DP attacked me, think I have consussion.

[MrsRajeshKoothrappali]

He's downstairs playing GTA, refused to drive me to A&E.

Feeling really sick. Head is thumping and am really dizzy. Can't stop crying.

He grabbed the hair at the roots on the top of my head and shook really hard.

I want to go to sleep but am scared I'll die.

:(

What do I do? Should I just beg him to help me?

[MsIngaFewmarbles]

Oh MrsR I'm sorry this has happened to you :(

Please think about your last post, first and foremost you posted about how HE is feeling about it. How are YOU feeling?

[Tiredtrout]

So gutted he continued playing his game, please call women's aid or the police, look after yourself, you will be tearful for a few days from the concussion

[RibenaFiend]

MrsRK what did you tell the staff at the MIU? Did you tell them the truth, did you sugar coat the truth or did you avoid the truth?

I speak as a child from a DV household there my mum had a surprising number of head bumps from accidentally falling over, or bumping heads with me...

[FetchezLaVache]

MrsK, this is the man who sat downstairs playing a violent computer game shortly after assaulting you, who refused to take you to get medical help. He's really not gutted. I sincerely hope you've reported this incident and that you get advice on leaving. I'm in North Yorkshire, if I can help please PM me.

[AnyFucker]

What he did to you would have killed a child, and could have killed you.

He has done similar things before hasn't he, love ?

[NeopreneMermaid]

The first time he hurts you is the last time. Get him out of your house NOW.

[sisterofmercy]

I am wondering if you have any family or social pressures on you that force you to stay? There have been many women in that position over the years and there will be people who know what you are going though when you ask for support.

Call Women's Aid, Mrs RK. They can help you no matter who you are and what you've been through, even if it's just to provide a friendly voice.

[LeaningTowerOfGaffney]

Oh you poor thing. Sending you hugs.

[VeeAndTea]

Jesus, you poor love. There is no excuse for his behaviour, there is no apology big enough. Please call WA.

[LeGavrOrf]

Oh Rajesh. He is not gutted. If he was gutted by his actions he wouldn't have played a bloody playstation whilst you were crying and frightened upstairs wondering what to do.

There is no excuse for what he has done to you. A rip roaring row with shouting and cursing is one thing, grabbing and shaking you like a Jack Russell with a rat is something different entirely. You can't spend your life waking on eggshells around this twat in case he loses his temper again.

I know you're in pain and completely overwhelmed probably, but please when you are better physically don't forget how frightened and alone you were today. You deserve a lot better than this.

[Chubfuddler]

This isn't the first time is it? I'd bet the farm it isn't.

Wiltshire police are brilliant at this sort of thing, as are SS believe it or not (if thsts where you are). They will help you, they will believe you. They will help you get an occupation order.

You're not safe near him.

[ShepherdsPurse]

So Gutted that he let you take a cab to the hospital?? Whilst he played GTA or whatever that is.
If he is still in your house, best of luck for the next time.

[MrsPeeWee]

He wasn't gutted enough to take you to the hospital though? You need to get out of there, or kick him out of the house. If he hasn't done this before, he will certainly do it again. Please don't use "He lost his temper" as a way to excuse his behaviour - that isn't an excuse! Thinking of you.

[AvonCallingBarksdale]

Oh, dear. He may well be gutted now because he's probably panicking that he might get found out. What did you tell them at the hospital? I'm wondering if you might be trying to convince yourself that he's not really that bad? Do you have any family/friend support nearby? Do you have DC? Keep an eye out for any symptoms tonight - concussion can last a while. Hope you come back to the thread.

[EldritchCleavage]

Well, he has expiated his anger by taking it out on you, so it is easy for him to be 'gutted' and kind and whatever. Where do your feelings go, OP?

[Offred]

Agree with everyone else.

He isn't gutted about anything that should matter to you; basically his behaviour in shaking you.

If he is gutted it is that you got a concussion and that means might get found out or thinks he went too far.

Please call women's aid and think about calling the police. They will likely not come straight out because you're not in immediate danger but they should send a specialist dv officer to talk to you at a pre-arranged time.

[Hissy]

Please go to your GP tomorrow. Please tell him/her what happened.

Please call 101 and report it, please call WA to get RL support.

Please tell him he has to go.

[Fenton]

There is no reason or apology on this earth good enough to excuse an act like that.

'Just going to get through today'

what happens tomorrow?

You poor love, this is horrible.

[DorothyBastard]

You need to look after yourself MrsRK, and the best way to do that would be to get away from this abusive man for a start. As others have said, please call WA or the police.

[ImTooHecsyForYourParty]

Are you safe? Remember that this person injured you and then played a bloody computer game instead of getting you assistance.

Please never forget that he did that.

If you need help to get out, it's there for you.

xxx

[LIZS]

He's gutted because he know he has crossed a line and laid himself open to all. He doesn't give a toss about you in all this , it is about him. What if eh gets angry again , next time it could so easily be much, much worse. Please seek RL help asap, there are organisations and professional who can and will assist and protect you.

[ImTooHecsyForYourParty]

sorry, that's really poorly worded. I just mean to say how very callous it was and to not let go of the coldness and callousness of the whole thing. beat you, injure you, refuse to get help for you, play a computer game.

chuck some 'remorse' at you after you have got yourself some help. I wonder if the 'remorse' is more fear about what you might have said while you were at the hospital.

[TeaMakesItAllPossible]

MrsRK I know you said all your friends are far away but it doesn't mean that you aren't supported and you have to stay in this situation.

You really do deserve better. He did not do this because he was angry. Does he do it to others he's angry with?

And to echo everyone else, even if which I sincerely doubt as it usually starts with a push or shove this is the first time I'm really sorry but with no consequences there will be a next.

At the very least you should log it with the police, find out information about your nearest freedom programme and ask him to leave and attend a specialist DV perpetrator course - which are not anger management courses they are for people who are abusive and violent.

[MadBusLady]

Oh MrsRaj You're a lovely funny poster. I can't believe I'm reading this about a regular.

Please call the police. If he can do this to you why not the DC?

[FrigginRexManningDay]

Darling this isn't the first time he's hurt you,I'll bet you are well used to his aggressiveness,in his words,actions and physically. He can sit downstairs and play a violent computer game whilst you are upstairs with a head injury begging to go to A and E. That's a very worrying thing indeed and I am not being overly dramatic when I say that another row could end up with him killing you.

Go. Pack your bags and go. Turn up at the police station if you have to,just get away. Do not protect him.