The Brave Babes Battle Bus - We're All Going On A Sober Holiday!

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Hello, I'm Mouse

Welcome to the Brave Babe's Bus. This is a bus full of drinkers old and new, sober and not, and those who are somewhere in between.

We are all at different levels of sober so you can bet that one of us has walked in your shoes.

If you want advice and support then you're in the right place.

Come take a seat or just lurk, we're happy to have you along for the ride.

And here is a link to the last thread so you can catch up on the journey so far HERE

saf iI have been playing this today
to keep the energy levels up

OOh - did that work?

ooh - my first link ... who knows what I can acheive now!!

Happy birthday to Venus - hope you have a wonderful day.
mouse thinking of you and know that you will be back on track soon. I had two glassed last night and then managed to stop so a bit of a result.

mouse I remember when you first came here. You'd been on someone else's thread (we know who) talking about your drinking. You didn't think you could do it then. You didn't think you wanted to do it. But you did. You started by cutting down, drinking less vodka, then moving on to having a day without alcohol, then another one, then a few in a row. If I can remember it, then I'm sure you can.

And I remember littlemouse when you wrote about that horrible drunken evening when you wanted to get up for your darling nemo. You said that you never wanted to risk a repeat of that. I'm sorry if this is bringing up painful memories for you mouse, and I'm sorry if I'm making you feel angry with me for doing it. But I don't know what else I can say that would help.

You sometimes post to other people that they will only do it when they feel ready. Today you may not feel like doing it for yourself, but can you do it today for nemo? or can you at least try to do it for nemo. If you don't manange it, then you don't manage it, but maybe you could just try for a little while? If you even make an attempt at it then you might feel much more celebratory with the champagne tomorrow.

Well done Saf. Those days are no mean feat. I feel we all need a big HURRAH for all those days we didn't drink. Why is it that ONE drink seems to wipe out all our previous achievements in our own minds?

ma you did really, really well to stop at 2 drinks. Must've taken a lot of resolve. Give yourself a pat on the back too.

We all have wobbles and what I love about this bus is that it's never all of us wobbling at the same time. There will be someone ready to help hold you up (or pick you up and place you gently in the trailer with some cushions ).

Today I'm having a good day. Tomorrow, meh.

Oh god. I'm almost a bottle in and I have another one ready. I can't stop, I just can't. Not tonight anyway.

Oh god. I'm almost a bottle in and I have another one ready. I can't stop, I just can't. Not tonight anyway.

thornrose one of the most difficult things to do is to stop once you have started. Is there anything you can do to slow things down - drink some juice, take a break and go and clean you teeth with lots of toothpaste.

Has something happened to make you want a drink today?

Are you on your own? Are you safe? Can you ask anyone to come and be with you?

Everything has made me want to drink today. My dd's behavior is spiralling out of c9ntrol and taking me with her. Her fears her phobias her ocds her anxieties her anger.

I'm locked in my house all Windows must be closed because of het fear of flies. Every few minutes she calls me because she thinks she hears a buzzing noise. I am not protecting her (her words) drinking makes it bearable.
Sorry I'm spoiling your birthday.

How old is your dd? Is there anyone who can come and sit with her for half an hour while you go out and stamp around outside to work off your frustration?

She's 11, she's falling apart. I' m really ok, sorry to worry anyone.

thornrose so sorry your dd is struggling at the moment. How old is she? It can be so difficult to be patient. What other things have happened today to make you feel like this. Can you talk to us about it?

Does she get any help with it - CPN or similar. Have you thought about calling Parentline website here. They have an onine chat facility with counsellors or a 24hr phone line 0808 800 2222

I called them years ago when my dc had mental health problems and I really felt listened to when I could speak to no-one else.

She has Asperger's, she has OCD's and they are relentless. Every minute of every day.

We are waiting on CAMHS referral. She has had CBT but her fears keep changing and it's hard to keep up. I feel helpless and drawn into the madness.
I love my child and I'm afraid I sound like I don't care. I do but I am only human.

Do you normally post on the SN threads here on mn?

I know what it's like to feel like that with your child. the frustration doesn't stop you loving them, but sometimes you could just do without it.

Venus I will try them tomorrow when I don't sound pissed.fair just a response has made me feel less desperate thank you.

I don' t post on SN as I'm afraid to express how I feel because it'd meant to be about the child first. And it is but just now and then I crack.

You can email them too or chat to the helpline on skype, if you don;t want to speak to anyone.

Maybe writing it all down in an email would help you to think it through? And no-one knows you've been drinking when you're tryping.

I've never posted on the SN threads, but I'm guessing that many people on there will understand exactly how you are feeling. They will all have been at the end of their tether at sometime, and I imagine that a fair few will also have used alcohol to dull things for themsleves.

Where are you with your drinking at the moment?

Sorry, I had to pop out there.

Glad you're feeling a little better thornrose

Keep posting if it helps.

I think venus is right about the SN threads, there must be loads of parents who know what it's like when it all gets a bit too much.

I can't post and drink so had half hour off at least. am about to cook dinner so I have slowed down. Thanks SO much for sparing the time to talk.