Anyone seen the new MN section on surviving an affair?

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The info on there does not accord with the advice oft given on here.

I don't like it, smacks of pleasing-your-man.

I know it says 'by parents for parents'

This isn't a parenting website, it's mainly a support site for Mums.

Or do women not have affairs?

It does seem to be missing most of the great.bits of advice that are regularly given on here. Maybe a thread in site stuff is in order?

This from relate is much better

"You may wonder if your own short-comings have caused the affair, but while you were both responsible for your relationship, you can never be responsible for your partner?s behaviour choice, to have an affair. An affair can never be the ?fault? of a faithful partner."

My God.

Oh. Dear.
Have they pinched a page off Netmums?

Next they'll be telling us that Lapdancing and porn are essential soulfood for men.

Sometimes I do wonder about MNHQ.

and

Disgusting. God help anyone in a vulnerable state who happens upon this shite.

"sorry love, but you couldn't give him what the OW gives him"

Wow.

Yikes. It is really bad.

MN, a reponse please!

response. obviously.

I am reporting my post in the hope they will come take a look

Am seriously shocked. Having been through, and subsequently divorced XH, an affair situation when 6 months pg I can't believe the tosh written there

''Sometimes''? Rilla, I wonder about them a lot! Their 'deleting' policy is all over the place, not sure who they are but suspect, a lot of well off, middle class yummies who live charmed lives. 'Could be wrong.......

It's insulting tripe from the dark ages - subtext: if your DH has an affair you need to look hard at what you did to cause him to stray, i.e. of course he had an affair because you were less than perfect

This is not the advice given on affair threads and given from real life experience

dear lord

My advice would be

kill him

Just read the "guide".

So basically I should have been doing something to stop it happening.

That's nice

It's always the woman's fault, don't ya know.

Jesus Wept!

Women! Get your fucking act together or that Sweet, Sweet man of yours will be forced to dip his wick elsewhere - and once he has done that, Stop harping on about you bitter old twat.

I've just read it and it is appalling.

MNHQ where are you? Do you really think this is appropriate advice? It's certainly rather misleading to suggest this is some
sort of distillation of some of the (often excellent) advice posted on the Relationships board. If my DH had an affair and I read that it would certainly put me off posting about my situation. I'd be looking for practical, compassionate advice, information on counselling, reassurance that it wasn't my fault - not a thinly disguised guilt trip and tips on how to be more compliant and disguise my pretty fucking understandable rage.

IMHO a permanent section on practical advice for women who need to leave their relationships (checklists, supportive organisations etc) would be much more appropriate.

Hully, I love your murderous ways.

?Take an interest in some part of your partner's life that you've not engaged with, their work, football team or whatever.

hahaha! WTAF? Seriously this shit is golden.

I can't believe they are claiming this 'advice has come off the talk boards mnhq must be reading a different relationship sectn because all the advice I've read (and been offered under a different name) completely contradicts this.

A affair is never the fault of the other partner, its only ever the fault of the partner having the affair

Spectacularly wrong, Mumsnet.

Spectacularly.

It's horrible advice. And all the worse for coming from Mumsnet. You'd expect your batty old Aunt to spout such crap, but really...

MNHQ do you actually read the Relationships thread?