Anyone seen the new MN section on surviving an affair?

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The info on there does not accord with the advice oft given on here.

I don't like it, smacks of pleasing-your-man.

Wow, that actually made me a feel a bit sick. Disgusting MN.

Hi all. Obviously that's not what we intended so we'll take a look at it today. Thanks for raising.

I've reported my post too in the hope that someone from MNHQ will be listening.

Hope it gets taken down while its being investigated. I don't want to be associated with that shit.

Shocking.....

"what needs did your partner had that he was looking to meet elsewhere? What could you do to meet those needs within your marriage?"

This is what did it for me. Can you imagine how a woman, devastated from finding out her husband had been sleeping around, would feel reading that? Basically it says "Well clearly your husband wasn't getting what he wanted from you, that's why he cheated. What are you going to do about it?"

MN - seriously????

Some gems from the "advice" page.

We've distilled some of the sound, and often hard-won, advice that has been imparted on these threads to help you see if your relationship can be salvaged. We have a half wit on work experience who hasn't really got a clue, and we were all too busy to read her copy

Surviving an affair: the golden rules
?Recognise that an affair is a symptom, not a cause, of a marriage in trouble. You've got to look for the reasons why it happened - what needs did your partner had that he was looking to meet elsewhere? What could you do to meet those needs within your marriage?

Actually I'm too angry to do a funny cross out and rewrite.

WTAF? Has the person who wrote this ever read the relationships board, in fact have they ever met another human being?

"Women tend to have a stronger emotional memory than men, so the feelings stay with you longer. Men can blot them out, switch them off more easily."

Utter tripe. Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus views that are as outdated as the book itself. Please Mumsnet, this is the 21st Century not a throwback to the fifties ffs.

Just awful. Really awful.

Errr....what the green fuck is this?

Epic fail MNHQ

Was this written by some of the scumbags that women post about here? This reminds me of that attempt a couple of years ago to get us to serve tea and sandwiches to MPS in our pinnies.

MNHQ: what were you thinking?

Actually, I do remember a thread where several posters said "if he's getting it elsewhere it's your fault". It was an invasion by sex workers iirc, some of whom gave an interesting and sympathetic view but others were smug and confrontational in equal measure. It got quite rough. Must have been at least a year ago now.

Oh blimey

It is an absolute pile of crap, someone's been reading woman's own not MN. It's not like anything I've seen in the relationship section either.

WTF??!

Oh my god, I've been quoted in the EA section!

I can forgive them quite a lot for that.

Was it written by a troll? Friggin ada it's disgraceful.

Oops. Not good, MNHQ.

That is absolutely awful advice and I can't believe someone senior read it and approved it. Truly awful. Hope we get a full and frank discussion about who wrote it, who approved it and why, what criteria it met, etc.

What the actual FUCK? Horrendous advice. FGS, Mumsnet!

That's not good.

There's some fantastic advice from Mumsnetters on the Relationship board and that page doesn't reflect that at all.

No PeppermintPasty not a troll, just a man!! And a man who has just been caught cheating and needs an excuse at that.......

Mn becoming a parody of its self who'd have thought it. It's not the first and won't be the last of the examples.

Talk about forgotten where you've come from. It's written by the press for the press it seems, like a bad issue of cosmopolitan. Or moderated by stepford wives. Maybe both.