The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The New Year Wine Offers!

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Hello all.

We are the Brave Babes. We're on the Battle Bus, travelling around sobriety and going day by day, hour by hour, through the detox hell of not drinking, cutting down or sometimes even not.

Come say hi. We won't bite.

No doubt one of us has been where you are now......

It's fine. No judging, no nasty jibes, just us, the BBs.

Come meet the others..................

Yeah, I kind of think Sean Connery in Russia House.. I remember 'Barley' in the dacha in the woods, driking and quoting poetry - perhaps MIF in his younger days

Hi isindie how's the babies? Na, blue cotton pjs not as good as a white coat and a stethoscope [fanstasy emotican]

Sleep well isindie and mrsisindie and the baby isindies

Morning all,
I missed so much going to bed last night!! But, I might have outed myself so maybe for the best.

Thurso - it sounds so hard for your DC, but for someone predicted AAAA, he will find something amazing and fulfilling, it's just not what he first thought it would be. Easy to say from a distance. So if you aren't in deepest darkest Scotland, where are you (roughly) (I have made extra pennies over the last 10 years or so coaching the sciences and maths to GCSE and A level, no pennies required, just be very glad to help).

Mouse your message meant the world to me. Honestly. My family think I should be over what happened to DD and just get on. And then they pause and say "I don't know how you do it". And go back to saying all the things I am doing wrong. It's hard to build up your self esteem when the people near you seem to just knock it down.

jwn I love the "you don't need to conquer the world by Friday". Ok, so for today, no drinking, AA meeting, and a bit of tennis, a bike ride, and a yummy tea for DD. That'll do, right.

How do Next and Lady feel waking up sober? I hope you both slept ok and have the today's-not-so-bad feeling that I have now I can wake up sober.

Zany thanks for your lovely words. Will treasure them too.

I am ok this morning so far - DD woke early and in the night but it is better sober. Going to go and get the second cup of coffee.

Love to all for sober, fulfilling days.

Sorry, I hopped off the bus for a while - had quite a week. DH hurt himself quite badly (I may have mentioned it!) at the weekend, and is as we speak at the hospital about to be operated on.... .

Anyway, should all be done in a few hours and have him home again very soon.

And I've been poorly to boot, so not been an easy few days and can confess to sliding a bit..... with myself.

Sorry, I am not up to date with people's posts, there were nearly 200 since I last posted, and I haven't read them, but hope all are ok, I'll try a bit harder to stick with the Bus but with the patient at home, I may need to be with you in spirit rather than fact....

Hi Ladies,

Well I didnt drink yesterday but I had a bad night and nasty headache but I feel it is all worth it ! Hopefully today will be without drink !

Morning all,

Noteven take care sweetheart
Bird hope op goes well for Dh, and Lady, well done.

Thank you all so much for your wise, and kind words last night. I rather lit the blue touch paper on myself!, sorry for that. After all, not a big deal in the grand scheme of things, I just felt devestated for Dc.

Hoe you all had a good nights sleep. Were you all dreaming of uniforms?
xxx

"Hope" ...I haven't turned into a rapper!

Morning all, I have made it to Day 5 and feeling my strength returning...

Mouse hope Nemo is ok, consider me your personal poo issues consultant we have had it all with DD and I remember you giving me excellent advice, let me know when I can repeat it back to you with a wise look

Thurso your son sounds amazingly clever, so I am sure he will do well, even if its via a different path. I remember the stress of choosing Uni's and my mum hid all the rejection letters from me!

noteven I meant to reply to your post yesterday. I don't think anyone should tell /expect you to be over what happened to your DD. I don't think it works like that. I was hurt as a child and in my opinion you don't get over it, you just sort of make peace with yourself and accept that it happened and you can still move forward. Your DD has you and that will make a huge difference to how you both get through things. Message me if you want to talk but honestly there is no timescale for moving on from these things.

JWN and all you other fashionitas out there ... I need fashion advice. DH and I had a wee chat about what a mess I look at the moment (!) and as soon as we have some money and have paid the builders he is taking me shopping! But I don't even know where to start, how do people create a 'look'? I currently live in jeans and primark t shirts and my look is somewhere between student and tracksuit momma with odd disastrous attempts to look like a boden model. I don't have a clue with clothes. Even if we buy something smart I manage to put it with the wrong thing and look like a mess. I don't even know which shops to go to (we have a Dorothy Perkins, Peacocks and New Look where I live which I am not sure is going to transform me).

Sorry ... off topic then ... hello to everyone else (venus I have missed your calms words of wisdom, isindie - big hug).
Where is Red ??

