New relationship and he can't perform

[DissatisfiedDeirdre]

I've met someone a couple of months ago who is lovely, gorgeous, sexy, wonderful etc.

We have tried to have sex a couple of times and it's been a disaster. He doesn't get fully hard, loses his erection during intercourse and can't ejaculate. He has put this down to having had too much to drink on the occasions we've tried to have sex but I don't think this is really the problem. He doesn't seem to realise he's not fully erect so I think he's possibly always had this problem. I can hardly tell him what other penis' feel like though.

He takes citalopram which I think is probably the main cause of his sex issues.

I could really fall in love with him but I don't want to be in a sexless relationship. He is staying over tonight and although I'm really looking forward to spending the evening with him and sharing a bed I am dreading the sex part.

The kissing and touching is lovely, but it either leads nowhere and we go to sleep (and I feel frustrated) or we have 10 minutes of thrusting, apologising and then awkwardness. I am being sensitive but it is obvious that he feels under pressure to perform and I feel frustrated, which are both making the problem worse probably.

We don't just do penetrative sex but I can't climax with him because I don't feel turned on while he is so obviously not aroused.

I've suggested seeing his GP which didn't go down too well.

It's a bit harsh to end a relationship for this reason especially when everything else is so good. It's a problem for me though and as far as I can tell it's not much of a big issue for him.

Deirdre you have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. Really, that was the best he could do? Hold your head particularly high, and secretly revel in the fact that you have the power to introduce the whole village gets introduced to Mr Floppy.

izzyizin you're on fire this morning, innit.

Oh dear, ignore extra words in last sentance

not sure if it was mentioned, but citalopram is for depression and anxiety. hope he's made you aware of that?

when i was on it - being a male - it was vertually impossible to climax, but thankfully I did not have problems maintaining.

i've skipped a lot of posts to put my 2cents in so i'm sorry if it's been mentioned before - please do not give him a hard time about it, don;t look disappointed, and don't complain about it - the second you start doing that it will play on his mind and slowly destroy him from the inside.

if it's just been a few times, put it down to nerves and the alcohol, but if it's getting on beyond half a dozen times ... you'll have to face facts that while he's on that medication your sex life is probably going to suffer

good luck either way

and now i wish i'd read the last 10 posts lol...

Thread fail crestico lol

Just wanted to add to the chorus of dump the twunt. Izzy says it all, very eloquently. As the MN classic line goes, tell him to fuck off to the far side of fuck and when he gets there, fuck off again.

You sound great btw. Hope you find a nicer bunch of folk soon. Have you had a look at yr MN Local to see if there's anything happening?

The saddest thing here is that you've moved to a new place, you should be out there sussing things out and making great new friends. Instead, you've fallen in with a bunch of total losers and are now spending your time involved in their sad little sagas.

Honestly, they all sound so thick, so boring, so nothing!

Drop them all. Don't waste ONE MORE evening on any of them.

I can't believe that anyone over the age of about 14 would be sniggering at whether or not someone waxes etc. How mad. And all the nasy sexual stuff - again, how old are they? Bloody hell.

Move on double-quick. You really don't want a 'social circle' like this. They are pondlife.

Oh you lot are absolutely great. Thank you so much

I sent a text to exbf this morning telling him not to bother coming round tonight. That I don't think we're compatible and would prefer to end things now.

He will need to show it to his mates in order for it to be translated into "she's fucked you off mate". Thick bastard that he is.

Then, a few hours later 3 sniggering men knocked at the door. Pervy neighbour had brought a couple of mates down to advise me that the weather is really quite nice and I should put my laundry in the garden rather than the dryer. They probably worked on that excuse for hours and it was the best they could come up with. CUNTS.

I was dignified and polite. I agreed, yes isn't it a beautiful day. Thanks for the advice, must get on now though.

They are upstairs now and exbf is there too (his bike, yes he rides a bike like a teenager, is chained up outside). They are probably having a great time now they've all met the dirty woman who likes sex. Fucking idiots. I bet not one of them has ever brought a woman to orgasm so has no idea that women are supposed to like sex. Bunch of inadequate wankers.

Cresico, ha ha, thanks for your post. I do agree with you and I wouldn't have made him feel inadequate for his lack of sex drive. Still won't, despite the temptation. I have been on citalopram in the past and I found it really difficult to climax as well.

Maghribia, I wonder if it's the same bloke. Sorry you've been through it too.

