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Just when I thought things couldn't get any worse

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Mosman · 09/05/2013 12:58

"H" has lost his job. I wasn't working because we don't have a visa or permanent residency now.
I'm in Perth the rent is paid until Tuesday, he's getting a week in lue of notice, 4 children and about $700 to my name.
Does anyone know if the embassy or someone will fly us home.
I can't take much more tbh

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CockyFox · 09/05/2013 13:08

I don't know about Australia but my cousin was flown home by the embassy when her partner left her penniless in the US. I am going back a while though and she had to borrow from famiky to pay it back when she got home.

Distrustinggirlnow · 09/05/2013 19:08

I'm sorry to hear this... I've followed your other threads as your situation is similar to mine, apart from these last little gem..

I'm sorry I don't know the answer and hopefully someone who does will be along soon.
Here a Wine or maybe it should be Brew for u

Lavenderhoney · 09/05/2013 19:32

That's awful, for you both. Do you both want to stay and get another job? Can you post on overseas here to see if any Perth mn have any ideas?

Or could your dh get onto agencies ( depends on his job?) and apply anywhere in the world? The middle east is hiring. He could go straight there and you follow in aug/ sept from the uk for schools.

If you want to stay, I guess a big panic on agencies and LinkedIn would be useful, otherwise sell everything over the weekend and fly home on credit.

Do you have somewhere to go in the UK?

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Mosman · 10/05/2013 08:18

And now the UK house is to be repossessed in. 14 days
I hate the fucker why couldn't I have just married somebody fucking normal

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ravenousbugblatterbeast · 10/05/2013 09:23

Are you here on a 457? I think the employer has to repatriate him and his family members who came over on the 457 in the first place.

Half way down the page here refers to them paying on receipt of a written request. It is taken from Booklet 9.

He has 28 days to find another sponsor, although I have been told that Immigration are very slow in chasing this up. I was threatened with a similar situation recently (have now found another sponsor, phew) but was referred to an immigration agent in Perth who had helped people in similar situations - I can PM you his details if you want? Or do you really just want to leave, after all you've been through? At least this way it would cost you nothing..

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Mosman · 10/05/2013 11:58

That would be fantastic thank you so much

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hellsbellsmelons · 10/05/2013 12:15

Oh my word - poor you. After everything else you've put up with.
I don't know the answers but I really hope you can leave him and come back to the UK.
Keep us updated on what happens.

AuntieStella · 10/05/2013 12:16

Oh Mosman, I remember you previous threads, and I'm so sorry to hear this latest.

Unfortunately, a High Commission doesn't have funds to repatriate Brits. They can only pay if someone in Uk has already provided the money. That was a useful service in the days before banks/airlines became more joined up internationally - it might be easier to see if someone in Uk can buy plane tickets for you or make a transfer to your bank account (assuming it won't be swallowed up by other exit expenses).

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Mosman · 10/05/2013 12:36

He's desperately job hunting so hopefully something will come up quickly, I've applied for a new credit card as I think the 457 company sponsorship repatriation only applies if its in your contract.
Everyone pray hard for me please lol

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ravenousbugblatterbeast · 10/05/2013 12:46

According to that link (which links to booklet 9) it is the employer's responsibility to fund repatriation, although it might be hard to "force" them, and obviously you have then tipped off immigration that that you're jobless..

I'll PM you the details now.

Lavenderhoney · 10/05/2013 12:49

Is there anything you can do about the UK house? If you flew back and went there, could you re negotiate? Would any repossession be delayed due to you being made homeless and you could apply for benefits/ borrow until you sort yourself out with a job?

I hope you get your credit card. I haven't read any of your previous threads, but it sounds stressful just with this.

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Mosman · 10/05/2013 13:23

The hose has a warrant for repossession on the 19th unless we can pay £7,000. I can't and tbh I wouldn't want to return to that part of the UK anyway there's no jobs for him otherwise we wouldn't have come to Australia anyway.
Although it is starting to feel he's just fucking useless on all sides of the planet.

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Orchidlady · 10/05/2013 13:47

mosman I have read a few of your precious threads and is beyond me why you would include that waste of space in your plans, sounds like a twat of the highest order. Seems to me you only have 1 choice is to come back to the UK with your lovely kids, as you said you had a well paid job before, surely you could find another here. I presume working over there is not an option if you are on your own as visa dep on him? So sorry to her about house repo, you must be so stressed.

Orchidlady · 10/05/2013 13:48

Previous not precious, oops!

glastocat · 10/05/2013 14:13

Holding your hand here Mosman, I have no practical advice or help to offer but I'm here in Rockingham if you just need someone to talk to.

AnyFucker · 10/05/2013 14:17

Why did the fucker lose his job?

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Mosman · 10/05/2013 14:24

Well he simply wasn't delivering the goods. He had 10 years as as nagger in a pharma company which basically involves doing fuck all, eating lunch, going to conferences oh and everyone is shagging around it transpires, so much opportunity, hotel rooms paid for rude not to.
Now he's in the real world of business quite simply I think he's not up to it.
My brother suggested he got a job in the mines, I actually nearly pissed myself laughing at the thought of him doing a days work, would kill him.
I have been offered seven days work away in Sydney and he said we will miss you, doubt you'll miss us. This of course lead me to remembering how I was driving around Leicester looking to buy a great pump at 5am so my baby didnt miss out last time I was away and at the same time he was snuggled up under the duvet with the tramp. I did call him a cunt when he said how is this helpful to my rant.
What sentence do you think I'd get for hitting him with a frying pan, I've no previous convictions of any kind?

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Mosman · 10/05/2013 14:26

Manager not a nagger - bloody spell check.

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Mosman · 10/05/2013 14:26

And a breast pump not a great pump, it wasn't that good lol

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Orchidlady · 10/05/2013 14:33

What a complete dick, so he was sacked. Mines sounds like a great idea.

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Mosman · 10/05/2013 14:54

I doubt they'd have him tbh

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wheredidiputit · 10/05/2013 14:54

more hand holding here.

Mosman did you know your house was also at risk or has he just thrown everything at you now.

FreddieMisaGREATshag · 10/05/2013 15:00

Oh Mos. Nothing useful to say. Just another hand.

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Mosman · 10/05/2013 15:13

I knew but as long as we kept up the payment plan for the arrears all would be fine, we can't now and were honest with them. They went straight to court today and hot the grant.
I have tenants in there but don't know if it would do any good to fly back and insist I move in. Can they really throw out somebody with four children ?

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Longdistance · 10/05/2013 15:23

Well, if you hit him over the head with a frying pan, they may deport you for free silver linings and all that Wink

Have an un mnetty {{{{hug}}}

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