to think dh should not have called me this on my birthday

[seenitallbefore2012]

"actually you are an ungrateful foul cow...."

because I said I didn't want chocolates.. yes I know that sounds awful but last week I had a very high cholesterol check and am panicking... I asked him not to get me chocolates this year for that reason... and apparently that is the [only] thing he got and I said I couldn't understand why he did as I was off anything like that.

He shouldn't be calling you that on ANY day.

ditto little esme

your husband is verbally abusive, whether is is your birthday, christmas or just any given Wednesday

That's horrible... And very personal. If DH called me ungrateful I'd be annoyed tbh but calling me an ungrateful foul cow would really upset me. It shows a complete lack of respect. He sounds like a knob end.

Wow - don't know if money is tight but not a lot of thought went into the gift did it? And his verbal response was just awful

How awful! Is he always so rude and disrespectful to you, or was it just an unusually bad moment?

Happy birthday anyway, but I really don't know what I'd do if my DH said something like that to me on any day of the year!

he has never said it before and it seems so much worse to say it on my birthday... why would he buy chocolates when it was the only thing I said please not to get
why instantly spoil my birthday.. I am so angry

"because they are for everyone"

Yuck. Your husband is an arse.

There is never any need to speak to a loved one like that.

I say this every birthday and christmas i only eat certain chocolate and dont like it that much , I think he is a horrible man and shouldnt be call you names ,

I say this every birthday and christmas i only eat certain chocolate and dont like it that much , I think he is a horrible man and shouldnt be call you names ,

If they were for everyone (by everyone I assume he means himself), then you haven't really been ungrateful have you? By rejecting his present to himself.

YaSOnbu I don't even know where to start with the long long list of why.

hi, he shouldnt have said that.
How high was your cholesterol by the way? You should have the test done again. I went out the night before my first test, had a pizza but didnt eat anything from 730pm onwards, the next day my cholesterol was 6.5. So I had it done again and it came up as 5.7 which is still high but not as bad. It could put your mind at rest. The night before the test you should have a light meal very early.

What a cock. I'm sorry seenit that must have really hurt.

Oh? For everyone? Except you of course as you asked not to have them bought. So if they are for everyone what is your birthday present??

I am so

yes.. of course it wasn't for me anyway really, so how can I be so ungrateful it makes him angry enough to spoil MY birthday. During which I have been to work from 8 am to 6 pm, bought the tea and set out the [healthy] food..
which is fine btw, all of which I have enjoyed, but tonight just wanted to chill and have a laugh... instaed of him making passive aggressive comments at the table

such as

Mum.. do u want cake?[my dd]
Me .. no thx am watching my diet but will have candles etc

dh..."Someone ate all the cakes to get a cholesterol of 6.4!"

Just
leave the bastard

What a shit. Dh would have a verbal kick up the arse if he ever spoke to me like that.
He sounds mean and spiteful, OP. Is he like this often?

I am smelling other issues here.

Is that really all he has done to upset you Seen? Or has there been more than this in recent times?

What an utter twunt.And he shouldn't call you that on any day,not just your birthday. I can't think of any excuse for that. Is this normal behaviour for him?

he would be weaing that cake if he spoke to me like that

and living somewhere else

That's the first time I've seen someone advise their self to leave the bastard?!

YANBU, he sounds like a twat.