to think dh should not have called me this on my birthday

[seenitallbefore2012]

"actually you are an ungrateful foul cow...."

because I said I didn't want chocolates.. yes I know that sounds awful but last week I had a very high cholesterol check and am panicking... I asked him not to get me chocolates this year for that reason... and apparently that is the [only] thing he got and I said I couldn't understand why he did as I was off anything like that.

*wearing

Sorry, I didnt mean that to sound like "is that it?!" I meant, has he been nasty to you in other ways too as you sound so down, and whilst I would be pissed off I would be angry and arguing, not getting sad.

Shocking, just shocking, and vile, and inexcusable.

And...

infront of your daughter?!

Oh, and
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

D'oh.

The amount of nasty DHs out there is quite depressing. How could anybody make horrible, personal comments to somebody they profess to love?

Oh yes 'happy Birthday' sorry it's been a disappointment

we were alone in the kitchen when he said it.. altho he was walking out and said it at volume
I am happy as a person
He has form in this area but not for a long time.And often on birthdays.

celia.. thanks
and dropdead too

just How Dare He indeed

I hate myself for having persuaded myself that he is a good man really and doesn't mean any harm..
what a waste of my time
I who has all the potential

he is jealous when someone else is the centre of attention then ?

how juvenile

I bet your kids act better than that

Very quickly start to love yourself for having sen the light and doing something about it. You and your child/ren.

You and your child/ren deserve so much more.*

am giving myself
and
but no

Good for you.

Happy birthday.

My first husband used to call me horrible names etc on a regular basis. Because I was young and naive then, I began to think of it as normal. It isn't and no-one should tolerate it!

you see, because I thought it was daft to have got them, and thoughtless, as it was the only thing I said not to get,and he had disregarded this on purpose, I pretty much said so, instaed of just being nice and saying oh ok everyone else can share them, as I normally would.
He didn't like that cos I wasn't meek and I DARED to be ungrateful so it justified him calling me a foul ungrateful cow in his eyes.
at volume

You should just say to him outright 'if you don't want to buy me a gift, fair enough, just say so, but don't ask me to be grateful for something that isn't for me'

does anyone here ever have arguments with the other halves where they said things they didnt mean??? all the leave him, deserve better. perhaps there is a reason he is being like this.

is this the norm op? does he berate you every day? or this a one off? hurtful and you are justified in your feelings but cmon people .....

for what "reason" is it ok for a bloke to verbally abuse his wife ?

oh well if there is a reason that's ok.

Eh Scuzy?

There is no reason in the world that would make me deliberately insult and humiliate my DP like this. Not one.

well so do you all suggest she leave him?

dp called me a whiny cunt the other day cos i said he was doing my nut in dragging dirt around the floor. he apologised and told him never to call me that again. am still with him. should i leave him?