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what was the worst thing anyone ever said to you...

202 replies

Snapespeare · 04/03/2011 13:27

...in the context of a relationship breakdown..?

mine was, finding out my ex had been screwing around behind my back, having a huge fight and his parting shot was, 'no man will ever want you now! i mean, single parent - three kids!' Hmm

I'm pretty sure he isn't the biggest c*nt out there! :) (and i do know it wasn't true!) But i really think it's cathartic to write it down...

alternatively, what was the worst thing you ever said? ( I of course, am a paragon of virtue and have never said anything mean or cheap!)

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macdoodle · 08/03/2011 07:37

Actually the worst my XH said, was with a "sad pained look", after confronting him yet again about still seeing the OW, " I absolutely swear on my daughter's life I am not seeing her". Suffice to say he was lying. I think that was when my love for him truly died.

LittleMissHissyFit · 08/03/2011 21:31

After the 10th anniversary of my having survived a suicide attempt.

Ex said 'You should've tried harder'

ledkr · 08/03/2011 21:44

we all had some real catches there didnt we?
I must admit when its that extreme it tends to lose its impact as its so ridiculous.
macdoodle my ex told me he was a hard core drug user to account for the ow number on his mobile bill about a million times Shock

Articulate · 08/03/2011 22:13

'You're the most loathsome, foul creature I've ever had the misfortune to lay eyes on'. That was my charming step-father, just prior to throwing me out at 16.

He's mellowed with age, and I've had to find it in me to forgive him, and I have and we've moved on. You don't forget though do you.

justhalfwaythere · 08/03/2011 23:04

Ex said

  1. he had to keep his eyes shut during sex as seeing me put him off
  2. he kept taking photos of me getting ready to go out with my sister - only time he allowed this - I was a size 10 and had on jeans and bra - it was to show me how much weight I had put on
  3. when I told him I was leaving him - he called the kids together and told them that men sent naked pictures of themselves to me and I would then pick which ones to sleep with - kids all at primary school. NOT TRUE
  4. when I did leave - told friends that I would look at porn on internet and leave it on for kids to see
NOT TRUE

I could go on - basically possessive, controlling and abusive and alienated people against me. (But v happy now with lovely husband)

happiestblonde · 09/03/2011 10:07

ExP - countless things. He hated me, I was a stupid frigid bitch (no, I just don't want to have sex with you because you're a) shit in bed b) a complete cunt c)you're also a violent twat who routinely breaks into my house and tried to turn all mutual friends against me), noone would ever love me because I loved myself too much (projection), my current P is basically an immoral paedophile (he was both me and XP's university tutor - I was 21 he was 29... idiot)

Current P - darling, now you're taking a pre-PhD 'career break', do you think you could possibly assist me in the cleaning, cooking etc? Blush

Ex best friend - You bought your A levels and are incapable of seeing beyond the M25 (private school, live in Surrey/SW London - all too much for that Manchester class warrior)

Skifit · 09/03/2011 10:17

An Ex said "Fuck off", plus after 5 weeks apart and me taking care of HIS son he said, "I have moved on". . .

Lookingfoxy you are so right.

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LadyOfTheManor · 09/03/2011 10:38

My ex was an abusive man.

It wasn't so much what he said, but what he did.

He spat in my face, and then walked out of the door.

Several broken bones later I left him and moved on.

gettingout · 09/03/2011 11:25

Macdoodle that is exactly what my ex-h said when confronted with his affair. "I swear on the children's lives I'm not having an affair". Because I would never swear on my kids lives for anything except the total and utter truth I believed him so he continued his affair for another few months. But truly any feelings I had for him from our 17 year relationship died there and then. Later he said "it wasn't an affair - it was a fling So I wasn't lying" Biscuit

Downunderdolly · 09/03/2011 12:05
  1. Funny one from university boyfriend who leant over, gently tilted my nose slightly upwards and said "gosh you would be really beautiful if your nose was a bit smaller".
  1. Less funny one from DH who left me a week into IVF (but we continued with process to put embryos in freezer as I thought and thought he thought we would work through things) said when I was bleeding in hospital gown after egg collection "you can cry all you like but I just don't feel anything for you anymore".
  1. Funny one from soon to be ex MIL. Moved to Australia when 7 months pregnant. Met off plane by MIL and (nice) SIL. SIL says turn around let me see you I am really good at predicting sex of baby from shape of bump. MIL says "don't be put off by her backside, she has always had a big one". Not bragging but was/am a size 8 and she - well lets just say she is not!
Gomesmum · 09/03/2011 13:11

When I was 15 my Dad left my Mum and his parting words to me were 'I hope you will never be happy', I'm pleased to say I have not seen him since that day which makes me very happy indeed Smile

IslaValargeone · 09/03/2011 13:13

"You couldn't even get that right" my exh after I had miscarried.

