The dating thread 65

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Eee that's great, dont!

Hi sidge! I'm new to this od lark, too :)

Sorry about ultrafox, bant

How incredibly depressing that so many could be married :(

That is depressing that so many are married, do you think that includes men who are technically still married but separated? My smallfeet chap is still married but separated.... (I hope!)

Would be very surprised if he is still married married but am def not rushing things or getting carried away so will have to see. Infact not sure when going to manage date 4 as babysitters are a slight problem (dd has no contact with her dad) and I don't like to keep asking my mum all the time. It feels too soon to invite him round here.

dontcallmehon it sounds like lurrrve and I am Has he met your kids yet?

He's not met the kids yet. And he's not texted today - so feel all paranoid!

Well, last night we got v drunk. We ended up in the place we first met. I was asking him about a girl who'd broken his heart and I got jealous and had a little strop. He said 'well you've been in love before.'

I said 'with one other person.' He realised what I'd actually just said and I tried to deny it. Later in bed, he said 'don't worry, I don't think you're in love with me.'

I think then I admitted he'd been right earlier. I said I thought he felt the same way and he said he did. He said he knew he was falling for me on date 2, but it was too soon and he didn't want us to say it yet. So he said 'I more than like you' and I said 'I more than like you too.'

I don't know you DCMH, I'm new to this thread - but I just cried a little at your last message! I guess I'm a little vulnerable at the moment perhaps.

Just been broken by a POF fella. Seemed so very very lovely. They're the worst ones I guess :(

Losing hope I think.

Oh let'scancel sorry you're feeling a bit rubbish and sorry my message made you cry too. Before I met geeky I met someone who made me :( too.

It's ok, I think my tears were a sort of anticipatory maybe that'll happen for me again one day... I'm thrilled for you :)

I'll pick up and dust off! At least my new habit is banging out frustration at the gym rather than eating rather large quantities of cake as in my former life!

It will. I met geeky on POF - so there are good guys out there. I still think it could all go wrong, but I hope not...

My mum keeps telling me good ones exist. It's just my dating record thus far includes Dr Hot But Too Young, Rapey McGrabby, Mr Sand Sieving Boredom, Footie Fittie (BIG issues), Old Man Pub Man, Big Spoon (works overseas), Footie Fittie Returns..... then this one.

My Country Mouse, seemed so wonderful until he wasn't
Boo to boys!

I went ahhhh when I read that dont

I've been a bit down all week really, with one thing and another including dating going wrong. Then cheered myself up by taking DS ice skating and put the christmas tree up! Yes I know it's ridiculously early, but I had years living with a miserable fucker who wouldn't let me put it up til a few days before so it was a bit of rebellion.

bant from my recent experience I would say quite a few are married, and perhaps either looking for sex or some sort of confidence trip.

Problem is I presume everyone has my ethical standards, sadly I'm being proven wrong, and frankly it's disheartening.

Dont that is so lovely, made me feel warm and glowy inside for you!

Gaga - Same here. I've well and truly had enough of OD for a while, I only seem to attract crappy men who are just after a quickie.

Letscancel - Welcome!

Bant - I am not in the least bit surprised by your married statistic! How depressing.

I think it's time for me to retreat to the sofa. Feeling too disillusioned by it all at the moment and there is literally no one out there that I'm remotely attracted to! I still haven't told guy I dated on Wed eve that I'm not interested - he's too nice and I don't want to upset him. Hoping we can just have a few friendly messages and fizzle out. If he tries to pin me down to a date then I'll have to tell him.

Christmas themed weekend here too! Tree going up and I'm taking DCs ice skating today

Morning! Our reunion is better than ok! He moved his stuff back in while I was at work last Sunday, spent yesterday doing (my) housework and finally hung his guitars up so it feels like 'our' home :) wedding is gonna be booked for next year... ;)

Don't!! Omg! I have a happy face for you!! And to those disillusioned, you will find your lobster x

stupid I'm so pleased for you, wedding planning will be fab

I'm with you super going to concentrate on me and my DS for a while, planning a nice weekend next week too, pantomime and a kids Xmas party, seeing him all excited will make me happy.

Oh Gaga hope u ok wish I could give you a hug. There really are decent men out there. I've met more decent ones than player types. I have a few male friends too from POF.

Don't everything sounds perfect for you, I'm glad you seem lovely

Well...this might sound like I'm bragging a bit, I'm not honest but now I'm in a situation where I like two guys n they both like me a lot and have talked long term with both

Went to the wedding with...I'll call him odd job man. Met a lot of his friends and it really was a great night, he a lovely, kind, decent guy and I could really see him in my future. I feel like he would look after me and I don't mean financially just care iyswim...

