Support thread for survivors of childhood sexual abuse PART 8

[CailinDana]

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The purpose of these threads is to allow survivors of childhood sexual abuse, their partners, friends, or parents, to talk in a safe place about what they think and feel. Nothing is off limits or taboo, just say what you want to say.

What did he mean by that comment dotty?

Police interviewed SIL because I told her 16 years ago as far as he's concerned I'm dead waiting to find out if I can send a PM not on his fb and I could read it cousins daughter saw it and went apeshit about it thats how I found out she sent the message to him and he forwarded on after telling me

That's shit dotty. If you can connect to his page you can send him a message directly. How does your SIL feel about the whole thing?

Waiting to see what DC says first his wife was hot and cold one minute saying I did nothing wrong then saying I should of done it years ago instead of crying about it they know SFA about these things

Have composed a pm

He actually left a threatening message on DC's answerphone earlier in year when she interviewed them he refused to talk to her

Dotty, is that from IT, get it reported, what a pathetic fucking bastard, report it to facebook as part of a criminal investigation. These sad shits are running scared Dotty, hold your head up high, you know you've done nothing wrong.

Dotty, I've seen it time and time again in my own families and others. If a person points out that they've been wronged, they get attacked rather than the person who is actually in the wrong, for "rocking the boat." It's bizarre, people would much rather the victim keep quiet and let the perpetrator just get away with it rather than actually do anything about it or support the victim. I do wonder where that mentality comes from.

No the other one, I know I've done nothing wrong but my energy is totally zapped atm was going to go to rescue centre this afternoon I WANT a kitten thought it would take my mind off things and be company for Ginger. Ended up in pieces instead so up and down getting the help then kicked in the teeth again I know my cousin would never hurt me but its something I needed to know spoken to hos daughter on chat shes furious says he needs to grow up funny cause she's 10 years younger than me

Thankyou Cailin

Cailin thats what DC told me in familiar abuse cases families don't tend to support the victim but stand by the perpetrator very and wrong IMHO.

xpost, sorry, Cailin totally agree, I've had that from my family and it's a headfuck.

Dotty, it is awful anyway and his daughter is right.

Crap, I don't know if I'm on an abnormal high, high or if I'm just relieved not everyone in rl hates me.

Cousins daughter has told him to delete it before he gets in serious trouble DH is furious says it could jeopardise the case also told me not to send message told him I'm not until I've spoken to DC just sick of being blamed for everything.
Got headache brewing need to take codeine but don't think they'll work feeling its tension migraine coming on its at my temple

Can you massage your shoulders and rub beside your eyes? or rub your feet?

was tiredness think its been all the emotions this week had a sleep was woken by DC phoned me not to reply in case he makes it public shes quite annoyed with him but no threats made and understands how upset I am to keep a copy of it for my records incase anymore crap. Also says he has no concept of what I've been through and that I'm better than him.

Decisions tonight drive or phone sister

Sorry Dotty, did you drive or phone? xx

phoned sister just got off from talking to her she's funing with my brother says could jeopardise any trial

Was just so wound up after speaking to DC wanted to get out but made decision to try and stop my running away.

Hugs, xx you know we're all behind you

Thanks Natural I know you all are no doubt in my mind. Never got a chance to print it off was going to get ink today but he's actually listened to my cousins daughter and removed it thank god just hope no-one I know has seen it but not sure if I'm being paranoid about people knowing what its about.

Possibly getting kittens

Awwwwwwwwww hopefully getting a pet soon

If anyone asks you just say you don't know what they're on about.

I'm skiving, potting up my plants I know, I was too depressed in the spring and they look unhappy and waiting for the olympic cycling

Got one just put picture on my profile went to get 2 but that shelter was shut so went to another

I'm a bit fed up. I very rarely give my real opinion, unless I feel safe somewhere, but risked it and posted a few things in a fb group. They are people I see from time to time and there is clearly a hierarchy. I've obviously said something that has touched a nerve with one lady and she is now picking fault over little things and then making out I have the issue.
This probably doesn't make sense, but i'm just so fed up of things like this. She was fine with me until I mentioned that i'm a trained counsellor and explained some of my views and how much it has helped me to actually look at my past.
I don't cope very well in groups anyway, but this has really set me back and made me wonder why i'm bothering. Am I that abnormal for being open and wanting to work through past stuff so it doesn't affect my future? I'm starting to realise i'm a lot more ok than a lot of people I know. I don't mean that nastily, but so many people seem to live in complete denialand then turn if their reality is challenged.
I feel really torn between wanting to be the real me and having the courage to speak my mind and being liked by people :/

and now she sends me a really snotty reply that is completely overeacting and really personal. I'm so upset now, sorry for being attention seeking. She is supportive to other people but rude to me. What is it about me that is so awful peopl feel the need to treat me like crap :(