Please give me some advice re: a 'friend' has been caught looking at child porn.

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My 'friend' has been my best friend for 28 years, I have trusted him with my children. I was a single parent since my dd was 3 and I was pregnant with my ds, there father had nothing to do with them so I actively encouraged the friendship between him and my kids, I have no real father figure and they needed a father figure in their lives.

A few weeks ago he came round and admitted to being caught looking at child porn, he says it was only the once and he only looked out of a morbid sense of curiosity. I was so shocked I didn't know what to do or say. I have had nothing to do with him since. I have spoken to my children (now adults) and they were shocked too, there is no way (from their reaction) that he has abused either of them.

This morning I have recieved a txt msg, I have an awful feeling he is going to do something stupid, I think he is going to top himself. What do I do? I can't forgive what he has done but he has been my best friend for 28 years, I can't just let him top himself.

Kittylette, you should have read last posts first

Kittylette, I think you should have read the whole thread first.

sorry but why on earth would anyone read 'the last posts first' ??

i just replied to the OP,

Because the thread has moved on a lot since it was started in June 2006 is why

ive just read throught the last few posts sorry

it was just the OP i read, and this is a very long thread

i apologise, my post was relevent to the OP, but awful in relation to the turn half way through,

i dont have the time to read through ALL posts in a thread, especially when they are this long

i just read the OP, i didnt check the date, i dint know it was started a year ago

No need to appologise kittylette, it is a rather long thread, thanks for posting to the OP though.

Cod I'm sorry I reacted to your comment that way, out of context of knowing you are a magistrate which I was not aware of it sounded not the way you intended it too, and just posting had made me upset already.

I am in Scotland anyway, so it is different here slightly, we told to proceed they are waiting on background medical reports on my brother.

Really I am sorry about what I wrote to you cod, I see now in context your intent was different than the way i interpreted it.

And Op I hope you find out more so you can put your mind at rest. You can never tell with these people - I though my brother had a really beautiful sensitive heart and that he was really caring, to read that he belives all adults are sexually attracted to children was so awful. My paretns brought him up to be decnet and kind they do not deserve how it going to affect their lives, but will not abandon him (well my mum won't so dad plays along) Even though I was abused as a child and went thourgh terrible times dealing with it, where my mom slapped me and called me a slag for it happeneing to me at age 13-14 and would not use the same cutlery as me in case i 'Had aids' she even said last night we stood by you and we will stand by him, you can why I am a bit carzy and over reacted last nigth. Op I also can't sleep well it has brought back my flashbacks and is such a betrayal, but hopefully justice will prevail adn after my parents move house after any case is concluded, I hope they can rebuild their lives. Op be strong at least your daughter has you to help her and be kind to her through these worries.

StressedKarina, you are very brave posting (you are a true survivor, and as such you will come out of this stronger I am sure).

I can understand why you were so upset, what an awful thing to have happened to you. I can't understand your mother's reaction, I am so, so sorry, and I hope that justice will prevail for you and your family can find some peace and rebuild your lives somehow.

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