladygoingGaga · 05/11/2013 22:57

Okay, so he just text saying he has just got home, phone had run out of juice.

Yet I know he read the message at 7pm.

I don't like it, perhaps I have to much emotional baggage and a deep mistrust

Poffedoff · 05/11/2013 23:06

Gaga I'd bet the fizzy stomach has started too? It is just bloody ridiculous the way these guys get us to a comfortable place, get us to open up a bit and then let us down so badly..

Of course there could be a perfectly good reason for it but if he's been online and read your texts then what could possibly be a good enough excuse?
Pof guy finally texted tonight... Bright and breezy text about how much reading he got done today... I did reply, told him gosh that must be some interesting book you're reading!

Really, really don't text him again... It's just plain rude of him not to reply.. sorry though Hmm
Fuckin hate mind games too.

Poffedoff · 05/11/2013 23:09

Broken.. You texted the last guy?? What did you/he say?

Poffedoff · 05/11/2013 23:25

Gaga, I'm glad he texted... I think you and I are probably similar in the sense that we don't fall too easily and when we do we're mistrusting and suspicious almost immediately...
Having said that a lot of the ladies on here seem to agree we've been treated poorly so maybe it's time to start thinking of ourselves as the prizes we are!
It was supermarket guys first slip up... His phone could have died straight after he read your message.. Goodness knows but I wouldn't right him off straight away... See how tomorrow is texting wise.. You'll soon know.

Poffedoff · 05/11/2013 23:26

Putting out another call for a male perspective on this... Where are you guys??

PaulineWhatsername · 05/11/2013 23:35

I want someone who can't stop thinking about me, who wants to say/do nice things, who cares about me.

That's what I want too.

Not much to ask, is it? Hmm

ordinarybloke · 06/11/2013 06:32

Poff-what was the question again?haven't had my first cup of coffee yet...

ladygoingGaga · 06/11/2013 06:38

Ordinary - it was in relation to not hearing from supermarket man all day, after a couple of texts were sent from me, no reply.

After previously being very attentive

Then late text saying his phone had run out of juice, even though he was online reading them at 7pm...

ordinarybloke · 06/11/2013 06:58

It has only happened the one day,so I would let it go.If it reoccurs,then mention it to him. Off for coffee now.

ladygoingGaga · 06/11/2013 07:06

Thanks, one chance will be givenGrin but anymore disappearing or ignoring will not be forgiven

ordinarybloke · 06/11/2013 07:31

if it happens again,talk to him about it.

dontcallmehon · 06/11/2013 07:41

I agree gaga, give him a chance if it's just a one off.

Stupidhead · 06/11/2013 07:47

We have a customer toilet at work,it was quiet last night, me, workmate and a customer. Workmate was busy telling me how this one customer literally shits up the wall (sorry if you're having breakfast!), it was an absolutely ewwww story. So guess what happened? The customer asked me out!!!! Bleurgh bleurgh!! Yak yak!! I'm a lucky lucky girl :(

dontcallmehon · 06/11/2013 07:56

Ew- stupidhead- bet that made you feel a bit queasy!

Stupidhead · 06/11/2013 08:05

All I could think of was whether this guy could possibly think he was in my league :-0

Meanwhile workmate was busy texting our other colleagues to let them know, lucky I'm off today!

OneDayWhenIGrowUp · 06/11/2013 08:10

Ooh you are all so harsh! I would quite often read a text during the day then not reply straight away and then get busy/forget until I finished work (after 7)!! Wouldn't mean I didn't like the guy!! Just that I have other things to do than think of witty replies to non-urgent texts. But then you already sent 2 howyadoin texts without a reply.....unless they were important (needed to know some info etc) I would probably not do that, at least not in the same day. Stay strong! lol. I completely get the no-bullshit radar that we put up; I just also try really, really hard to not turn ''psycho'' as my guy mates would put it. Not always successfully I will cheerfully admit. We all do it.

Didn't get up the nerve to reply to Dimples last night. I will do it today once I've sorted the wording out. I genuinely think he is a really great guy and had fun on our dates, just don't think he's the one, no spark. I ran my draft past my male friend; he just said yeah yeah, girls say that stuff all the time.....I do mean in it though, he'll be a catch for someone! My friend also said don't overthink things it's only been 3 days I'm not going to be breaking his heart. Do feel mean though.

Housemate guy got some bad news yesterday that a family member has been taken to hospital; he may go up to see them at the weekend and so have to cancel friday. Bummer.

brokenhearted55a · 06/11/2013 08:10

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superdooperpenguin · 06/11/2013 09:07

Good morning all!

Sorry I've not been around lately, just been swamped with work and haven't had much time to dedicate to dating. I've been seeing the detective for around 6 weeks now, his working hours are pissing me right off though - he cancelled on me 4 times in a row last week! Feels like I'm wasting my time on this one, I almost ended it at the weekend but he convinced me to give him another chance...

I think I'm settling for him as I just don't have the energy to go out there and meet anyone else at the moment. OD is exhausting, constantly meeting new people and putting in all that effort only for it all to go wrong a few dates in!

Hormonalhell · 06/11/2013 09:16

Yes I know that feeling sooper dooper, I've not got pays a month seeing someone since I split with my hubby two years ago and that includes the father of my baby Confused