The dating thread 65

[Queenofthedrivensnow]

Poffed that sucks. Think folk has the right idea with the list. I wrote one out at the start of dating. No idea where it is now, but needless to say I didn't adhere to it. Must rewrite and try and stick to it, instead of being distracted by the good lookers.

Was supposed to have a date tonight. Arranged last Wednesday and radio silence since. Got a text at 6:30 (date was 8) saying he'll see me there. Had made other plans when I hadn't heard and said that. Not impressed, don't think we'll be rescheduling!

powpow that's rubbish, his lost though

folk one of my criteria is someone who will love me for who I am and not try to change me
Good luck for Wednesday, I always go for older men

poff never ever ever go back... Golden rule number 1. It ended for a reason, it's history, learn from it and move on.

dont sounds promising

I've not heard from supermarket guy today, which is unusual, I know I need to relax but can't help compare him to EA ex and the games he played

Powpow, yes it sucks big time

I just can't believe the nerve of that guy you're supposed to meet tonight! What was his reaction when you told him you'd other plans?

Gaga I'm feelin your pain... I know it's hard not to think the worst but I'm sure it's nothing sinister..

Broken nice to see you again how are you feeling?

Poffed he text back with 'Ha Later'. I don't have other plans by the way. I will throw myself on the couch and read a book.

Just realised I contradicted myself in my posts. Meant to say I said to him I made other plans. Not that I had made other plans. Sometimes I think I'm losing my mental faculties. Too much pof I'd say.

Ok right my update.

3rd date with Dimples last night. I don't know what it is. He is a lovely guy, he's good looking, interesting conversation, really polite, we have some shared hobbies, I have fun on the dates....but last night I just didn't feel that spark. And I was really looking for it. In fact I realised that he looks a bit like my brother and that freaked me out. I think even if housemate guy was't on the scene, I'd be seriously doubting the whole thing, although I do feel like I haven't really given him a fair enough chance.... my mind was definitely elsewhere. Of course now I've decided that, he's got all keen, and immediately texting asking to meet again later in the week (despite me at the end of the date giving him the briefest of kisses, and when he said he'd call me, I said I'd text in a few days as I was really busy....) argh. I have to say thanks but no thanks now don't I.

Meanwhile, seeing housemate guy on Friday. Despite the worries about sex and religion......only little things lol......I think I really quite like him.....kinda wanted to call tonight just to chat. I didn't though.

Will read rest of thread now :-)

Folk I so agree with your criteria you put it so well

Gap yah has sent me a short story

oneday at least you know now but you're right, you have to tell dimples, and sooner rather than later.
I am a complete wimp on that to front too, in fact last time I gave my phone to my best mate to text a lovely guy that I just wasn't feeling it... Couldn't bring myself to do it

queen short story did you reply?

Thanks poff doesn't help when I know he has been online several times and read my text on whatsapp but not responded when he has been very quick to reply for six weeks

Thanks, Queen.

Is it really sad and tragic that I feel like I've found a new home here!

I'm going to add

• someone who accepts me for who I am (geeky hobbies and quirky friends included)

• someone emotionally intelligent (because even if it's only a casual thing, I want it to be good)

Yeh I did. I read it. It was ummmm ok. Then I read more stuff he had posted on the same site. Why do all the men I meet purport to want to date women with dark hair and big boobs?

Are you saying we're sad and tragic Folkgirl?

No, no, not at all!

I knew what you meant

You lot have been more support than any RL friends, who are all married or coupled up, not sure they remember what it's like.

So quick straw poll.. I text supermarket man this morning wishing him a good day, and this afternoon asking how his day was. Heard bugger all back, know he has read my messages.

Do I send another tonight

Lady - no!!! Unless he texts you tonight saying omg sorry I was sooo busy. And even then

Lady put down the phone. Don't text again.

No, I wouldn't text again.

Lady you are the prize - if he turns up in a couple of days it means he put you on the back burner and that's bs! Stamp and reject

Noooo. Don't text him at all until he gets back to you, and then only if he has a very good reason for not getting back to you sooner. Actually, there isn't one.

I needed to be told, thank you

It's hard isn't it? Have you seen He's Just Not That Into You? It speaks the truth. When I was dating, I fucking HATED those games... You need a thick skin, that's for sure.

Also, lady, if this waiting about is making you feel squirmy and uncomfortable - there's another reason to bin him off!

I'm developing a good nose for games and adopt a zero tolerance approach to it.

I've cut contact with two men who seemed a bit surprised but if I've spent an evening waiting for a text/email/call that I was promised but didn't arrive, then they're just not interested enough.

I want someone who can't stop thinking about me, who wants to say/do nice things, who cares about me. Not someone who's happy to 'fall asleep on the sofa' or lose track of time on a night out. Not at the very start.