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Just found a condom wrapper

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KissMyShineyRedA · 20/12/2011 14:54

I'm freaking out. As some of you know my DP went on a business trip. He borrowed my bag for hand luggage. I've just found the corner piece of a condom wrapper. I don't know what to do. I need to ask him face-to-face. Is there any way this could be innocent?! Help

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ClaraSage · 21/12/2011 13:26

Just be straight with him, kiss. You 'll know by his face if he's lying (I hope).
Best wishes.

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KissMyShineyRedA · 21/12/2011 13:27

I just feel like I'm downplaying it a lot. I haven't cried or felt angry. I haven't eaten either which is always a sign for me that I'm down. I always thought I would have an extreme reaction to something like this.
I've never knowingly been cheated on or cheated on someone. I just feel numb

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KissMyShineyRedA · 21/12/2011 13:28

Sorry I'm just writing my thoughts out as it helps. Ive always bottled things up

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BecauseImperfect · 21/12/2011 13:28

I have three children. So no not barren. Did I hit a nerve?

OP 99% of statistics are made up. Unless 99% of people on here have a crystal ball, or have been living in your partners pants. 99% of people on here can't be 99% sure he has shagged anyone at all.

It's now skipping from one night stands to prostitutes. These women will see the worst in it and then some as most of them have been there. So much so they can probably say who, why, when. As if.

Ladies the target for personal insults is here keep trying. It says a lot about you that you are trying to look for weakness >>>Biscuit

Now thanks for passing a few hours in the salon for me, some of you need to get a grip on your lonely lives. The amount of projection on this thread is awful.

candytuft63 · 21/12/2011 13:32

Am thinking about you, OP. You will know if he tells the truth when you see him. You are the one with the upper hand, here. Be brave.I sincerely hope that there is a perfectly rational explanation for all this, but I cant think of one. Not really.

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KissMyShineyRedA · 21/12/2011 13:43

I've reported you becauseimperfect (haha) stay off my thread please

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dreamingbohemian · 21/12/2011 13:44

Drama queens are so tedious

Terrible liars too

dreamingbohemian · 21/12/2011 13:45

Ha, well done Kiss Grin

empirestateofmind · 21/12/2011 13:51

Good luck with the difficult conversation kiss, let us all know how it goes. I hope it is all nothing.

loopylou6 · 21/12/2011 13:52

Just read this, collectively it doesn't sound good. how long have u been together?

overmydeadbody · 21/12/2011 13:53

Good luck Kiss.

redrubyshoes · 21/12/2011 13:57

We helped Because pass a few hours in the salon. Full back, sack and crack wax then. Xmas Wink

Saturdaynightbeaver · 21/12/2011 13:57

I will be thinking of you this afternoon, if my senile dementia allows me kiss. Good luck Xmas Smile

Saturdaynightbeaver · 21/12/2011 13:59

[Fgrin] at redruby

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KissMyShineyRedA · 21/12/2011 13:59

Xmas Grin redruby

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fairimum · 21/12/2011 14:02

i hope it goes okxx

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PieCherry · 21/12/2011 14:42

How long has he had the bag? Could it have been there from some previous relationship?

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PieCherry · 21/12/2011 15:12

The OP's relationships!! I have loads of different hand luggage bags - I've lent them to freinds in the past - found allsorts in there. Found a pair of handcuffs once after lending to my BF. (It was from a police play set - her son's).

I have read all 13 pages, and really no need for the FFS!!

FatGoose · 21/12/2011 15:16

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Spuddybean · 21/12/2011 15:18

pie i seem to remember the op saying she has never used the bag - only to store 2 handbags in, which wouldn't have had condoms in. I'm not imagining that am i? (i have concussion so apologies if i have)

coffeesleeve · 21/12/2011 15:34

FatGoose I'm not the OP but I would much rather have this sort of thing out face-to-face. That way you can read body language etc. Phone is too impersonal for something which could spell the end of their relationship.

Bit mean, implying she's attention-seeking. IMHO she's on here for support!

ameliagrey · 21/12/2011 15:39

Fatgoose that's very mean of you.

Most- possibly 80% of these 13 pages are comments from other MNs- so the OP is not dramatising it- other people are getting in on the act, so to speak.

The reason she didn't go over is, I presume that he was at work yesterday, she needed time to think, and shehas been at work- some people do have jobs you know!

And it's really not the kind of thing to ask over the phone is it?