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what was the worst thing anyone ever said to you...

202 replies

Snapespeare · 04/03/2011 13:27

...in the context of a relationship breakdown..?

mine was, finding out my ex had been screwing around behind my back, having a huge fight and his parting shot was, 'no man will ever want you now! i mean, single parent - three kids!' Hmm

I'm pretty sure he isn't the biggest c*nt out there! :) (and i do know it wasn't true!) But i really think it's cathartic to write it down...

alternatively, what was the worst thing you ever said? ( I of course, am a paragon of virtue and have never said anything mean or cheap!)

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Yika · 04/03/2011 21:07

"You're not pretty but you've got big tits."

'Date' in my teenage years helpfully explaining why I managed to snag him.

Blatherskite · 04/03/2011 21:11

ExP swore blind that he was not leaving me to be with one of our friends - to everyone else....

In front of me he'd say "I'm leaving for the weekend and yes, I'm going to be with Rachel"

Twunt also threatened to suit me for every penny he'd spent on me while we'd been together Confused

Still, he doesn't beat my Dad who told me that he hated me and that everyone else only liked me because they didn't know me well enough to hate me yet. Sad

Yika · 04/03/2011 21:18

Oh I've just thought of another.

"My family think you're a whore".

XP who has since become one of my best friends and I love his family too!

blathserskite unbelievable comment from your dad!! Shock

Numberfour · 04/03/2011 21:24

Blatherskite Sad

Blatherskite · 04/03/2011 21:35

It is unfortuneatley true - and part of the reason I haven't seen him for 13/14 years. Some people you are just better off without.

iamstrong · 04/03/2011 21:37

your ok apart from the fat thighs and thin lips.

happiernow · 04/03/2011 21:37

XP 'if you lost weight and changed your hairstyle you would be alright looking'

I'd been on a night out which turned out to be a turned into a night form hell- i was raped, the next day when i saw XP he laughed in my face and said 'that'll teach you to keep your legs shut!'- that one stung

BelleDameSansMerci · 04/03/2011 21:40

happiernow Shock Bloody hell - that's just fucking awful.

happiernow · 04/03/2011 21:48

from not form

Beamur · 04/03/2011 21:50

There are some truly awful people out there.
Mine is in a lighter vein - my first serious boyfriend and I were in the death throws of our relationship, we had a row which he had ended by shouting 'You'd be the perfect girlfriend if you weren't so fucking annoying'.
It was an odd compliment in a way.

lazarusb · 04/03/2011 21:53

Shock Sad - to a LOT of posters on this thread.
'It's the only way to get through to her' - ex explaining to my dh why he felt the need to hit me on a regular basis.
'She's on drugs and a prostitute' same ex to the magistrates in a family law court. 'Can you prove that allegation?' asks the magistrate. 'Well....no'. I nearly passed out laughing Grin

happiernow · 04/03/2011 21:54

Belle it felt bloody awful 2

kgg123 · 04/03/2011 21:54

When my husband of 33 years half way through the deed said "this is just sex you know" when I asked him what he meant, he repeated the statement. Then i cottoned on, i said you mean this is not making love. I realised then that the marriage was over and he did not love me anymore. I told him to go and he did and that was the end of 2/3s of my life.

JaneS · 04/03/2011 21:56

'I know it's not great but H and I have been seeing each other and we've decided to make a go of it now the lease is up on this place'.

My ex, whom I'd been living with for the last 14 months and paying the rent for. Idiot that I am. It was said absolutely calmly too, as if it were perfectly reasonable that he'd want to move on now he'd got all the money he could. It was the first I'd heard of H and he'd let me spend days looking for a new flat to live in and put a deposit on one with space for both of us.

Bastard.

Sad that I feel lucky compared to some here - there are a lot of pricks out there.

Mumfun · 04/03/2011 22:02

So Angry for some of you

Amazonian - I share your pain. When I phoned to tell my mother that my H had been having an affair, she said No wonder if you were as bad to him as youve been to me Shock I then had to question her about the family medical history as at the same time Id been diagnosed with a very serious medical condition -her only concern was whether she could get this serious condition herself!!!!

Not surprisingly I also have no contact..

Particles · 04/03/2011 22:02

Ex once told me he would cut my face so nobody would ever want me. This was many years ago and now I'm married to a lovely man and it all seems like it happened to a different person, it's hard to even remember a lot of the relationship.

Some really horrible things have been said to a lot of us so just wanted to offer my support and point out that the only thing wrong with any of us is the men we have chosen to attach ourselves to!

BertieBasset · 04/03/2011 22:05

"No offence but when you're younger you have this picture of who you'll end up with... but then you end up with someone like you."

"Women don't age well, you're past your best" (I was 25)

I'm not being funny but out of the 2 of us I was the looker Grin

BertieBasset · 04/03/2011 22:06

Sorry mine seem so flippant and are knobby rather than dreadful, I can't believe what some of you have been through Sad

garlicbutter · 04/03/2011 22:12

Bertie, if it weren't for the age difference I'd think your ex was my first one Grin He was always saying we got into clubs thanks to his gorgeousness ... Nothing to do with the fact that I knew all of the owners, oh no Hmm

garlicbutter · 04/03/2011 22:12

buggered up me underthing, there

monkeysmum79 · 04/03/2011 22:17

After I cheated on my boyfriend he said to me ' your fanny is like a dustbin!'
Still makes me laugh today... I only cheated to get rid of him in the first place. I got fed up of him wanking all over my carpet when he would come home pissed at 5 in the morning 'asshole'. Thankful to be rid of him.Grin

Portofino · 04/03/2011 22:21

My exH. "But we are married now. I don't expect you to want to go to the pub anymore. My mum has her hobbies and cooks proper dinners. You can take up knitting/sewing or something" Me - but I am 23, I don't like sewing, and want to go out with my friends. "Well, you can be a PROPER wife, or Go!"

I left immediately, of course. Wink

tb · 04/03/2011 22:23

Ex-fiancé (narrow escape thank goodness):
Your bottom is too big for a trouser suit - size 10-12, 8 1/2 stone 5'4" Shock
You are a hateful bitch and God will never forgive you (for breaking off the engagement) when he came into my room in a hall of residence while I was asleep. I hadn't locked the door, and hardly anyone knew I was no longer engaged, so he'd walked in without being challenged. He's a vicar, and apparently has the power to control divine forgiveness or npd.

My dm - the only person I feel sorry for in all this, is his wife. She was talking about a man who had sexually abused me, and whom she had invited to our home for a holiday when I was 12 and she knew he'd abused me. Thankfully she disowned me about 3 months after that remark and I've not seen her since - 16 years ago.

Another one from her - I met mrs x (ex-f's dm) and she told me that exf had told her it was mutual. Bastard hadn't told his dm that it was me who broke it off. Grrr - moral cowardice alive and kicking in the CofE.

Ex-f when being interviewed about sex with an underage girl (14), when he was 25. 'I knew it was against the church's rules on sex before marriage'. Apparently he neither knew, nor cared that he was commiting a criminal offense. And he got away with it, because when I was finally brave enough to report it, the offense was out of time.

lazarusb · 04/03/2011 22:24

'That must be a pain in the arse'. FIL after I told him my step-mother had been given 3 weeks to live because she had bowel cancer. I will never forgive or forget that one. My only regret is not telling him exactly what I thought of him at that moment.