Where is he?? Going out of my mind, should I call police and report him missing??

[Alabama100]

I really don't know what to do, my husband said he was in his wy home at 8.30pm it's now 11.30 and he's still not here and his phone is going straight to voicemail. I am going out of my mind with worry! We have a 7 month old so I can't comb the streets looking got him. I am sick with worry! I have called him hundreds of times all voicemail, I have called around pubs and he's not there.

How long should I wait before calling the police??

I have no idea where is jut, it that he was having beers with his boss wise number I don 't have. But all the pubs would be closed by now surely? And the tubes will be shut soon....shall I call the police at 1am if I haven't herd nothing or do I have I wait til the morning?

I agree with mylunch. It's still early hours and as he's done this before he'll probably roll in and be surprised he's upset you.

I would consider giving your baby the pots and pans to crash around in the morning though. She may need some help from you but I'm sure that won't be too hard.
Hope you find out where he is soon.

I know old lady...I'm jut super emotional right now with all sorts going though my he'd. I hope hope hope he's okay, it's been hours!

Oh so he has been out drinking...I'd hazard a guess he has returned to form.

My first husband used to do this - once he went missing for an entire weekend. Ringing around the hospitals and police stations was so embarrassing as they were so nice but obviously pitied me.

I'm sorry, OP, but I reckon he's in the pub and has switched his phone off. If he'd been in an accident, the police would quickly inform you. I can understand your anxiety but a line from a book comes to mind - he isn't lying in a ditch, weakly calling out your name. He's probably having a lovely time and will roll in steaming drunk when it's chucking out time.

I'm so sorry you're having to go through this.

You can report anyone missing at any time - the 24 hour thing is a myth.

That said I'd only call the police if you are genuinely worried he has come to harm.

no, pubs won't be shut yet. Chances are he was persuaded to have a couple more drinks after he called you and then lost track of time...

When he said he was on his way home at 8.30 where was he? Was he in a pub/out with friends? If so, I would think he's probably stopped for "one more drink" and one more has turned into ten more IYSWIM. It's very possible that he has no mobile signal if he is in a pub or club which would make the phone go straight to voicemail each time.

I would be more worried if he was, for example, already at the tube station at 8.30 or just leaving work at 8.30. Less chance of him being "distracted".

Well if the police have not called you or come around your house you know he has not been arrested or in a punch up and is in A and E in a bad state etc and if they have not heard his name then you probably have little to worry about, and only something to be angry about it.

He's probably fine. He's probably pissed. He's maybe thinking he may aswell be hung for a sheep as a lamb (mature).

The best thing you can do is go to bed and try and get some rest so you're okay for the baby and to give him a total bollocking in the morning x

If you are worried, ring. They can check whether he has been arrested, taken to hospital etc and can advise you on what actions they will take over the next few hours. There are no hard and fast rules on this-each case is treated on it's own merits. You will not be criticised for calling in these circumstances.

could he have got so drunk that he had to crash at a friend's as couldn't reach home, or too ashamed to face you when drunk? how far from home were these drinks?

you need to take some deep breathes and calm down, in for a count of 7 and out for 11, I find it can bring me out of a total panic attack, its the breathing pattern of a sleeping child.

Then get yourself a nice warm drink, if you cant face going to bed, put something on the DVD player you like.

He is out somewhere pissed, if you have tubes, then there are drinking places open 24/7.

He was at the pub at 8.30 when he said he was jumping on th tube. I briefly managed to get the ringing tone at around 10pm and now just voicemail.

I hope you're all right.

He gets so drunk it feels like its jut a matter of time before something happens.

Almost midnight still no word from him.

Plenty late night bars night clubs in london on tube ride so forget chucking out time.
Go to bed , try to sleep.
Put your phone on silent next to you so it will vibrate

Try not to worry - easier said than done I know but try. If something awful had happened you would probably have heard by now. Re voicemail - some phones/providers automatically put phone onto immediate voicemail if it gets triggered by an unanswered call so constantly ringing him wont help its probably not ringing out loud on his phone. If you are really sure hes not likely to be in a pub you could phone the non-emergency police number and explain the situation but theres not really much they can do at the moment. Why dont you try to get to bed as if he turns up very late (which is more than likely) youll both be tired tomorrow!

I feel awful as the last thing I said to him was I was hurt and disappointed in him became he promised me he would be home ealy so I could go to the gym, then he said he was on his way...that was8.30pm!

It seems from that ^ he's probably having a strop & doing this deliberately

You need to have a big talk about this (when he turns up), you could've needed to contact him in an emergency, he's being really irresponsible.

how are you doing Alabama? As others have said, no news is good news. Go to bed - even if you can't sleep you can get some rest as you'll have to be up with your little one tomorrow.

sounds like he might have come back, as OP is quiet..My mum was through this on regular basis with second H - it's dreadful. OP yo uhave to try to eriously make him stop doing this to you. What usually works is tough approach - no rows, just locking him out a couple of times.

If he gets that drunk, it's not unlikely he's conked out on the tube and will wake up at the end of the line. Meaning that, if he's still got his phone on him, you might get a forlorn call from a drunk with no way to get home until the tube starts in the morning ... not that I've ever done it

I'm sorry you're going through this. Whenever he does turn up, it sounds like he needs a bloody stern talk (once he's sober). All the best.

hopefully he is home and getting an earful for putting Alabama through the mill. I think when she's finished bollocking him, she should put him on here then we can all have a go too.

Hope he is home and all is okay.

police will accept a misper report before 24 hours - that is old hat - it just depends on the circs of their going missing.

its no good waiting 24 hours to report a person missing if you think theyve come to harm

that said, i think the OP needs to weigh up where he is likely to be and whether he is truly a "missing person" at this stage.