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Just found a condom wrapper

582 replies

KissMyShineyRedA · 20/12/2011 14:54

I'm freaking out. As some of you know my DP went on a business trip. He borrowed my bag for hand luggage. I've just found the corner piece of a condom wrapper. I don't know what to do. I need to ask him face-to-face. Is there any way this could be innocent?! Help

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Saturdaynightbeaver · 20/12/2011 19:19

I want Nancy66 to be my best friend. No beating around the bush there Xmas Grin

perceptionreality · 20/12/2011 19:20

Not being able to get it up can be a sign of guilt, quite apart from the condom wrapper.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 20/12/2011 19:20

Everybody needs a friend like that Xmas Smile

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KissMyShineyRedA · 20/12/2011 19:21

I couldn't find that thread AF, would've liked to read it

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Saturdaynightbeaver · 20/12/2011 19:22

...and if he's OCD about washing his clothes, he's getting rid of her smell and other stuff

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 20/12/2011 19:24

it's from ages ago

the OP got much the same advice as you were getting, then disappeared

only to turn up weeks/months later with more tales of woe Xmas Sad

I will have a little try to find it after dinner, but quite often the posters get them deleted when it all comes out, I am afraid

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KissMyShineyRedA · 20/12/2011 19:33

Thanks AF. I won't have his thread removed as it might prove helpful to other condom wrapper finders in the future

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hippysair · 20/12/2011 19:37

So what was his excuse for going floppy after not having sex with you for 2 weeks? Tbh that would worry me more than condom wrapper. Most blokes would be gagging for it, i know my dh would be!

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KissMyShineyRedA · 20/12/2011 19:40

He was last time he went away, couldn't keep his hands off me.

We didn't talk about it specifically, but the next day he said he was really tired the night before, although he had slept all day Hmm

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KissMyShineyRedA · 20/12/2011 19:42

Say it was in there before he went and I've just totally forgotten about an instance where I put one in that bag, wouldn't he have noticed it?

I just don't believe he's cheated.

I'm just madly swinging from not believing to having no doubt he has and wanting to kill him. This is horrible.

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fiventhree · 20/12/2011 19:46

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AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 20/12/2011 19:49

Kiss I have pm'ed you

felicitywits · 20/12/2011 20:10

Why don't you believe he's cheated?

PeppermintPasty · 20/12/2011 20:11

He will be the mug if he loses this amazing woman who enhanced his life

-Hold that thought Kiss

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KissMyShineyRedA · 20/12/2011 20:19

Because I can't right now, felicity.

I'm in denial. If it's true, all plans are shattered.

This has happened at a time when I should be looking forward to so much.

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paranoidandroidwreckmyownlife · 20/12/2011 20:21

What iPhone does he have op? If it runs on operating system below 5.0 you could jailbreak it and install spybubble. It will show you all stored now, calls and messages even deleted from when installed. It might get you the evidence you need. Google spybubble and jailbreakme.
Hope it gives you reassurance or least confirmation.

felicitywits · 20/12/2011 20:24

I do understand. But better now than later, when you live together or are married or have DCs.

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KissMyShineyRedA · 20/12/2011 20:25

I wouldn't be able to get his phone for long enough to jailbreak it paranoid I don't think I would be comfortable doing that either

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BayPolar · 20/12/2011 20:52

I'm currently on page 3 of this thread and am feeling really depressed because the OP is the same one from the 'space' post and she just doesn't get it.
I hope by page 9 she's come to her senses.
We shall see.
Sigh.

BayPolar · 20/12/2011 20:59

I got to the end. I'm still depressed.

Nancy66 · 20/12/2011 21:01

....it's more than likely a hooker - i doubt you'll find anything on his phone.

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KissMyShineyRedA · 20/12/2011 21:10

So am I, baypolar

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mummylouise · 20/12/2011 21:12

when are u nxt seeing him??

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KissMyShineyRedA · 20/12/2011 21:13

Tomorrow after work. Will update soon

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mummylouise · 20/12/2011 21:17

did u trust him before all this happpened??