MrsMiggins takes control of her life BACK

[MrsMiggins]

here it is then....have to still be MrsMiggins as its the lady out of Blackadder and nothing to do with my RL.....

God this is going to be so hard

I feel calm again
Had a shouting/crying fit at tea time so DS & DD were crying too then left them eating icecream in the kitchen

Then just spoke to H on phone & couldnt help myself - getting cross and accusing with him while I could hear the dispair in his voice.
Hes just said about talking about money etc so again, why cant I believe that its final?

feel a bit sorry for HER being in hospital although last night I suddenly wondered if she was pregnant and thats why he left - after all he allegedly ended it 8 weeks ago....see doing it to myself again

I must print off Ggglimpopo's list and stick it on every phone in the house :-

I will not cry/beg/plead/yell
I will be cool, dignified and distant
I will pamper myself
Myself and my children are the most important people in my world
I will eat at least one delicious thing per day
I will buy something I lust after and display it where it will make me smile (shoes did it for me)
I will have a to-die-for haircut

I deserve better. He will be sorry.

However I feel calm again and am going to finish the kitchen, and am going to have a lovely weekend, and have booked a babysitter for Monday night so I can go to the gym, and I have a lovely new handbag which says "ILCK - If Looks Could Kill", and new jeans & top, and bought DD lovely cardigan - I dont usually buy brand new clothes for my kids but H never fails to buy himself lots of new clothes.

and my friend said last night that if he goes skiing in the spring with HER, why dont I go another time? after all he has holiday and can look after the kids - even if it was just a long weekend....and shes right - if hes going to have them at weekends, I need to start saving so I can do nice things for myself

thanks you guys

I know I dont know you personally but you really have helped me from going mad

I will try to rant on here if I feel bad rather than lowering myself to rant at H who clearly doesnt care....

mrsm so glad to hear you r being positive
the list is wonderful
there will be times when u will feel low but keep ya chin up girl coz u said it yourself
'you deserve better'
good luck sweetie
xxx

Hi - I have been following your thread - I am so sorry that this has happened to you - But you are so strong and such an inspiration. Keep strong - I know that it is not easy and that even when you are being strong you can feel crap inside. Just wanted to send you my support and love.

Good Luck

xx

MrsM - Ive been following your story as well, esp as I am about to split finally with dx. Keep going, things can only get better from here onwards - thats what I keep telling myself anyway

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Hi ggglimpopo - thank you for asking - better - she has left work (sacked? persuaded to leave? don't know) we have been to relate who were fantastic. As I will never know whether he slept with her don't want to break up my family but made it very clear that over familiar secretive friendships/relationships are not on. Hopefully nothing like this will ever happen again.

Sorry Mrs Miggins - didn't mean to hijack

i've tried to stay away from this one so i don't really know all the story.

he cheated on you and is running away with someone else?

take him for every f*&king penny he has. nail him to the ground.

... and then see if he manages to go on a ski holiday.

forgot to tell you all
painted the kitchen wearing one of his jumpers

have come home to sort the house out as is a mess and want toget back to normality for my children

Daddycool, he's running away with the same woman whom he cheated with. She's his team leader at work. She's been divorced for six months and lives with her parents. He's due back tomorrow to collect his clothes, which will be suitably packed up in plastic rubbiosh bags.

Go miggins go!!

Did you get to a solicitor today?

wow. what an arsehole!

MM - want to add my support as well - u take him to the cleaners girl. the whole letter thingy shows his real thoughts. so get those walls up around u and don't give in to him.

(hope it was a best jumper and u got paint all over it!) he he

make him so poverty stricken he has to patch up the holes in his shoes with duct tape and take a shower at the local leisure centre.

And what color is the kitchen? Something he hates hopefully.

cotton candy pink?

Daddycool, this has all happened this week. And she has found the energy to go to work, care for her two young children, and get this... she's painted the kitchen too.

that's fantastic. well i hope this just proves a clean slate so you can get on with the rest of your life miggins.

i wouldn't pack his clothes in bags. i (if i were a lady) would do this!

LOL daddycool, that's a fab idea.
MM, you are doing so well. We're all behind you here. Stay strong.

daddycool.

MrsMiggins I haven't posted before but just wanted to add my best wishes. You are doing incredibly well. But make sure you protect your (and your children's) interests and see that solicitor. Knowledge is power and all that. And I wouldn't have thought that unless he is in a very well paid job he would be able to afford a skiing holiday.

no it is a nice neutral colour so that if I have to sell, its one less thing to worry about

see?
ever the practical one

today I was cheeky to one of my male collegues and felt a twinkle in my eye - I dont mean sexually or anything like that - just that I was having fun and being the old me - she disappeared but suddenly, now that the uncertainty has gone, she is rapidly returning

Im not naive, I know I'll have bad days and in a month when everyone thinks its all OK & Ive got over it, it will still be bad BUT at least I dont have the insecurity of my feelings anymore

turning off computer til tonight now otherwise be on all afternoon and I have house to tidy and bin bags to pack

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just had a shitty evening
I know I shouldnt be drinking wine along but thought I would ve Ok
Im not
ended up crying down phone to SIL....how can he just switch off his emotions for me?
why doesnt he want his family anymore

I need to go to bed and try to be positive tomorrow

Things will get better, honestly.