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DH resents me going on maternity leave

240 replies

sydneyslug · 20/02/2012 10:58

My DH resents me going on mat leave because I won't be earning any money and the baby is for my benefit apparently. I am also lazy for 'sitting on my arse' (I'm 8 months pregnant) whilst he goes out to work. I am beginning to dread having this baby if he is so resentful of having to pay towards it, or actually do anything to help!

OP posts:
FourEyesGood · 20/02/2012 11:00

Offer to swap places. Oh, he can't have the baby for you? And feed it? Well, he'll have to bloody go to work then, won't he? Stupid man.

OkayGrrl · 20/02/2012 11:01

Your husband sounds charming, not. What a twathead!

MoneyWhereYourMouthIs · 20/02/2012 11:01

Sounds like an arse.

MsVestibule · 20/02/2012 11:02

Gosh, what a strange attitude! Was this baby planned by both of you? If so, did you discuss the financial implications before you became pregnant?

pictish · 20/02/2012 11:02

He sounds absolutely ghastly.

GlueSticksEverywhere · 20/02/2012 11:02

Why are you with him? Seriously. Stop and think for a moment. What good qualities does he have because he's coming across like an ignorant cunt twat!

Minty82 · 20/02/2012 11:02

The baby is 'for your benefit'?! That's more than a little frightening...

IUseTooMuchKitchenRoll · 20/02/2012 11:02

Your dh sounds like an arse who doesn't deserve the privelidge of having a baby.

ChippingInNeedsCoffee · 20/02/2012 11:03

Was the baby planned? What did he say before you got pregnant?

Frankly, if it was me, he'd be gone by now.

lucidlady · 20/02/2012 11:05

He's being a git. Does he not want the baby?

MuslinSuit · 20/02/2012 11:06

Does he have redeeming qualities?

LaurieFairyCake · 20/02/2012 11:08

When did you finish work? Are you planning on going back?

He sounds hideous and as if he doesn't really want the baby.

LadyClariceCannockMonty · 20/02/2012 11:10

What did he think was going to happen when you got pregnant? Confused

What a tosser.

choceyes · 20/02/2012 11:12

Gosh he sounds horrible, sorry OP. Seems like a lot of issues to me.

GrahamTribe · 20/02/2012 11:12

"Offer to swap places. Oh, he can't have the baby for you? And feed it? Well, he'll have to bloody go to work then, won't he? Stupid man."

Of course he can feed the baby, FourEyes. Hmm (Though I grant you that he can't give birth to it).

And that's what I'd suggest he did if I were the OP, together with all the other duties that a FT parent or carer has, whilst I returned to work. If he didn't want that but neither did he accept that therefore I had to care for the newborn then I would parcel his clothes up and have them waiting outside of the bolted front door when he returned home from work tomorrow evening.

DrSpecialBedroomyThings · 20/02/2012 11:13

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sparkle12mar08 · 20/02/2012 11:14

And you're with him beacuse...?

HardCheese · 20/02/2012 11:14

OP, this sounds awful. I'm trying to be charitable in the face of all evidence - is it possible he's panicking at the prospect of supporting a family, and this is how it's coming out?

GrahamTribe · 20/02/2012 11:14

Arsegrape? Shock Grin That's a new one to me!

Sydney, was this baby planned?

duckdodgers · 20/02/2012 11:17

foureyes he can feed the baby, my DH managed it with our boys.

OP and the reason you are having a baby with this man is???? Confused

In all seriousness this does not bode well for when your baby arrives.

Elderberries · 20/02/2012 11:18

If he is like this generally then I think you might be better off without him. he is not being a husband in my opinion.

DrSpecialBedroomyThings · 20/02/2012 11:18

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GrahamTribe · 20/02/2012 11:20

Grin @ DrSpecialBedroomyThings. I'll remember that one.

ENormaSnob · 20/02/2012 11:28

Was the baby planned?

harassedandherbug · 20/02/2012 11:28

I have a 7wk old ds and my dh has been a right grump and constantly going on about money until I kind fell to bits in a tearful mess feeling very guilty about being on SMP. Turns out he was really feeling the pressure as he's the one that does the finances.

Being v charitable, could it be something similar?

If not, then he's an arse!

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