Been following the thread as of personal interest and I believe that they have taken down some of the more 'objectionable' content but not more.
I think the problem is that when trying to pracee a very emotive and emotionally charged issue (which is by its nature individual in the sense that "Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way") a very unsatisfactory piece of copy is produced irrespective and in this instance it was particularly trite and unfortunate. Given the target reader would be still reeling and trying to recover from an affair there is much danger in trotting out re-hashed and skewed advice in such short form and it ends up being very Daily Mail Lite.
I have close friends who are in the process of recovering from husbands affairs and it is a very very vulnerable, angry and difficult time - of course they know that to properly move on they ultimately need to be able to 'forgive' but it is getting over the anger, loss of what they believed they had, betrayal and sheer rage that is the tricky part even if the will is there. To suggest that they just need to forgive move on and take up a 'sport' etc is patronising and fairly offensive.
My own husband left me and my 2 year old a year ago for what turned out to be another woman. I absolutely know that I made a few mistakes in my marriage - largely down to my faith that my husband had my back and would understand and forgive my unhappiness surrounding a relocation to the other side of the world and the loss of two pregnancies in reasonably traumatic circumstances. If I could go back and change any behaviour or indeed give advice (if asked) to friends given my experience I would say that you should remember to treat your husband/partner as you would a friend and remember that there is of course an open door in any partnership and anyone of the two people involved could walk through it at any time. I accept some culpability for taking a few things for granted but I absolutely do not and would never see it as my duty in an adult relationship with young children to be a Jerry Hall 'whore in the bedroom, angel in the kitchen' type of wife lest my lovely husband be lured off by some young popsy.
The reality is that my husband chose not to talk to me about his apparent wretched unhappiness (which manifested itself by seeming...errr...var var happy), chose to develop a relationship with a colleague from the time my son was 6 months old, chose to tell me how amazing I was, chose to pretend to be a caring and lovely husband, chose to arrange an amazing 40th birthday and tell me how myself and his son were his life and then chose 4 weeks later in the middle of IVF that we had chosen to embark upon to leave me for her. So. Not obvious signs of a marriage in trouble and frankly anyone that tells me I could have prevented it by fishing out my suspenders and going surfing with him whilst pouring him a beer on his return from work would be in very real danger.
I would say, however, that before I went through this, if someone was telling me my story I would have sympathised but privately thought 'you must have known, surely, you are a smart woman, no-one's husband leaves without warning signs'. So I don't judge the few people who have alluded to this on here. I just think there for the grace of god go you as I would not wish the pain, bewilderment and pure head-fuck of being suddenly left upon anyone.