real life challenges vs online misadventures, dating (and non-dating) thread 19

[hatesponge]

I have been to the pub. I'm not pissed but I am happy (well happier at least).

Conclusions reached this evening:

1. I am pretty bloody amazing, and any man I choose to date is very very lucky and should appreciate this fact!
2. Online dating is not for me. But I have learned from it that I shouldnt judge a book by it's cover and not to be so superficial
3. Man from the weekend DID like me, he is either still in love with his wife, or still hurt by her and lacking in confidence, there is NOTHING I did wrong, and he probably will be back at some point, but it will be too late because I will have MOVED ON :)
4. I am joining the gym and losing my remaining 3 stone.
5. I am going back to my old haunts in Essex this weekend because I have the best nights out there and feel at home. I intend to drink, dance, look fabulous and talk to anyone and everyone!

So that's my resolutions for the thread in essence, less moaning, more exercise, to have fun and be sociable to everyone, less aloof unavailable ice queen and more friendly and approachable.

sponge. It's lovely to see you post something so positive. :). I approve! (& place mark)

I had a lovely evening, went to the theatre on my own to see Derren brown, lots of texts from Pm, I am going to flirt, sod it. I like flirting, phasers on full. :)

Sponge. A lovely start to the thread.
Snape was DB good? I've seen him and thought he was brilliant.
So today I actually spoke to a real life person from pof. From his profile he seemed to be a 'typical' man working in central London. On text I found out he likes cars, drives an Audi and is a petrolhead I had an image in my head of a corporate worker, london based and he looked like a gangster!
He phoned me at work and it transpires he is from south Africa so immediately we had something to talk about as I have lived there. He told me he was going on a date tonight which I thought was good in an honest way.
We may meet next week and if nothing else we have south Africa in common.
I want to lose weight so am going to start walking again. I also want to finish my garden and spend more time with my fab friends.

good title Sponge:o
although the only real-life men I come across with any frequency are the chimps in the weights room @ the gym
slightly better than potatoes I suppose

He was just incredibly awesome . There's something about a gay man with a devils goatee.... it's been filmed so will turn up on channel 4 at some point.

That was a lovely day.. :) Australian beach volleyball man aside, RRRRRrrrrrrr!

That's the spirit, Snape and Sponge. :)

I met Mr VN again today.
Time flies when we are together. :o

Apparently us getting together was a total fluke. He had been on the site for ages with not much (if anything) going on and mine was the first message he received ever. (assuming it's true...)

Great post Sponge, am liking the positive attitude As for the weight loss, you should try low carbing, the pounds just melt away. I got back to it in earnest this week and have lost 7lbs! Am almost at the weight I want to be now

In other news, this is the update I couldn't post earlier as the thread was full:

Ok, so Mr Candle and me are texting. So far all he has talked about is sex! Apparently he can't wait to see me naked, and lots of other shite I don't want to hear so early in proceedings. He has just asked me to "please send me a sexy pic babe, please" And he wants to know if I sleep naked. Next he will be asking me if I shave my lady garden, I just know it!! I'm afraid he is turning me right off!! I want to be wanted for ME, not just for my body/sex.

I text him telling him that when I do start seeing someone I would like it to be more than about my body, that going by the texts he has sent so far I don't think we would be suited, that I like sex as much as the next person but I like to be a part of a package and as he seems to be looking just for the sex part I don't feel I am the woman for him. He has replied saying "You got me all wrong luv, I'm looking 4 more than sex, i'm sorry but it's been that long 2day and u av made me horny x"

Just had a "Night night sexy, hope to hear from you soon, and a pic x" so seemingly he hasn't got the message.

Back to the sofa and the drawing board!

u av made me horny so send me a rude pic so I can jerk off quickly
:o

sheesh aint they all the freakin' same :o

Snape I'm joining you in the flirting. I actually had a very nice day today, it's amazing what a lingering look and a smile can bring, tis good fun! And it got me a man, even though he did turn out to be a knob. It's not put me off though, the next one might be perfect!

They bloody are Mercury! It was like being on POF only texting rather than emailing.

real life mans got no chance against a woman with POF experience under her belt

Offs time! Romance is truly dead! the text speak alone would be enough for me to get rid!

Mercury, :o

What a knob indeed.

Time. That is disappointing. He's probably thinking you are getting turned on by his nonsense.

I guess because so many of them are desperate to 'assault' us with pictures of their erect trouser snakes they think we, likewise, get a thrill out of sending them pictures of our body parts

Sadly, I think he is desperate for wank fodder. Divorced 3 years and seen no action in that time, so he says. Can't say I'm surprised. And he called me 'Luv', and 'Hun'. YUK!

Not luv and Hun!!!

Obviously never been on MN. :)

Why don't you send him a cock picture?
Who had a catalogue?
Or just post a request on pof.

OMG!! He text me, and woke me up, at 6:40am with a text "Morning luv, have I upset you x" and he has now just rung my phone!!! KNOB!!!! I'm ignoring, but I am fuming!

FFS. Phoning. He sounds a complete knob.

There you go for real life.

They are not necessarily better.

I hope he gives up soon. Tosser.

Oh Time! What a knob. From lovely and romantic to utter knobhead in just a few texts.

Can you block his number? or some networks block if you ring them and ask.

Send one of a bigger knob than the one he's sent you.

I think the latest bloke I've been talking to is actually addicted to dating and has no friends. I need to stop making these snap judgements about people based on a few texts!

He text at 6:40????!!!!!!! My god, then phoned!!!!!!!

Am speechless..really. wow.
Dont respond. Or do and tell him not to contact you again.

It's so confusing to me why men might think that approach will work.

:) sponge, good. And I Hope you have a bloody.good weekend too.

and I thought he was going to be your lobster!

Send him a text saying you are not interested and if he keeps on, call your network provider and block him. Hopefully he will get the message!

Time that's awful...I hate men who ring without asking first, especially at ridiculous times. Very annoying!

Am still feeling (relatively) upbeat today. I think I mentioned yesterday I'd been offered 2 dates - so went online yesterday, date 1 had deleted his account (so that's the end of that date - we'd not yet exchanged phone nos) and date 2 had sent me 2 messages, the first general chit chat - the second sent 2 hours later 'I see you've been online and not replied, well you're clearly not interested, I'm not into having my time wasted so goodbye' !!!

The best bit was I hadnt even BEEN online. Nutter.

Roll on the weekend is all I can say!