what was the worst thing anyone ever said to you...

[Snapespeare]

...in the context of a relationship breakdown..?

mine was, finding out my ex had been screwing around behind my back, having a huge fight and his parting shot was, 'no man will ever want you now! i mean, single parent - three kids!'

I'm pretty sure he isn't the biggest c*nt out there! :) (and i do know it wasn't true!) But i really think it's cathartic to write it down...

alternatively, what was the worst thing you ever said? ( I of course, am a paragon of virtue and have never said anything mean or cheap!)

My dear mother was viciously abusive, both verbally and physically. The verbal and emotional abuse was far worse than the slaps etc. I have bipolar disorder and I believe she did too, with perhaps a side order of narc or PD. There was no effective treatment for bipolar until 1973, and she would never have accepted it anyway. So I was her punchbag. Here are a few little gems from her repertoire:

(On finding out I'd had an elder sister who died shortly after her birth and crying because I'd never known her) "What you crying FOR?" (She used to snap out the last word of an insult on an upward inflection.) When I told her why she said "I don't know why YOU'RE crying - if she'd lived you wouldn't be here." She forbade me to tell Dad I knew and I never did.

Then the usual "Nasty little cow. Nasty little bitch. I didn't want you - you were your father's idea. If I had to have a second child at all I wanted a boy. I don't like girls." Over and over again. I was also mad and "peCUliar" apparently, from an early age. When I got depression at sixteen, it was nutty-fruit-cake, funny ah-ah, loopy Lulu, nutty Nora, dinny bitch (dinny is local slang for mad). When my marriage broke up, she was vile (as in "what took him so long? I always said he was too good for you"), and I stopped loving her and trying to please her. But I didn't desert her and did my best for her, including arranging a decent funeral. Duty, not love but at least I have nothing to reproach myself with.

stbxh:

"You're about to get hit."
"If you leave me while you're carrying my child, I will make your life hell."
"You stupid fucking bitch!"
"I would rather kill you and myself rather than let you leave me."

DM:

"I'm sorry I ever gave birth to you."