men do confuse love and sex

[simplesimon]

Sneaking out of the shadows I suppose I am asking the Dads something although I can see it is a topic that has been covered before.

I love my wife she loves me but we have not made love in 6 years.

I think what scares me is the idea that she does not fancy me. More than that perhaps she is seeing someone else.

Help.

SS, am so sorry to hear that things are not better for you. Hope you don't mind me asking but have you tried relate or anything (easier said than done I know), can you tell us more stuff about your relationship...am not being nosey far from it.....my relationship details are on a very long thread only a few weeks ago and it has helped me a little....how are you and your dw at w/e's for example, is she doing the looking after, do you have any rels to look after ds so you two can have time together? not much use I know but want to help you

Weekends are when we get to argue more

We don't really have anyone who can help, and generally it's the only time I get to spend with our son. I do not think more time together would help, we would just be more angry and unhappy.

I tried relate twice, and both times they just wanted to help me come to terms with the end of the relationship, which as that seemed to be their starting position, didn't make me feel much better

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I was just answering a polite inquiry

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One question SS, was your relationship good before dd was born, were you mad about each other? If so, that says it all...my relationship was very different before children...I expect it to be much more romantic and passionate than it is...I suppose after being with someone a long time other things become important, like do you want to grow old with this women, do you feel comfortable doing things and being with her, other than just the sex...dh and I have a crap sex-life really, I'd love to be more pro-active but would need viagra 3 times a day because of all the responsibilty I have....I know this is a bit much but have you asked her face to face if she really loves you and wants you and only you?...please talk here I'm sure someone will have that key in the lock that can help you in some way,if you want the help that is...going on over...back to Coronation Street

I mean ds

I don't want to ask her if she loves me, as I'm frightened by what the answer we might be. We argue pretty much non-stop, she is angry about everything pretty much all of the time, and I am pissed off and unhappy about that most of the time. At the moment I try to spend as little time as possible with her.

I think I should leave, but I don't want to,not least because that seems very selfish.

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