I feel a lot better today. It's gorgeous outside. In a minute I'm going down the shops with DS and I will have to walk past their window where they will no doubt be sitting sipping their beers and bragging. I don't care. Let them say what they want about me. They are all so utterly pathetic and useless.

Going away again this weekend so I have something nice to look forward to. I may try to pull a new man just for some anonymous, rampant, hot sex. I want to remind myself of what a proper dick feels like after the pathetic encounters I've had lately.

Goodbye Mr Floppy [wiggles little finger]

Mr Floppy is 39 TheCrunch. Far too old to be shocked at pubic hair but far too young to have such a useless cock.

They are a bunch of losers. The women are nice but I find them a bit irritating. They've all shagged one another at some point as well, which I really do find distasteful and a bit filthy.

Oh well, you live and learn. I'll be fine now, promise. He won't be getting anymore ammunition from me.

He is lovely, gorgeous, sexy, wonderful etc

He is short, has missing teeth, a beer gut, a receding hairline and rubbish clothes

What a difference a night day makes...

If you're going on the pull this weekend, Dee, leave your rosy specs at home and don't be tempted to view the male of the species from the end of a bottle.

Btw, don't forget to wiggle your little finger as you walk past that window...

izzy: Wed 29-Feb-12 22:18:47 pretty soon there'll be a queue outside your door

Deirdre: Thu 01-Mar-12 15:06:11 3 sniggering men knocked at the door

The verdict is a unaminous 'Guilty' by reason of immaturity. Take him down and remove him to a public place where he can be hanged by his undeveloped genitalia.

Is moi prescient or what? But I didn't expect it would be quite so soon, Dee

Hi Dee - have lurked and read your thread, feeling as shocked and disgusted at this tosser's behavior as everyone else. And his infantile fucking mates.....!!

I think you are AMAZING the way you've dealt with it, so good on ya!

It's prob a bit immature of me, but I'm sort of hoping that you meet some mega hunk this weekend, bring him home and allow mr droopy balls and his Cletus the Yokel mates downstairs to hear you get the rogering of your life. And if you're visibly walking differently the next morning....well, so much the better.

;)

Should have been there, still not got the hang of emoticons

His balls have.. erm.. not yet dropped, Crock and as such cannot accurately be described as 'droopy' - although his tiny dick and manboobs fit the picture

Crock's suggestion of a hunk is the way to go, Dee. Rent one if necessary and spend the night playing a porn film at full volume interspersed with blasts of 'Je t'aime'

at izzy. Genius!

I am so glad you aren't letting the idiots get you down.

I cannot believe how truly pathetic they are. OMG!

Keep smiling, you will get over this incident. He will still have a small dick, and a receding hairline, and moronic friends, and a drink problem, and missing teeth, fat belly, no intelligence....

Christ, he is so far from 'catch' it is unreal... and totally not deserving of you :)

"Far too old to be shocked at pubic hair but far too young to have such a useless cock."

Ooooh, back in the knife drawer, Ms Sharp PLEASE drop that one casually into conversation next time you get a chance. Much better than my earlier suggestion.

Izzy is a witch, a witch I tells ye. She has the second sight alright!

Moi? A witch?

I cannot tell a lie. 'Tis true I have more crystal witch balls than many men.

Oh you're all brilliant. Thank you so much.

I am feeling smashing this evening. DS is in bed being good and I'm enjoying a glass of wine on my own in peace and quiet. Is honestly so much nicer than having him here.

Mr Floppy is still upstairs. I never thought I'd meet a man that was too inadequate to be called a wanker ...

Oh darling, it probably was haha! What letter does his name begin with?

Seriously, though, the amount of losers of his type are unbelievable... they seem to be multiplying exponentially these days!! It's a shame you live so near to this waste of space. Am so glad you're feeling better!

K

Are they multiplying, really? D'you know I've never 'had' one of them before. I've been spoiled obviously. All the men I've been with, and I'm going back years, have been totally up for it and appreciative. Maybe it was a London thing .

Mr Floppy is still upstairs, Dee?

I predict a riot another knock on your door in the very near future...

You were right Izzy. I sent him packing though.

I was very nice. Dignified and polite. I sympathetically told him that our sex drives are unmatched.

He heeeeee

well done Dee! i do hope you wiggled that little finger as you said it.

What words did you use to politely despatch the twat, Dee?

'On your bike, Floppy' comes to mind