Support thread for survivors of childhood sexual abuse PART 5

[CailinDana]

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The purpose of these threads is to allow survivors of childhood sexual abuse, their partners, friends, or parents, to talk in a safe place about what they think and feel. Nothing is off limits or taboo, just say what you want to say.

You are entitled to own all your feelings and emotions.

What do you mean about the showers? I couldn't shower or change in pe, it felt so intrusive,

Agree with you on that Spotty and did it with my ds before he started school nursery, god knows where but I had age relevant guides.

Funny that I never knew boubdaries apart from to stay away the bad man, when I was speaking to my Aunt mums older sister aged 82 she said that they knew from an early age not to let anyone touch them so why didn't we.

I'm 28, no not really any sex education here. Don't think what they do in school is up to much.

You had to have a shower after PE. I used to change in the toilet cubicle. Having a shower was required. You used to have to line up in your towel and be checked for underwear by the teacher.

Fucking catholic school I hated.

Same here Offred catholic school until 15 when we moved PE teacher wasn't there when I was in hospital but came afterwards and its fucking embarrassing telling someone at 12 what you've had done especially when you don't understand yourself my lovely dad sent the notes in excusing me from PE as she said it wasn't an excuse to be on period no but I was fucking ill he also directed her to my male head of year to get any further information and he stopped me to tell me he'd spoken to her was not a great time in my life I can tell you.

My girls went to catholic primary school and by the time DD2 was in P2 they'd brought in early sex ed basic things like knowing theit body and boundaries and who to go to eldest is only 7 years younger than you she'll be 21 in 2 weeks. eekkk

Yes, mine are at a catholic primary. It is a lovely school though. They do sex ed but I don't think it is up to much.

Sex ed is a joke.

Cailin its getting better than when I was at school I remember some parents being up in arms over 6 year olds getting it I was all for it when DD2 was 11 she had a 'bf' he was 13 but they went to cinema came here and up to his BUT he wanted her to sleep with him and she knew all the ins and outs and the dangers of pregnancy on such a small and young body I had only gone through the basics with her the rest was school.

Cailin, you ok, have to go off soon but have pm'd

Cccaaaaaiiiiiiiillllllllllliiiiiiiiiinnnnnnn

Mashed she might be out with the bairn

Mmm, I think she's taken responsibility for something on another thread which isn't her responsibility to take.

Sorry Mashed, got your PM thanks, I'm grand just had to dash out to toddler group, I had forgotten that I was supposed to help to open up!

I'm fine really, just felt a bit bad on the other thread.

just looking for a hug - guess who is coming for dinner today? yep. mother.

she invited herself, as she has a course meeting in my city this weekend

she's stopping over saturday night here on her way back - note, i did not invite her, neither did i feel strong enough to tell her to find somewhere else to stay, long drive at her age...

i feel sick

eugh

i think I'll do the ironing when she's here, so I cant focus on her shit chat

really not looking forward to it, just dont know what ill words and feeling she will bring up when here

eugh

I have a big hug ready for you Belle.

((hugs)) can you try to be out and about as much as possible? Would that help?

Offred you might be interested to know that our favourite person has popped up on a thread in the last few minutes. I'm surprised she wasn't banned.

Really? Interested. Have read through her other posts. Conclusion: she is an utter knob.

Oh Belle, big hugs

thanks so much

I have cleaned the house top to bottom as i normally do on fridays, so i can sit on my arse all weekend or just enjoy family time with DH if possible

i can guarantee when she comes here, she will start to clean/tidy etc etc

she knows not her boundaries

drives me silently seething bonkers cross

have thought of going out to shop or cafe offred when she's here, but dont ever like leaving her with DCs or or in e house as i know she is a snooper in our paperworks etc wanting to find out how much our bills are/DH earnings etc

Just dont TRUST her

going to try and get DH home earlier today, as she is best behaved when he is around

eugh

Cailin, hugs, glad to see someone else there as well

Take her out with you? At least she won't be in the house with you. I feel very protective over my home, I feel safe here and I don't like it being tainted by things like you describe. I'd feel much better getting everyone up and out and about in the situation you describe.

Cailin, are any rape myths being spouted?

Belle, I think like Offred, my home is my safe place, hope it's ok for you and agree to going out, restaurant/cinema etc.

No Mashed, just a relationships thread thankfully and a fairly normal post.

How are you doing today?