....but on the other hand I fancy mr brown eyes more but he a very cool customer and just doesn't have the same interest or enthusiasm in me but claims he's been badly hurt and takes awhile to trust.

Don't want to keep seeing them bothas neither deserve it. Oh dear

Thanks hormonal

What a predicament for you though.. You are right in that you need to make a decision one way or another, and there is no right or wrong.
It will down to what 'feels' right now, I spend a lot of time thinking and worrying about the future, but am frequently told to just live for today.

Who do you like spending time with most now, who makes your tummy flip now?

How lovely though.

I can honestly say that listening to everyone's stories makes me hopeful and cheers me up, so going to hang around, plus you just never know what's round the corner

This does indeed give me hope too!

MrCountryMouse, my most recent POF, said he needed time and patience as he'd been hurt before... badly... but it really turned out to be backing off to the point of completely ignoring me. I feel so blue today as this was meant to be our weekend in the countryside - lovely B&B, long walks...

I miss his hand holding walks. I don't know why he freaked out after our first weekend away. But I'm ever so blue today

But a little hopeful too thanks to you ladies!

Ooh Hormonal, dilemma time. You do sound more into mr odd job man though. I'm not sure I could be doing with the whole ''I've been hurt before, takes me a while to trust'' thing....smacks of emotional unavailability. And I say that as someone who has definitely been hurt and definitely takes a while to trust.....but somehow when something feels right, it doesn't get in the way. But more importantly than how you think they feel about you.....you do you feel about them?? Does mr odd job man make your tummy go wibbly??

don'tcall, I'm with the awwwww brigade. I know that feeling.....one ex and I used to say ''I very like you'' .

I am missing housemate guy this weekend, he is away, and it's a bit sucky that we're not going to see each other much over December due to both being away at different times. It's kinda nice to miss someone though. I am really surprising myself at how well it's going with him.....it's all just really lovely. Stupid life getting in the way!!!

Jarlin don't give up on it, it's taken my almost 2 years of dating to find a nice guy. There are some diamonds for sure!

Oneday yes I bet that's tough just when things are hotting up between you too ah well I'm sure you'll make up for it when u do meet up

I think I prefer mr oddjobman, he doesn't make my tummy flip but it's a lovely, warm excited for the future feeling we've not DTD yet so that might spark the fire going

Hi everyone

don't - lucky, lucky girl
oneday - hard now but once you do meet it's going to be very, very nice …. the anticipation is that best part (well not really haha but you know what i mean ;-)

Re married men, I haven't come across any yet to my knowledge, but I always ignore any with wedding rings in their pictures and those with fuzzy pictures anyway…

Niceguy hasn't messaged and he hasn't been online since Friday afternoon…. a bit strange as he's usually online throughout the day up until then ….. maybe an ex back in the picture?

I also have a dilemma ……. an incredibly hot guy (who's my own age and not 18 and a half as they usually are…) I have been talking to has suggested a fling; his profile makes it very clear sex is all he's looking for after recently separating. I'm very very tempted as going through a dry spell and he's very attractive ….. any advice? Do you just meet in this situations and hook up straight away or is it reasonable to expect to have a couple of dates first? Not sure I could do the sleep together on the first date thing…… and how to make sure it's safe? I.e. you would be letting a virtual stranger in your home (or even worse going to his…..)

Aknowinggrin do you feel that you a really up for a just-sex-no-strings-attached deal? Great if you are, but if you don't feel comfortable until you've been on more than one date first it does sound like you want more than that, and that's a great way to get hurt, when one person really just wants sex and the other wants sex and some kind of emotional attachment. As for making sure it's safe.....meet in a public place, few drinks to suss him out, and then nearby hotel . Just look after yourself first, and make sure it is what you want.

So I've had a lovely day to myself, got lots of things done, Christmas-ified my flat and spoiled myself a little, during my tidying up this morning I found a tshirt belonging to housemate guy.....is it too sad if I wear it to bed???

knowing - how sure are you that hot bloke isn't married? Some separated/divorced men will use photos of themselves with a wedding ring, some married men will take the ring off or just not wear it at all, or not use those pictures.

Oneday I think that's sweet

Thank you Bant and oneday ....lots to think about

oneday yes of course you have to wear it to bed!! ;-)

If it is what you want knowing crack on, just be careful
I would suggest telling one close friend your plans so they know where you are, just in case.

oneday def wear it to bed!