DP attacked me, think I have consussion.

[MrsRajeshKoothrappali]

He's downstairs playing GTA, refused to drive me to A&E.

Feeling really sick. Head is thumping and am really dizzy. Can't stop crying.

He grabbed the hair at the roots on the top of my head and shook really hard.

I want to go to sleep but am scared I'll die.

:(

What do I do? Should I just beg him to help me?

[MrsPeeWee]

Please don't go home to him. Tell the doctors what happened, tell them you can't go home. I hope you're OK. MN Hug

[MrsRajeshKoothrappali]

I'm hope. DP's upstairs. He's gutted. Proper gutted. I'm not in danger but we're staying out of each other's way.

He lost his temper. That's why he flipped. Don't know what's going to happen. Just going to get through the day.

Thank you so much for all of the support and stuff.
Means a lot to me!

Have concussion. Resting on sofa with my cat. Might phone for a Dominos.

[Pawprint]

I would call an ambulance, tbh. Head injuries can be serious. Bastard man

[nicename]

Losing your temper is no excuse. It must have been bloody hard yank to give you concussion - I had it once and it was such a hard crash that I was bleeding all over the place and really thought my skull was cracked.

What do you want? To leave/him leave/him get help/attend Relate together...?

[Lweji]

He lost his temper. That's why he flipped.

And you'll be at the mercy of his next loss of temper.

Except that now (more than usual?) you'll be walking on egg shells.
You'll be afraid of the next confrontation.
He'll know you won't call the police.

Have you told him at least what will happen should he lose his temper of flip next time?

[Lweji]

attend Relate together

Sorry, but bad idea.

[captainmummy]

He's gutted ??? Is that why he didn't phone an ambulance or take you to A&E? Cos he was so gutted?

He's gutted he might get arrested, is what he is. And he should be.

[Vivacia]

I would call an ambulance, tbh.

Why?

[Vivacia]

You are minimising.

This. He needs to leave the house.

[RollerCola]

Op I'm worried about you. You're living with a man who has shaken you so hard that he's given you concussion. He could have actually killed you.

Has he been violent to you before? Do you have any children? You CAN leave him you know. Whatever your circumstances it can be done. We'll help you do it. Can you tell us any more?

[CinnamonAddict]

You know you have to leave him, don't you?

Don't try and figure out why he did it. He was physically violent and then refused to get medical help.

He's only gutted until he loses his temper again. What will he do to you next time?

[JustBecauseICan]

Oh dear.

I really hope you are going to listen to all the advice you are going to get on this MrsR and you being a "loved and well known" MNer isn't going to colour things.

Gutted? He shouldn't be sitting downstairs gutted. He should be giving a fucking statement to the plod. And then packing.

[JenaiMorris]

Bloody hell, MrsR.

Have you reported him? How were they at the hospital? I'd offer practical support but realistically, I'm not in a position to do much timewise. Do keep me in mind though - If I can help then I will - feel free to PM. Don't be afraid to ask - I'm very good at saying "no" if something is going to be too difficult so don't worry about imposing (iykwim).

[CinnamonAddict]

And by leaving him I mean he has to go.

[JustBecauseICan]

Gutted and feeling sorry for himself is a standard reaction I believe from violent fuckwits. Turns into all onto you, y'see.

Has he said yet that you pushed him to it? He will.

I'm going to stfu now for a bit and let you get some rest. x

[piratecat]

hiya, I'm in the West country, if you want any help, but it's a big area.

[topicsactiveimon]

Sending lots of strength, MrsRK. But you need to file a police report. I'm so sorry this has happened, but it will get worse and worse. And you need to have this on record. Anyone can have a breakdown if being abused in their own home. Please take the very best care of yourself.

[LadyClariceCannockMonty]

What did the hospital say, MrsR? Surely you shouldn't be alone overnight if you have concussion? (I'm saying alone because I'm discounting the twat who asaulted you).

[OneStepCloser]

My dear, life does not need be this way, you do not need to be with someone who you fear or you have to walk on eggshells with. You deserve better. Please remember this and have the courage to walk away, this will happen again. You can do this {hugs}

[MummyPig24]

Mrs RK how are you feeling now? I can't believe your husband has treated you this way. Did you tell the hospital what happened? Please don't stay with him.

[BarbarianMum]

He's not gutted he's worried. Worried that you're not going to put up with this.

You can lose your temper without assaulting someone.

I'm worried you are going to put up with this, and that he'll have to hurt you many, many more times til you can't take it any more.

Please OP, if your boss, or the man serving you in a shop, or a man down the pub did this to you you wouldn't just pretend it had never happened. This man is your partner and meant to love and protect you. What's happened is such a huge violation of that.

Please either get yourself out of the house or, if you are strong enough, get the police to remove him. Give yourself a chance to decide what to do next (you sound like you are in shock to me).

[DameFanny]

Oh Mrs RK, I'm so sorry you're going through this.

Who's going to monitor you for the next 24 hours? Did you tell the MIU how you got the concussion?

And what everyone else says - please please please don't minimise this. You've been given a temporary brain injury by someone who's supposed to love you and look after you. Losing his temper will never be any kind of reason let alone an excuse for this.

And next time it could be so much worse.

And you would be very much missed on here...

[nicename]

Please tell your family. People around you need to be aware. It will worry the hell out of them, but they would really rather know.