MrsMiggins takes control of her life BACK

[MrsMiggins]

here it is then....have to still be MrsMiggins as its the lady out of Blackadder and nothing to do with my RL.....

God this is going to be so hard

I feel calm again
Had a shouting/crying fit at tea time so DS & DD were crying too then left them eating icecream in the kitchen

Then just spoke to H on phone & couldnt help myself - getting cross and accusing with him while I could hear the dispair in his voice.
Hes just said about talking about money etc so again, why cant I believe that its final?

feel a bit sorry for HER being in hospital although last night I suddenly wondered if she was pregnant and thats why he left - after all he allegedly ended it 8 weeks ago....see doing it to myself again

I must print off Ggglimpopo's list and stick it on every phone in the house :-

I will not cry/beg/plead/yell
I will be cool, dignified and distant
I will pamper myself
Myself and my children are the most important people in my world
I will eat at least one delicious thing per day
I will buy something I lust after and display it where it will make me smile (shoes did it for me)
I will have a to-die-for haircut

I deserve better. He will be sorry.

However I feel calm again and am going to finish the kitchen, and am going to have a lovely weekend, and have booked a babysitter for Monday night so I can go to the gym, and I have a lovely new handbag which says "ILCK - If Looks Could Kill", and new jeans & top, and bought DD lovely cardigan - I dont usually buy brand new clothes for my kids but H never fails to buy himself lots of new clothes.

and my friend said last night that if he goes skiing in the spring with HER, why dont I go another time? after all he has holiday and can look after the kids - even if it was just a long weekend....and shes right - if hes going to have them at weekends, I need to start saving so I can do nice things for myself

thanks you guys

I know I dont know you personally but you really have helped me from going mad

I will try to rant on here if I feel bad rather than lowering myself to rant at H who clearly doesnt care....

good luck MrsMiggins

dont forget your pie shop

think you have done brilliantly so far.

Good on you Mrs M

You sound like a very strong woman who is just discovering how strong she can be after being trodden underfoot by a complete and utter tw*t.

Good on you. Keep on thinking about you and your little ones and you'll find even more strength to get you all through what is likely to be a fairly traumatic time all round.

We're always here to listen and to give you a boost when your courage is flagging.

Rant away! Rant here. Call it venting or bitching or whatever. We can take it. Then you appear calm, cool and collected to your H and kids.

well done MrsM. i had a fab time when i was single and xp had kids at weekend. i sometimes find it rather hard having a man around now cos i know what im missing being single

Well done MrsM - I have been following your other thread but had nothing constructive to add so I stuck to sending you strength vibes instead. I think it is a good idea to vent on here for another reason too - I think other MNers in similar position to yours have found it helpful to read over their threads to remind themselves of just how much progress they have already made.

wow sobernow - I have to say your background sounds v v similar to mine and yes, I do respect my dad more - in fact I dont talk to my mum about my feelings in this matter as it makes me want to say "you made dad feel like this"

just so hard

still I actually have printed off the sheet and am going to stick them on my phones

Mrs well done you! I have been trying to be strong but lost it last night crying on phone to DH pathetic!

I need to get a grip go back to the gym regain my diet and control at least one aspect of my life.

My dd 10 sent me another email whilst I was away to say he has been going on divorce web sites and she was upset. I told her to speak to him about it. Oh well I suppose at least I know what is really on his mind.

Hijacking thread: Glitterfairy... hold on in there. Don't beat yourself up. You don't need him but you are human take care.

Mrs Miggins, there is a message on the other thread from me. Glad you started a positive thread

Good on you, MrsMiggins.

Your doing a fine job, Mrs. Miggins. Keep it up.

whaey a new thread well done MM you are sounding so strong. But please don't feel quilty when you have a bad morning/afternoon day. just rant and rave at us. He's not worth giving your emotions too

just turned computer on before bed because...althought I have finished painting kitcehn {grin] and looks better than my hair AND have just had a lovely chat to my friend for over an hour....I have this incredible urge to rin/txt him as I know he is all alone as SHE is in hospital

I CANT HELP IT
I STILL LOVE HIM
I STILL MISS HIM

BUT I have come on MN to tell you lot instead....and tomorrow I am ringing work & taking days holiday, and then tidying house from top to bottom & trying to find a solictor for some good advice

Good girl!

Sod him! Sod her! Sod the lot of them!

You keep up the good work.

Am a member of your cheer squad! Hurrah for MrsM!!!!!!!

you lot are wonderful and I feel much better for comign on here rather than phoning him.

Im deffo off to bed - need my beuaty sleep to try to grow more hair

you cant BELIEVE how short it is !!!!

night night

Nighty night.

Remember as you go to bed.....

You are strong!
You are beautiful!
You are a fab mummy!
You are a survivor!

You seem to be doing really well MrsM. Keep it up. It must be so tough but you are being really strong.

I havent been where you are but my SIL has and the best thing she did was take her ExH out of the equation, in that, she stopped making decisions with him in mind, stopped expecting anything of him (including that he might come back) wondering what he was up to/might think/, etc. Its still raw for you but when you get to the point where he doesnt come into every aspect of your life (kids excepted of course) you will feel so free and rejuvenated. I hope that makes sense.

You and your kids first always. Will continue to watch your thread .....

Notice there aren't any posts here this morning from you, MrsMiggins. Hope this means you are at the solicitor.

Sending you vibes of strength to get through the day -- one at a time.

Will look later to see how you are.

am at work
decided to take afternoon off to tidy house and put H's clothes in bags ready for him to take Friday AND am going to move my clothes to his wardrobe as bigger than mine

my brother is being brilliant and has been finding out about local solicitors for me so am going to ring them later for a chat or meeting.
Am still worried about how I will pay for solicitors BUT also worried about house etc so guess I just need to be prepared.

my DS came into bed this mornign which he never does and at nursery said he wouldnt go to Xmas party without me - I think he is afraid I will leave too.

am concerned H is reading these threads and might get wind BUT there again he didnt bother reading a 2 page letter I gave him so dont expect he'll be looking on here.

oh well if he is, "hello you w@nker"

later girls
xx

mrsmiggins, good for you ... keep strong.
I am findingthe hardest thing is it's the last thing I think about when I go to bed and the first thing I think about when I wake up. BEcause I do most of my work from home - and therefore spend alot of time alone - I seem to be having a running commentary with myself about what has happened and how I feel. Was really p*ssed off to dream about it all last night as well!! But like you I am resolved. Thinking of you

yeah second that MrsMiggins.

Hello you wakr . You will find out one day that you have missed out on spending the rest of you life with a sexy,strong and together woman.

What you don't realise is things can sometimes be tough with little children but stick around and the best was yet to come.Shame because some man who deserves her will get all that.She deserves better.

Message for homewreker if your reading too. What goes around comes around.How do you sleep at night.

rant over.Love to you MM hope your life gets better and remember the best is yet to come xxx

Oh what fun. Can we all leave nasty messages on here for Mr. Miggins. Trouble is anything that would be appropriate to say to the To**er might get me banned from Mumsnet... And I surely couldn't live without mumsnet.

Oooo Mr. Muggins have (dis)comfort in knowing your wife's friends on mumsnet will support her until she is over your sorry arse. Bast*rd! Go stick your willy in a blender.

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