Support thread for survivors of childhood sexual abuse PART 3

[CailinDana]

The first two parts of this thread:
Part 1
Part 2

The purpose of these threads is to allow survivors of childhood sexual abuse, their partners, friends, or parents, to talk in a safe place about what they think and feel. Nothing is off limits or taboo, just say what you want to say.

I've just seen this. I started a thread where I've fucked up again. I was abused from 12-15 by my uncle. I've been assaulted once since then and raped once since then, I always get myself into situations where even if I'm uncomfortable I freeze.

Someone else has decided to be inappropriate. I've had to speak out as its family, so could well get out to my husband. Like a tit, I didn't handle it well.

You poorthing avalon. I know that feeling of shutting down.

In what way did you handle it badly onno?

Coffee Thank you, reminds me of the time I cracked my head open on a cupboard door I was supposed to be polishing! I left it open, bent down and then stood up under it.

So sorry you're having such a bad evening leaving (hugs) Your abuser is definitely NOT right. If it's any consolation at least you can identify the arse holes now. It's when you can't identify them that you're really screwed.

I'd have a big party on my mountain and invite all of you. I do see what you're saying though. Thank you very much. Life will get better for you I promise.

Did anything trigger your down feeling?

Hi Onno, so sorry that happened to you, do you have a link to your thread, I was abused at 12 and 14, two different guys, anyway, hugs x

Leaving, sorry you're feeling rough atm, at least you recognised and left.

Cailin, big hugs,

Avalon, Chips, how you doing?

xpost Avalon :o

He was speaking out of turn. I froze, just sat there and let him. By email. Then said he wanted me to talk back and him send pics, I just ignored it. Rather than say NO take your Pervy wankshit elsewhere and leave me alone.

I just couldn't I felt like I had to hear this, I had to just put up with it. But it's really fucked me up today. I panicked deleted all he sent me, as I felt bad. I didn't send anything like that but, I dunno handled it badly.

I can't link it's the perfect married man thread

For the life of riley woman, will you stop x posting me

:o no, my DS fell down the back of the sofa once, I walked into the living room to see two legs sticking out the top of the sofa :o

Onno, I'll go check it out, hope you're ok.

I know the thread you're speaking about Onnoreally Poor you. Don't place stress on yourself about handling anything badly. All the blame belongs with your relative, none of it resides with you.

You been served a pretty nasty deal in life, and what happened with the married relative must have really shocked you. There was no 'better' way of reacting to all that given everything you've been through.

How are you feeling?

I saw your thhread its a natural reaction when you've been abused I froze when I was sexually assaulted at 14 and stayed in a relationship at 16 with a man who was finacially, emotionally abusive and regularly raped me.

Coffee. How did you get him out?

I feel pretty upset tbh. Stupid, dumb, foolish. Why do I attract these people. Why can't I say firmly. No please I'm uncomfortable leave me alone? Is it because I've had no proper help like counselling?

I think there are people in life who are just looking for people they feel they can take advantage of. People who don't have proper boundaries. It's important to realise that you are not responsible for people like your relative's behaviour.

People without boundarie,s and an agenda like that, want to make you feel responsible. Simply because they never take responsibility for their own behaviour, or they wouldn't do the shit they do in the first place.

Hi hope it's ok to join. I've been lurking for a while, mainly at 3am after bad nightmares. I feel like someone actually understands what it's like. Thank you for sharing your stories. They are helping a lot and make me feel like i can get through this horrible thing.

You are not stupid, dumb, foolish. It's not you it's them.

Yes Avalon I'm starting to see that today, starting to realise how and why. Horrible horrible people. They are seasoned pros at it.

Thanks for posting littlemiss. Do you want to talk about what happened to you?

Of course it's O.K. to join littlemissangry The thread is here for everyone affected with similar issues or has friends or relatives who are affected. I'm to hear that you're having a traumatic time with nightmares. I'm glad you feel you've gained help here to get through it. Please keep posting anytime you want or just keep lurking, whatever helps you best.

I hope you're having a nice evening Cailin how's your day been? I'm off to bed shortly, I wish everybody a very good nights sleep and a happy day tomorrow.xx

And thanks for all your lovely posts

Thank you. I guess i just need somewhere to vent a bit. My grandmothers husband abused me for many years. I got away at 14 and moved away. I kept in contact with her (and him). My gran makes me talk to him. I have only seen him five times since i moved away. Only now my gran is talking about coming to my safe little home to visit. She is bringing him along. Really not sure what to do anymore.

I've had a good day avalon. Ds was in great form. I hope things get better for you soon. Hugs.

Bloody tired tonight had a bad night last night the one good thing when I don't sleep is no dreams/nightmares.

You have no obligation to let your grandmother visit littlemiss. In the long run it would probably be good for you to cut contact. Do you think you could do that?