Where is he?? Going out of my mind, should I call police and report him missing??

[Alabama100]

I really don't know what to do, my husband said he was in his wy home at 8.30pm it's now 11.30 and he's still not here and his phone is going straight to voicemail. I am going out of my mind with worry! We have a 7 month old so I can't comb the streets looking got him. I am sick with worry! I have called him hundreds of times all voicemail, I have called around pubs and he's not there.

How long should I wait before calling the police??

Is this sort of thing out of character for him?

has he ever done this before?

Is it a long journey?

Is there anyone nearby who could come and watch your little one?

have you got the numbers of any friends who might know where he is?

oh and sorry you are so worried x

Do you have a reason to panic?
Has he done this before?

Call his friends, family ... do you always get a good signal in your area?

Try not to worry

Have you tried friends and family?

He's done this before but not recently....he gts so drunk when he goes out I'm worried someone has beaten him up or worse. I can't stop crying! Why is hs phone going to voicemail constantly??

I would worry more if his phone was ringing out, but it sounds as if he's switched it off, or it may have run out of battery.

If the latter, there are other phones he could use to tell you where he is/why he's not home yet.

What's his general reliability like?

His family haven't spoke o him fr a number of years now and don't have any of his wrk friend's numbers, just Facebook friends with some of them. Should I report him missing or is this too soon? He would've called by now!!

Police won't accept a "missing person" report until he's been missing for 24 hours. You could try calling to see if he's been arrested/found pissed/beaten in a gutter.

Depends
You mention calling round pubs so you used to him going out and not coming back ?
is it unusual ? Has he ever done this before ? Is there any friend you can call ?
Do you know his route? Can you check travel news for any blocks on roads etc?

How is he getting home? Public transport or driving? Could the phone have run out of battery perhaps?

Please try and stay calm, as difficult as that might be.

Hope you get news (that he's home safely) soon.

I'll check for tube delays I didn't think of that....he generally isn't gret at letting me know where he is but now we have a baby I woukdn't have thought he would be so unavailable. I have been ringing or hours and standing outide my house in tears!

Where was he and who was he with? If you have any idea of which pub/restaurant he was in you could call and see if any of them saw him leave and at what time?

I didn't think you could report them missing for a day or so?

If he was poor at telling you his whereabouts before you had a baby, that's not going to improve now. Sorry.

Post a Facebook message ? To his friends ?

He has done this once before but not since I was 6 months pregnant. Surely by now the pubs would be closed? I have left countless voicemails and texts. I feel awful as the last thing I said to him was I was hurt and disappointed in him became he promised me he would be home ealy so I could go to the gym, then he said he was on his way...that was8.30pm!

beaten in a gutter oh god I can't stop crying!

How was he getting home?

Where was he going after work that you're worried he may have got beaten up , on a Thursday night?

What happened last time he did this?

I used to get this from Ex-H, he was fine every time, just I/we didn't figure in his drink - addled brain
Do try not to get too upset, you have a baby in the house.
Can you call someone to come & sit with you whilst you wait ?

Men like that don't change suddenly when a baby comes, they get worse love....

But being uncynical weather is really bad, so delays....are possible. Or if he has been by car, won't hurt to call the police and ask about accidents.

sorry to hear this but as he has form for it I would try not to panic

the police wont do anything yet anyway, especially given the circumstances

By all means ring the police (101 gets you through to your local force). They can do some basic checks at this stage but will not launch a full Missing Persons enquiry yet. They can hopefully reassure you and explain the process to you. I hope he turns up soon, but I would hazard a guess that he is just being a drunken idiot and will stagger home shortly.

Sorry, Alabama, didn't mean to upset you further. But there are pratical steps you can take to feel more in control; phone the police and ask, start phoning hospitals.

But I suspect yer man is in a late-night pub somewhere.