Do any of you actually trust your husbands?

[Buckfollocks]

Just been reading some 'I think he's cheating on me/sleeping with escorts' threads and am wondering if (and how) any of you can actually trust your husbands?

The statistics are pretty daunting regarding number of men who have slept around, either with escorts or affair/one night stands.

How do youa ll get through it? I am having a relationship crisis on the trust front at the moment and would appreciate any advice......

TIA

Yes 100%

He worships the very ground I walk on

Trust him totally and it's been 22 years.

ragwort, it's not so much that I feel 'smug' because I honestly don't - it's more that I couldn't live with constantly worrying about what he's doing, if he's cheating, etc.

Naive? Yes, maybe. But I'd rather believe he's faithful until proven otherwise than be cynical about him and think he must be unfaithful cos he's a man .

There are plenty of cheating men out there, but there are also plenty who don't cheat and I would like to believe mine is one of them.

I trust mine Implicitly. Without trust you are in the wrong relationship. xx

That is true that goodmen can cheat. I choose to accept though that my dh hasnt and expect thay he wont. I couldnt live a life of mistrust just on the offchance that he might someday.

I agree Surprisingly - I would never, ever have believed my DH would cheat .... I was that smug person who thought she 'had a good DH', all I am saying is that you never, ever know until it happens to you - and hopefully it won't . I can recall my DH and I sharing shocked stories about failed marriages/affairs etc ......... all his comments/actions led me to believe that he would never have an affair himself . He appeared to be genuinely upset when friends' marriages broke up.

I do. I don't idolise him, and he certainly has plenty of bad sides but it never even occurs to me to worry about where he is or who he is with. (famous last words ?)

I trusted my DH completely until he had an affair, now i'm trying to trust him again, though i'm not sure i ever will 100%.

Yep, trust my lovely husband completely.

I admire you for working through it ragwort, I'm not sure I could .

Yes I do.

I trust him 100%. If I didn't, I'd leave.

Absolutely.

No point being married if I didn't.

I trust my DH but would never say he'd never cheat.

I make an active choice to trust him because he's never done anything yet to make me not trust him. And I'm not generally a suspicious paranoid person.

And the alternative to not trusting him is behaving in a way that would ultimately ruin our relationship anyway.

Trust him 100%

My DH is lovely and has never, ever given me a reason not to trust him. But I don't. Not 100%. There will always be some doubt and I would never be completely suprised if I found out that he'd cheated on me (sexually or otherwise).

I've read too many threads on MN that start with the OP saying how stupid she felt, because she never thought her DH would ever do it to her, etc. Its taught me that your nearest and dearest always have the capacity to surprise you in the most world-shattering ways.

Lol everybody's too happy and loved up to acknowledge OP's actual dilemma! ....
OP can you talk to him? And... It might have been an impulsive or drunken move, although pretty devastating when you are so far pregnant. x

Yes, he is a sahd and would not have the time or inclination!

Oh Buck

What to say? He obviously has the thought of cheating doesn't he? When did you find this out?

Sorry to hear that Buck :( you poor thing...

I am amazed at how confident people on this thred are. I wish I could be less paranoid, but even on a good day, I'd still only go up to 99%.

You just never know......

Alive it was sent at 2 in the afternoon so pretty sure it wasn't a drunken move - possible an impulsive move though.

Feel like I need evidence before I make my move - but not sure how to go about it. Am lurching between wanting to chop his balls off or suggesting we have an open relationship and call his bluff a bit. Wonder how he would feel if I decided to go and shag someone (current state ignored obviously...) Slipperly slope though I suspect.

All a bit muddly and hormonal at the moment. I am wondering where all you trusting wives have been lurking given the general attitude on here towards husbands.......

It wouldn't occur to me that he might cheat. If it's as many of you say, and you really cannot tell until it happens, then there's no point worrying about it. It'll either happen or it won't, and it won't be up to you.