His mother should've swallowed

[LouP19]

Is this title too rude?!!!

I appreciate everyone warning caution. Trust me, I'm using this place to rant and rave and swear and all that,... at the moment I haven't done anything. And even if I do manage to locate him (with some first class help!) I might not necessarily do anything with that information just yet. But I would just like to know, that's all, instead of driving round looking for his car all the time,.... Just this knowledge will make me feel a bit more empowered.

All advice on here is very helpful - the calm, the practical, the hysterical, the funny, the 'been there done that', it's all amazing and I value all of it.

Hi Lou, another delurker wishing you all the best for this afternoon. I have been reading your thread and thinking of you often, but didn't feel I had any more to add to the advice you've had. Good luck with whatever you decide, if it's a difficult day today I hope it helps to think of all the people in RL and on here who are here to support you.

Another delurker here. I hope the appointment goes well today and Chuntney does not turn up. I hope it helps you make a decision.

I also think you are doing amazingly well under the circumstances and your strength to carry on is really beginning to shine through from your posts.

I will be buying the book when it is published!

Morning Lou

Just sending my support for today.

Morning Lou,
Just checking in to offer you a hand to hold this morning. Try not to get too jittery, hopefully you will gain a little clarity this afternoon. I'm glad you're taking a rl friend with you, also take tissues and your best brave face.

Big hug x

Morning Lou.
Wishing you well for today, peaceful thoughts and clarity of vision.
Be brave! X

Morning Lou,
Thinking of you today.

Morning all, thank you for your support, really appreciate it. Woken up with butterflies in my tummy. Had strange dreams last night - one minute we were getting back together ( ) and the next minute I was making tea in the kitchen whilst a handsome man was doing something very rude to me from behind . If anyone can work that out, I'd be very grateful!!!

My friend is coming over at 12 and I said I'd do a light lunch. I asked what she fancied and she said 'Just crackers and cheesewill be fine'. This is no joke. It only occured to me this morning how funny this is,...!!

Delurking to wish you good luck Lou, can't imagine how you're feeling but we're all thinking of you.

Lou have you kept your threads private from RL friends? do you have any pickle in the house per chance.

Hope he left the crackers then...

I'm thinking of you today. Can't imagine how hard it'll be for you but just wanted to say that no matter what happens you will have us lot rooting for you (as if you don't have enough problems!). You are such a strong woman and you will get through this.

Delurking to say that I think you are doing brillianty - much better than I could imagine myself doing in the same circumstances.

I hope you have strength to get you through today. I can imagine this is not how you imagined things to be when you were TTC. I have my own opinion on what I think I would do in your situation, but I'm not going to try and project my thoughts onto you. This is your decision and yours alone.

I think which ever way your decison goes after today, you will need support come autumn & winter and we will all be here for you, just as you will be here for us when we need it with your strength and your wit.

The only thing I will say with regards to the decision that you have to make after today is that you should make the decision based on what you believe is the right decision for you. We will all have opinions on what we think we would do if we were you but we are not you & this is your life, your decision.

Sorry for the essay - only really wanted to say Go Lou! x

Glad to see your sense of humour is still going strong, Lou

Will be thinking of you today

None of my RL friends know about this, hence the irony of the crackers and cheese comment!!

Thinking of you today, Lou. xx

Re: your dreams: well, pregnancy does give you bizarre dreams... in my first trimester, I had a LOT of random sex dreams!!

Speaking of which, I had a nightmare last night that Chuntney actually posted on this thread (GAH!!) and some people supported him, while others ignored. Nobody actually castigated him! Like that would happen...

I may be jumping on the 'de-lurking bandwagon' here, but I just wanted to send you positive thoughts for today's scan, Lou.

You know yourself, and your own situation, better than anyone - even your mum. I'm glad your friend is going with you.

Hope all goes well x

...the next minute I was making tea in the kitchen whilst a handsome man was doing something very rude to me from behind...

Premonition?

Just wanted to add my best wishes for today - I hope it helps you in whatever way you need it to.

Morning Lou,

I wish you the very best of luck today.

Peshwari - I have to say, dreaming of chutney man posting on here's a bit creepy! I think he'd be torn apart if he did!

(Shudders)

Hope today brings you some clarity, Lou. Brace yourself for some manipulative bollocks via text from the old chutney slimeball. Could you block his number just for today or switch your phone off? Especially this evening when your head may be in a spin.

Good luck for today Lou

Maybe your dream is a sign from the future. Picture the scenario, if you will......

Chutney fucker is at some point going to realise with a huge fucking bang what he's lost and going to beg you to take him back....... you WON'T seriously think about this but allow him to believe there's hope on condition he brings his chutney with him ((insert evil grinning face))
Chutney decides to visit you one day and sneaks around the back......where he see's you in the throes of passion bent over the sink. He stands there waiting to see who is behind you and this gorgeous, muscular, tall, fantastic adonis ok I know I'm overdoing it takes you in his arms and kisses you passionately and squeezes you tight. There's a light between you, a connection so deep when you look into each others eyes.
The car sponge stealer is DEVASTATED, his heart breaks at that moment and it's actually painful ;) :) You look so natural together with your "doggy" partner and chutney know this man loves you, he can see it.
He decides to leave and slinks away, while walking back through the garden has a quick scout around to see if there's anything there he forgot to reclaim steal some months earlier and decides that the flower beds actually do look better in your garden than they would in a pot on the window of his bedsit. did I forget to mention OW chucked him for being a sub human, useless piece of shite :)

:)
Hope today goes well for you Lou xx

Another MNer de-lurking to say that I'll be thinking of you today. I hope your scan runs smoothly and that you get all the information and support you need x

Good luck today lou thinking of you xx

all the best for today lou.

dondon33

Thinking of you this afternoon Lou.