DP attacked me, think I have consussion.

[MrsRajeshKoothrappali]

He's downstairs playing GTA, refused to drive me to A&E.

Feeling really sick. Head is thumping and am really dizzy. Can't stop crying.

He grabbed the hair at the roots on the top of my head and shook really hard.

I want to go to sleep but am scared I'll die.

:(

What do I do? Should I just beg him to help me?

[Xales]

You cannot stay with a man who assaulted you so violently he gave you concussion and then sat playing a video game refusing to take you to hospital.

He is only sorry because it is now on record. Hopefully it is because you told the truth.

No wonder you had a breakdown last year with a partner like this.

Get a way and get a new life.

[QuintessentialShadows]

You did not tell the hospital what really happened. That is why he is still there, and not been arrested. Am I right in thinking you are covering for him?

[Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme]

How are you MrsRK?

All these posters have got your best interests at heart. You've probably read enough threads on here to know that the advice is usually fairly sound in these cases. A lot of these women speak from personal experience, unfortunately. You know it won't end well. You have to do whatever you want to do but you know you'll never be able to trust this man to have your best interest at heart anymore.

All the women that leave their partners say how horrible it is to start with. No-one ever comes back on here to say that they regretted it. Please remember that.

I hope you're ok. You've had an awful day and you probably need time to think about things. But please realise that things won't be the same again. They can't be. Do you want to live like that, with him, for the rest of your life?

Please look after yourself. And please talk to us. If you don't want to leave that's up to you, but we'll always be here.

[LeGavrOrf]

I am sure your husband will be really, really nice for a while. And that fucks with your head and you start to think that what he did wasn't really that bad, perhaps you provoked him.

It is very, very difficult to not go down that road. It's a lot easier not to have to face up to the awful fact that you are in an abusive relationship.

There are loads of brilliant women on here who can help. I know that we are only a bunch of words on a screen and it's not the same as real life mates. You say that your friends have drifted off because you have been mentally ill recently. Is there anyone in RL who can help. Or let us know roughly where you live, and I am sure there is someone around who can help. I have had a crap time recently and it turned into real life support both in person and on the phone and it has really helped. Don't suffer alone.

[Chubfuddler]

I wonder how much of your "mental illness" is due to walking on eggshells around your husband.

Quite a bit I should imagine.

And I bet consciously or unconsciously you've distanced yourself from people so they won't notice things are bad for you.

There is help out there and there is nothing for you to be ashamed of.

[Lweji]

All the women that leave their partners say how horrible it is to start with. No-one ever comes back on here to say that they regretted it. Please remember that.

This

Not DV victims, definitely.

[TeaMakesItAllPossible]

I think I'm nearby MrsRK and would make the transition from words on a screen to RL support so you aren't alone whatever you decide to do in the short term.

[TeaMakesItAllPossible]

And I did not regret leaving in the short term, medium term or the long term. I only regret the 10 years it took me to get there.

[Onebuddhaisnotenough]

Be braver than me OP. I didn't leave the first time or the second time or the time after that. You MUST go. You deserve so much better than this. There are many, many women on here who have lived through this and who are in a much better place now. Let us help you to escape this life

[Secretswitch]

Honey, this man seriously injured you. He might have killed you. He cares not a whit about you. He is very afraid for himself. Head injuries can leave you disoriented and ill for a very long time. I know this, as I have been recovering from a " moderate" concussion for two months. You need rest, care and most of all safety.
I am thinking about you.

[MimsyBorogroves]

Am thinking of you tonight, MrsR.

Let us know how you're doing.

[Lweji]

Well, I certainly only regretted the chances I gave exH, and not leaving earlier.

[Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme]

Let us know how you're doing MrsRK. Start another thread if you don't want to reread all this.

[quirrelquarrel]

I notice your bright and funny posts all the time, Mrs RK, am shocked this is happening to you. So sorry this has happened.

Keep us updated, you can see how many people care on here.

No good advice only that I hope you enjoy the Dominos

[Ruprekt]

Goodness!

Shocked to read this.

Did the hospital ask you what happened? What did you tell them?

[BewitchedBotheredandBewildered]

I recognise you too mrsRK please take up one or more of the offers of RL help from posters here - they mean it - they care about you.
We all do, I'd be there if I was close by.

[MrsRajeshKoothrappali]

Thanks guys.

I'm okay. Feeling better and I'm with my animals and a hot water bottle.

:)

No idea what I'm going to do. Too tired to think about it at the moment.

DP is working long hours for the next week so our paths won't really cross.

Really appreciate everyone's support.

[northernlurker]

What effect will working long hours have on his temper?

Look Op I've been married for 16 years this month to a man with a fiery temper. I'm not exactly a pushover myself. Nobody has ever got concussion. You don't have to have him in the house. Call the police.

[Lweji]

Glad you are ok.

Just remember that when if when you decide to leave, it's the most dangerous time. Just do it, or have someone else with you.

If he is mostly away next week, that will be the best time to put an exit plan in practice.

You do need to leave. Perhaps not today or tomorrow, but it will happen again and again if you don't. You know it.

Gather as much help as you can get. WA, police, solicitor, family, even the friends you think you don't have anymore. The offers of help from here, and the board itself, of course.

Take care.

[AnyFucker]

Has he hurt you before, op ?

[cumfy]

Hope you're OK this morning.

Time to reflect now he's out.

Don't let yourself feel trapped.

How would you be responding if this was another poster ?

[VeeAndTea]

I agree with lweji, the fact that he will be away from you is the perfect time, but I do understand how hard it must be.

Has he hit you before, lovey?

[MrsRajeshKoothrappali]

I'm okay this morning.

Bit tired. Couldn't really sleep last night.

Period started too so I have some nice tummy cramps to deal with.

Too mentally drained to really talk/think about it all.

Am spending the day under a blanket eating biscuits and chatting on MN about casual stuff. Just want to rest and chill out. I'll be able to think straight then.

:)

[Chubfuddler]

I completely understand where you are mentally because I've been there.

You know what you need to do. You just need to make yourself do it. It might take you an hour or it might take ten years but eventually you will do it, because you have to.

One life. That's all there is. Don't live it like this.

[LadyClariceCannockMonty]

So pleased to see you back on the thread, MrsR. Please look after yourself.