From my point of view as a relative "youngun".
MY dh went through a stage before I met him, like most young lads in the mess having posters of nuts girls up etc. I was surprised when I met him, as he wasn't into all those mags or having posters up etc.
He said he grew out of it about 20 ish. When he realised it was all crap. Women don't look like this. He just though "yes very nice, but how much money does that cost and how much airbrushing". It's not what he looks for. He was looking for a real life woman, who does have the occasional stretch mark and cellulite, you know. Good job after 4 c-sections my stomach is like a roadmap. He knew this lad mag image was just not real. He could go forever looking for what they say is perfect and end up alone.
I'm not insecure, I'd actually say I was really quite pretty tbh. I look younger, bit of a baby body, but meh, I've had kids. I don't envy or feel jealous of these women at all. I feel sorry for them. Also my husband is what I'd call very good looking. He gets plenty of glances he looks the spit of Jonathan Rhys Meyers.
I'm getting that in as we have had the old insult, I suspect the ugly one is coming at some point.
Anyway we do have a good sex life, I think there is two factors to that. We communicate and make the effort. I also think the fact he hasn't been brainwashed by porn and all the lads mag culture. Means I get a good deal. He is considerate, not trying to get me into a gangbang, gagging, humiliation, etc. He knows this is not a normal, mutually enjoyable sex life.
Unfortunately now, men see mainstream porn. It's all gangbangs, gagging, anal, choking. I challenge anyone into porn to go into a mainstream site and honestly find ONE video that does not feature the above.
Young men and women are now growing up to see this is NORMAL. I know many men in their twenties do. Thankfully mine doesn't. You can tell the women whose husbands are prolific porn users btw. As all they ever talk about is their shit sex life and being treated like a skivvy. That is from my experience.
All people are trying to do, is say to people, if you don't like it, as a woman, you don't have to accept it, you don't have to lie down and say, that's what men do. As it allows them to carry on, breeding what kind of future for our children wrt, healthy relationships. As more men see it as their god given right to ignore their partners feelings, jerking off to more extreme porn, skewing their views on reality.
I absolutely live in fear of what will be in the future, if porn keeps on as it is. We all know at some point into the teenage years, our children will access it somehow, if not ours, future partners of our children. Is this the status quo we really want?
I suggest looking at some of the links posted. For you wine, it maybe too much to soon. Hollywood have tried to address the issues in films such as Taken with Bradley Cooper. It's a crap film, but it's about the kidnap and trafficking and drugging of women, for prostitution, sex services, et al. It's not pretty.
Some people like porn, some people don't. Some people for some reasons, some for others. No not all porn is with compromised women, how do you know which is. The content is becoming more extreme. No doubt about that.
What it comes down to porn aside, substitute it for a computer game. Ops husband is ignoring her, not showing her any intimacy and is playing the game, rather than be with her and lying to her about it.
That is not a good or healthy relationship.