real life challenges vs online misadventures, dating (and non-dating) thread 19

[hatesponge]

I have been to the pub. I'm not pissed but I am happy (well happier at least).

Conclusions reached this evening:

1. I am pretty bloody amazing, and any man I choose to date is very very lucky and should appreciate this fact!
2. Online dating is not for me. But I have learned from it that I shouldnt judge a book by it's cover and not to be so superficial
3. Man from the weekend DID like me, he is either still in love with his wife, or still hurt by her and lacking in confidence, there is NOTHING I did wrong, and he probably will be back at some point, but it will be too late because I will have MOVED ON :)
4. I am joining the gym and losing my remaining 3 stone.
5. I am going back to my old haunts in Essex this weekend because I have the best nights out there and feel at home. I intend to drink, dance, look fabulous and talk to anyone and everyone!

So that's my resolutions for the thread in essence, less moaning, more exercise, to have fun and be sociable to everyone, less aloof unavailable ice queen and more friendly and approachable.

lol no, he is feeding my sisters rabbit as he lives next door with his brither and sister in law...

And he is quite sexy so i'll let it pass

so what do you think of my reply??

Maybe the bad spelling is catching?? I meant his brother

I think your reply sounds fine & friendly but it's twice as long as his message

Assuming you are keen to get it on with him I'd make my reply the same sort of length and content as his.

I mean if I want to reel someone in or keep them sweet for whatever reason I'd probably make my moves mirror his moves, with some subtle modifications to steer things my way.

Oh good thinking

Thing is its easier for his reply to be shorter with all that text speak

yeah but if you write twice as much and it's all 'proper' speech then you're putting twice as much effort into the exchange as he is, he'll then sense that he's got the upper hand cos you're the one doing all the chasing.

Thats my take on things anyway..make of it what you will:)

Am perfectly ambivalent about penile shrinkage. As long as they don't lose any flexibility in their tongues. :)

That's a good point mercury 7. I'd be inclined to miminic his response as well. Look like minimal effort has been put into the text.

ok, so i now have a date for not this weekend the next. and i will let him off with the text speak as he has a very fit and sexy body and is a builder, so could be useful

Oh no Ive totally lost track of what's going on again! I've been on a bit of an emotional roller coaster of my own with GS guy. Spent the day with him yesterday but loads of stuff out of our control kept getting in the way of our "fun" day. In the end, instead of lots of booze and sex we had lots of long lovely talks which ended in cuddles and tears and ultimately me going home on my own. Hoping we will still be friends cause he's a gorgeous person but whatever else there was is well and truly over.

Anyway, someone should post an update every 100 messages or so!

well i am back from my date....

movingforwards high five! :-). Well played! :-)

sponge!!!!!!

!!!!!!

it went somewhat better than expected :)

he's not at all bad looking, albeit not my usual type.

he has had the most interesting life and is a brilliant raconteur.

he is also a very good kisser, a bit of a biter (which i like) and we may have got to third base in my porch....

C'mon sponge....

Lol. Very good news. Thank got the overalls didn't put you off!

Third base IN YOUR PORCH!!!!!!!!

Bet you're glad you went now! ;-). He sounds very interesting! :-).

Thank you snape

sponge I don't really do bases. Usually I I'm kissing them. It means I'm going to sleep with them

What is third base?

and where does penile shrinkage come into all this?

sorry, never mind, I should just keep up. Carry on.

I am a bit and very

We were kissing in his car then I leant on the horn. but i'd already said he couldn't come in so hence why we ended up in the porch.

He has just text me, but its all complete smut of course

I am surprised by how much fun I had. Though 2/3 of a bottle of wine on an empty stomach may be partly responsible....:)

sponge yay! dirty birdie!

Mr Staines and I have admitted to being a tad nervous about tomorrow, so I've come up with the brilliant idea that we've already had the first date, ' we had an amazing time, the lights were so pretty & your photos just didn't do you justice at all'. (flirt!) He's agreed that this is our 2nd date & we'll go back & fill in the first one later.

I like him. He's terribly handsome, very intelligent, very funny & rather flattering. I suspect I am punching a little above my weight here. (per date wobble alert!) I will need very kind confidence boost-bomb tomorrow I think.

sponge. Sorry, you 'leant on his horn'? .

ooh er missus :o

and there was you all ready to cancel!!

Nice one, Sponge. :)

And Moving. :)

Hi everyone. Haven't posted before but been following all your stories. Do you mind if I join you?

My story is I've been dating a guy for about a month now. All has been going fabulously. No red flags or anything and amazing sex. But I hate it. I think I've gone and fallen in love. I'm up and down like a bloody yoyo and can't stop thinking about him. It's affecting my appetite, my ability to sleep and even my work. The irony is that I am a confirmed singleton and have been for many years since the birth of my DC. I have worked hard to create a good, fulfilled life that didn't require a man in it, and then I went and met one with whom I had instant mental and physical chemistry.

I am not a young teenager. I am telling myself all the logical reasons to get a grip. The more I get to know the real person, the better this will be. I might not be able to stand him after another month , or it may get even better and we may have a chat where we both declare similar feelings.

He's definitely 'into' me, but after a month it's far too early for declarations of love unless I want him to think I'm completely insane (I think he thinks I'm a little eccentric already TBH). I feel like I have no control whatsoever over the situation and I DON'T LIKE IT. I feel like a gauche teenager all over again and swing wildly between wanting to see him NOW and deliberately taking an hour to reply to his texts because I need to think about it before I give in to my first impulse. What the hell is wrong with me?

Not helped by the fact that like Snape I feel like he's a little out of my league.

Why doesn't this get easier with age?