Thankyou for your replies.
I need to find the strength to just go ahead and do it, say we are divorcing and that's it.
When these situations occur, dh recovers quickly and is confident and happy getting everyone back on side whereas I almost just go to pieces... I become so angry and upset I am unable to enjoy anything for a few days and just rant at dh about what he has done or said.
I even can't be relaxed then with the dc.. I just feel so tense and unhappy, and once again dh puts me in the wrong as in "Whats the matter with you you are so grumpy"
So basically I now feel I am being an irritable parent because of the situation I find myself in, because I can't stand it.
But because I am getting irate with dh and generally exasperated maybe the dc see me as being "the cross one"
who knows, if I instigate the split maybe they will want to live with him
Can anyone advise how to handle this from hereonin?
I want to divorce him, so apart from the solicitor for financial settlement arrangements etc what else do I need to do?
What shall I say to the dc.. and will they take his side??