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Just found a condom wrapper

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KissMyShineyRedA · 20/12/2011 14:54

I'm freaking out. As some of you know my DP went on a business trip. He borrowed my bag for hand luggage. I've just found the corner piece of a condom wrapper. I don't know what to do. I need to ask him face-to-face. Is there any way this could be innocent?! Help

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BecauseImperfect · 21/12/2011 15:43

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KissMyShineyRedA · 21/12/2011 15:50

Just spoke to him and kept it casual, hes coming round later. I need to get him by surprise so he's not prepared at all.

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fairimum · 21/12/2011 16:02

i personally hope it was all just a mistake - we found condom wrapper and various other bits in the bottom of drawers in hotels before - i am hoping he knows nothing about it and may have been scooped up when he took clothes from drawer in the hotel to re-pack xxx

PeppermintPasty · 21/12/2011 16:03

I thought that only sad people posted on MN repeatedly. I think that people with wonderful fulfilling lives should feck off and leave us all to it.

Good luck Kiss.

VajazzleMyFoof · 21/12/2011 16:07

Kiss i really hope you find out the truth later. Is it a give away when he lies. Can you tell straight away.

If so then you do need to finish with him. I know it will be hard, but do you really want to be with someone you cant trust.

You can then start 2012 single and obviously heartbroken but hopefully find a man who deserves you and be telling us about his annoying habits on here this time next year.

Good Luck and be strong.

Luminescence · 21/12/2011 16:10

Goat catching season I see.

Saturdaynightbeaver · 21/12/2011 16:12

You've scuppered me luminescence. Hands up, I confess, I'm not really 93! Xmas Grin

PetiteRaleuse · 21/12/2011 16:14

Once again am pretty Shock at how a thread on MN can turn into a really horrible place to be. OP I have followed this since yesterday. It does look very dodgy so be strong, and good luck asking him about it. As someone just said you do have the upper hand.

Cheats, if he is indeed a cheat, can be very good liars but when caught red handed, or almost as this case may be, will try and turn it back on to you. When I confronted a cheating ex he got so aggressive and accused me of paranoia. It took me ages to get up the courage to leave him, though I have reason to believe he cheated again and again and again.

I hope things will work out better for you.

And ignore the posters on this thread who aren't bringing you the support you so obviously need right now.

QueenCess · 21/12/2011 16:27

I don't understand why these nasty posters bother.....

ODDBALLS.

Good luck O.P.

ameliagrey · 21/12/2011 16:28

Kiss don't mention the condom straight o ff!1
be like the police when murderers ( on TV anyway) ask what evidence was found at the scene or how someone was killed- give nothing away- just the fact you think something happened- then he will be all flustered.

AnyFuckerForBreastorLeg · 21/12/2011 16:40

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VajazzleMyFoof · 21/12/2011 16:46

Xmas Grin at AnyFucker.

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KissMyShineyRedA · 21/12/2011 16:48

Thank you for the support. He's coming over at 7pm. Only 2 hours left of this crappynotknowingness x

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ImperialBlether · 21/12/2011 16:51

Best of luck, OP. If it turns out he's been up to something, I'd get him out of the house as calmly as possible and not let him see how upset you are.

Saturdaynightbeaver · 21/12/2011 16:51

If I push a glass to my ear and the other end to the monitor can I eavesdrop?

VajazzleMyFoof · 21/12/2011 16:52

Ooh il be at work then, but hope it all goes well. If it doesnt, try and have a good Christmas with your family and friends and look to 2012 as a fresh start.

AnyFuckerForBreastorLeg · 21/12/2011 16:57

oh blimey, kiss I thought you would have seen him by now

arrggh

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KissMyShineyRedA · 21/12/2011 16:59

Tell me about it AF.

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AnyFuckerForBreastorLeg · 21/12/2011 17:01

sorry, join me in a Brew and a handhold ?

HoudiniHissy · 21/12/2011 17:02

Sod the Brew! Here's Wine

recall · 21/12/2011 17:03

Been following this, good luck kiss

DonInKillerHeels · 21/12/2011 17:05

These threads always end the same way... so sorry.

fiventhree · 21/12/2011 17:06

god help us all, presents to get and wrap and a house to prepare for Xmas, and sitting here on mn.

I could kick myself, but I still do it!

Justcannt work out how to get these smileys on a thread.

But I never was technically proficient :)

dreamingbohemian · 21/12/2011 17:09

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NorkyPiesWithJingleBellsOn · 21/12/2011 17:10

Agree with Fairimum - he could have just scooped it up from the flloor or a drawer when packing his things.