In shock

[stookiesackhouse]

Found out tonight that my DP of over three years bought a house with and has been living with another woman since Feb.They have been together for two years.

I only found out through my mum talking to her colleague and it turns out she knows DP.

He has been leading a double life. To split the time between us he has used his DF's cancer, his asthma, training courses, and his MH issues as excuses for why he needed to be away from home.

I am nearly 35, we had planned on having a family. However, our sex life was dire due to his MH which I was supporting him with.

I feel shell shocked and humiliated :-(

Don't worry, there is zero hope of him worming his way back in with me. Absolutely zero.
Am sure I will see this as very black and white in a few weeks/months time.

You're on holiday, stop thinking about him!

Instead, come on MN and make us all jealous with your amazing holiday details!

Yeah, come on ... tell us about the hot men wonderful sights you've seen

Jeez, I saw a dropdead gorgeous specimen on the beach this afternoon I've reserved the same spot for tomorrow after I've been to the beauty parlour

There's a guy at at I school I may possibly be considering thinking about maybe having a huge, embarrassing wee crush on. I know he likes me too, but no way am I ready for a relationship. Honestly he puts Michelangelo's David to shame. He's a Sudanese refugee and we're doing the same course. I can't believe he's interested in me...He's painfully shy but once we got to know each other he's...Very confident!

Not ready for a relationship. I just like to look at him. Swoons

:( how horrible for you. I went through very very similar almost 4 years ago now and it had been going on for the entire 4 years of out relationship. I was nearly 45. He would never commit to living together though and had his own place.

We had a Dd together and I caught he and the ow together just going off on holiday to Antigua . I had suspected something over the years, but his lies were so convincing that I think he believed them himself!

So, you are definitely not alone in it and I like to think that Karma will always be a bitch...he'll get his!

Enjoy your hols.

Solo :-( what a c-bag!

Lurking and Izzy - the family who run our hotel (it's a small, family run place) - the two sons are bloody gorgeous. Especially the youngest one - said to my mam he is one of the best looking men I have ever seen. I would pitch him at about 27 i.e. too young for me!

In other news, I used to have a huge crush on a guy at school who liked me too gone - but I had a boyfriend at the time so nothing came of it. Anyway, we are friends on Facebook (he came out of a LT relationship a good while ago) and he sometimes sends me a chatty message. So I briefly told him about my recent circumstances and he asked if I would like to go out once I am back from my holidays and things have settled down.

I said yes :) eek. Will report on that at a later date :o

Izzy, I am jealous you are still on hols. Hope you get pitched up next to the adonis today. If he starts to burn you could always offer to rub some sun lotion on him :-o

Lurking, that guy sounds really lovely.

Get yourself in there! :o

All the talking about men, I should have added, the place here is gorgeous. We have found a lovely little cove that is like a small paradise - have been spending most days here.

Met up with some of mam's friends too and had a brilliant night - too many cocktails and dancing.

I am also enjoying fussing over the local moggies who are very cute; eating lots of fab food; and reading a good book :)

Lurking, just realised you said you are not ready for a relationship, sorry.

Well I hope the guy is there waiting for you when you are :)

Stookie, so thrilled to hear how happy you sound!

(Waves at Stookie).
Hey! Good news on the OW front. She has the measure of him too, which is great. He doesn't deserve either of you.
The pair of them will probably be in contact once you return home. I hope you find the courage to speak kindly to her - and tell him to fuck the fuck off.