Lovechilli · 09/03/2011 13:48

isla that is awful, what a twat

Bearskinwoolies · 09/03/2011 13:48

Told me that the reason he couldn't get it up was that I was repulsive, that he was not attracted to me at all, I was fat (a size 10) and that the only time he would come near me was for a mercy fuck.

BlueRuby · 09/03/2011 14:30

I just had a huge argument with dh about porn and sex etc

I said "do you want me to spend all day looking after 3 kids and at night walk around the house dressed like a whore with my tits out?"

He said...."yes". Then quickly tried to back track when he realise that was sooooo the wrong answer.

Mobly · 09/03/2011 15:18

An ex, (obviously) said 'I don't care if you get cancer of the c**t' during words (I had had an abnormal smear result with severe cell changes).

Another ex (I can pick 'em!) said he was going to pull the car over and batter me to death in front of our children. Sweet, sweet man Hmm

saffysquashmouse · 09/03/2011 22:38

Ex P after I had confronted him about my suspicion he was gay "no I am not gay, I could never go near you because your fanny stinks". Turns out I was right. He left me for a bloke while I was pregnant.

Frizzbonce · 09/03/2011 22:41

Rhinestone Ewwwwwww! WEll SHOT!

neverforgethowmuchiloveyou · 09/03/2011 23:10

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FlowerButterfly · 23/06/2011 11:00

"Nobody will ever love you as much as I do" Abusive ex bf when I tried to leave him (it took 3 years for me to get away)
"It's only abuse if I beat you black and blue and put you in hospital, I only slapped you so it's not that bad" Same ex (after "slapping" me across the ear with the hard part of his hand - felt more like a punch)
"I only hit you because I care" Yep, same ex.

My dad also told me my mother never wanted me and the only reason she didn't abort me was because he didn't let her. He then said it was "the biggest mistake I ever made, your mother knew what you were going to be, she was right all along". I was nine years old.

"It was 8 years ago, yet over it!!" Another ex after I found out he'd cheated on me on the 8 year anniversary of my mum's death. Same ex also accused me of sleeping with my brother - yuck

Same ex said I had a bucket c*t. I told him no, it was just that his d*k was exceptionally small.

LatherRinseRepeatAsNeeded · 23/06/2011 12:06

XDH - "you're too fat to have sex with" at a size 12, and he used to lie next to me and masterbate in bed, leaving the crusty socks for me to clean up. He was also shagging his size 16 PA

Some other XD Chamers

  • No one will ever love you
  • You're worthless
  • You'll never ammount to anything (careerwise) and you're too ugly to sleep your way to the top

He was a real charmer.

"I don't think I'll ever love you as much as I love my ex wife" DP just after he moved in with me, what a nice way to start a relationship. Funnily enough we ignore those early years as we were both a bit shitty to each other.

"Your Dad always wanted a boy" My Mum but didn't mean it in a bad way - just stating a fact, took me years to deal with that one.

Priestess · 23/06/2011 19:52

I Know its not anywhere as bad as anybody else but lets just say my DP has trust issues. He received a substantial inheritance from a relative a couple of years back while we were also going through a rough patch. He came out with a right chestnut :
"I don't want to marry you as you might divorce me and take all my money."
A week later i decided I needed a break - although we did sort things out and two years down the line we're still pretty happy all though still not married!

PauloMartini · 23/06/2011 20:05

I doubt your ability to look after these kids....

tb · 23/06/2011 22:10

My ex-fiancé barged into my unlocked bedroom door in my hall at university - not realising I was asleep. He thwacked some flowers onto my desk, and a book I'd given him. As I sat up, half-asleep, he turned round said 'You're a hateful bitch, and God will never forgive you' [schock] He was training to be a vicar! Little do his parishoners know!

Not a b/f, but my 'd'm when in front of dh I was saying how horrid it had been to be indecently assaulted by one of her friends she came out with 'The one person I feel sorry for in all of this is Ginnie (his wife)'. Wtf - thankfully she disowned me some 4 months later.

Another was when she started crying when I told her I'd been to a counsellor due to all the flashbacks I'd had due to ptsd 'You're trying to push your guilt onto me'.