My marraige is over...

[Lemmingswife]

I know it is for the best, but I am hurting really bad atm & keep thinking of my poor babies.

Oh sweetheart, continue thinking about your poor babies, think of how they will grow as people, think of how you are going to break the abusive cycle they are witnessing.

Stay strong.

Am trying to LGJ, but finding this so v hard.

I know, well I don't really, I can only begin to imagine.

You are wobbling, because you are not used to being allowed to think for yourself.

He came home early from work because he knew it was the end. Had huge talk & has been v hard

Sorry have been at work, have you actually laid it on the line ?

Well, for the last week have been keeping my distance & he knew.
Tonight had MASSIVE talk. He knows we must seperate & I couldn't argue the point. He knows he has messed up & knows I am very unhappy.
Just feel so sad, especially for my boys, who adore their Daddy.

Make sure you stay in the house, just last week he was bullying you by threatening to put a jointly owned home on the market. FFS

I know the boys love their daddy, but you are no use to them dead or in a physciatric unit.

Is this another one of his mind fucks ??

No, it is the end now. He was very teary eyed, but I didn't fall into his arms. It is the end.

He notices that I have become stronger & doesn't like it.

Hi, this must be so hard for you.

Oh lemmingswife

This must be a terribly difficult time, but you are growing stronger and this is a step forward for you and your boys.

I know

I know

Ohps

Have you got family/friends close by?

Have you got family/friends close by?

Double oops....

Her Sister is great and her mother is about as much use as an ejector seat in a helicopter, IIRC

You are your children's example. They will take your lead into their adult lives. What you do, or don't do now will influence their idea of right and wrong. They need to know the difference between what is acceptable and what is not.....

I do know how hard it is to be in your postion.

Yes, but family may not be supportive atm.

Why do you think they wouldnt?

You have to ignore them, they will rally, when they realise you are serious.

Good description LGJ!

Because they adore H & think you should not give up on your marraige where children are involved

They are not married to H, he does not fuck with their heads.