worried about OH porn use leading onto something more?

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Hi, just wanted some advice from those that know. OH has been looking a quite a bit of porn recently on line, which I am a little upset over having recently had a baby and feeling very unattractive myself. Everytime I ask if he has been looking at porn he says no, even though it pops up the next day as I open a new tab. But he prefers to lie than just admit it? Recently though having looked at what he had looked at because of his denial thing and pop up came up. Saying something like "hey sexy, Im dying to speak to you". I asked him about it and he said he has no idea why this popped up. Anyways I didn't believe him so clicked on this pop up which then took me directly to Adult Friend Finder, on a page which showed local women looking for sex. So to me it seems as though he must have searched that site?

I again asked him about it and he said it must just be linked to some of the other websites he has looked on and that they know is location through our IP address?

I feel sick to my stomach to think he has been searching for local women or god knows what else. I just dont know if what he is saying is true re the IP address?

He is pretty convincing and I don't know if I'm being a bit dim.

Our relationship hasn't been great recently, two young children, no intimacy so I think who would blame him if he was looking elsewhere. I just can't figure out if he is telling the truth.

Lisa, your strident "charm" is really quite something to behold

well done you !

OP sorry love, I suggest you hide your own thread now

the very mention of porn appears to bring out the woman-hating men, complete with their handmaidens sashaying before them with their red carpet

not your fault of course...all you were asking for was a bit of support and understanding xx

Well i do my best you get no where in life sat on the fence or could be worse i could be sheep and do what most people do on here and follow the leader.

LMAO @ Women-hating men!!!

Oh hilarious.

I think most people know that these 'pop ups' are a result of IP and not because someone has searched for 'hot sexy young women in your area'

Come on, are people that niave?

That doesn't negate OP's partner looking at porn and the fact that this upsets her though. Or his lies. Both of which signal a lack of regard for her feelings.

But hes not lying. Hes said hes not looked at porn unles its in the hisory how can she accuse him because of a stupid pop up. Best thing OP can do i get a pop blocker!!

BTW changed my halloween name!!

zombie you were harsh

there is no need for it

nor for the personal insults, either

what part of hes not lying or lookin at porn are you people not getting THERE POPUPS!

lisa contrary to popular belief, many people in the UK are not au fait with the workings of porn sites and their associated hangers-on to IP sites

and for that, I am glad

a bit of compassion for the OP, who already feels like shit...is that too much to ask ?

instead...you attempt to reduce her feelings to nothing

good work

hey, we don't need the woman-hating men do we ?

we just need other women to do all the work for them

and you would only get adult pop ups if you had been looking at adult/porn sites. I never look at porn on my PC and I've never had any adult pop up or targeted adult advertising. I do get annoying embedded advertising that refers to last thing I looked at on Amazon etc..

Anyway, if your marriage is sexless at the moment due to your exhaustion, it is really important to communicate about this and discuss it with your DH. I'd leave the porn question aside for now and just talk about the lack of sex together and how it feels for both of you.

Does grammar and spelling matter?
If sum1 waz tlkng lke dis den id undrstnd, but people aren't are they?

Im not trying to make the OP feel any more shitter than she does but she clearly ignored all the other posters saying its pops up, IP, etc etc and went straight to Malifence(SP) who said 'hes lying'

How is he? If he ahsnt being on the sites then he hasnt being on the sites.

Errm actually Eurostar no thats not true, i have looked at sites unrelated to anything sexual and still got the pop ups. Get a pop up blocker or turn it on in settings and they will stop. They are IP based and therefore pop up hence their name 'Pop Up'

anyfucker- like i admitted it was harsh which is why i reposted i only bit at you because of your comment to me if you cant take it dont give it.
How nice do you think it is to be called a woman hater? I adore my wife and would do anything for her maybe me and you should think before we post as none of our bickering is helping the original issue. Like i said dont waste your time arguing about crap that dosnt exist.

Next you'll be saying 'You got pop ups because your DH has being looking at Porn Sites' which i can safetly say no he hasnt because he doesnt use my Laptop.
And even if he did it wouldnt bother me.

if you are trying to out-manoevre someone verbally, then yes, spelling and grammar matter

I think it's already been established he has been on porn sites, since OP has found evidence of it

wrt the AFF pop-ups, OP may well have been convinced that they attach to your IP address without you necessarily having used them if people hadn't jumped on her, calling her stupid

all we need now is some inadequate sap/his Stepford Wife telling her all she needs to do is put some lippy on and give him more blow jobs

problem solved

yeah

Orr the usual response of Relationships which is 'leave the bastard'

I assume zombie is infamousryzer ?

you didn't need to "bite" anything in the first place

you could have said what you said kindly...so if you don't want to get bitten, keep your fangs covered

and do I "know" you ?

I think you can get porn pop ups from going on illegal download sites where you get links to music, films etc.

Regarding "being honest" there are just as many women that would go mad if their partner admitted to looking at porn as would be untroubled by it and appreciate their being honest.

lisa you forgot "and MN is a bunch of dried up lesbian bullies who never get any sex" too

since you seem intent on talking in cliches, I thought that might help you along a bit and make your posts seem a little less tedious

Oh you do make me laugh.

You know you talk so much shite you could sell sand to the arabs!

I don't think some of these illiterate posters have read the thread.

It's not just about the pop-ups (though funnily enough, my PC isn't besieged by pop-ups either, funny that....) the OP knows her partner uses porn and tells lies. She is quite entitled to want neither to feature in her relationship.

oh well whatever. Some people would argue that the sky isnt blue.