Have a great, sober day G x

ps - not a fan of men in uniform. Perhaps a firefighter but not the rest. A geek in a lab coat more my thing

Morning Babes

Well the taking painkillers at 5.00am worked and I can actually manage a shower now. Bummer is I have to go in to fecking work...ah well....

sorry Mouse but would still go for British fire fighter uniform over American - don't know why.........

My ex H did actually borrow a fire fighter uniform and came home dressed up in it for my Birthday once - would have been fab but the bloke he borrowed it off was about 5 ft 5 and my ex was 6 ft - just didnt quite work somehow................bless him for trying tho!!!

Off to work kids

Behave while I'm out and I'll be back later

xxxx

morning all. No hangover here after sober night.
Lady hang in there. When I started cutting down I felt thoroughly cheated that I slept badly and still woke up with a headache, even though i had been "good" the night before. it does get better.
What i want to know is why when I am now finally at the point where I know my alcohol consumption is excessive, too expensive, damaging my health, putting on weight, changing my moods and generally wrecking my life...do I STILL want to drink the bloody stuff? Well, about 90% of me doesn't actually want to any more, but the wee 10% still keeps on at me.
Why do I feel I am losing something rather than gaining something?

More sex maniacs Brave Babes.

Silver - wasn't me with the American FFs.... think it was Zany?

Well, I spent the night having the most sureal dreams. Construction workers, plumbers, mechanics.... you name it. All totally buff and tanned. Oh my days.

DH said I was very restless last night

Bird - I hope DH is okay. Stay strong xx

noteven - I should imagine that your friends/family actually don't know what to say so they say the most stupid things like 'you should be over it surely?' 'you should move forward' etc... then I guess they see your face and back track?

It must be hard for them to understand how you feel, if they've not been in your shoes.

Be gentle with yourself. You are still healing too xx

Mouse I'm here

Day 5!

Mouse ok, you have enough on your plate without a needy 36 year old jumping about

Am feeling great! Much better, more positive, less haggard and as if I can succeed in my life!!

Woo hoo.

how are you? How is poo situation?

Just thought my dears,

Today it is 3 months since you were kind enough to let me stay, indeed welcomed me on to the bus, after I had read and commented on a post, and then had meltdown moment. kiss and to Mouse

I haven't been as true a trouper as some others, but goodness my life has changed, not least in that I don't hate myself all the time anymore.

I do regret mightily the blips that I have made, and am aware that it would be so, so easy for one night, Friday, to turn into Friday and Saturday, then a long weekend....and so it goes. For me, perhaps forever, I can't have one drink because it will always turn into a bottle and a half, I know that now, so perhaps that will help me. I have found it very hard recently, I don't know why, maybe it was the blips firing up my system again?

It helps me so much to come on here and talk rubbish sort my thoughts out.

Thanks babes xxxx

Mwah to you too thurso, so glad you stayed.

MsGee - TMI alert....... because Nemo only ever has liquid feeds, he only ever has, ahem, liquid poos.

So, on occasion, it can be a bit of an explosion IYSWIM and requires several pairs of hands to stip, clean and redress.

Nothing I can't handle currently!

ah, I see dear Mouse

that IS beyond my realm of expertise.

Although with potty training I have found the 15 minute cycle on my washer very useful when dealing with things that you can't decide whether to wash or bin and can't bear to put in the washer with non poo ridden clothes. At least then I figure I bin them a bit cleaner!

Why am i always talking poo on here.

Hi all, on the subjest of, ahem...

I have diarrhea today and am not happy. Want to go to AA. Isn't the deal, you stop drinking and feel better... no?? why not!?
Not sure if it's a bug, or my cooking (I love cooking and DD and I had the same so have let CM know) or some other unfair reason...

I should get to an evening meeting as my aunt will babysit. So all isn't lost and maybe it's best to be off work given the current situation. Nearly up to double figures of trips to the toilet since the school run Aaaargh!!!!

morning darlings!!

glad to see you feel a bit better thurso!

msgee - how about booking a session with a personal shopper in debenhams?, i know its not a particuarly brilliant shop, but i think its free and you arent under obligation to buy!, must give you a few ideas of what suits you/what you like etc before parting with cash!

Demented

My answer to your question would be that you sound like a problem drinker rather than a heavy drinker - it's the madness that makes the difference.

But that's just me.

Don't really know why my name was taken in vain earlier. I do speak Russian but can't be doing with dark glasses.

Am a tiny bit scared.

difference please MIFLAW between problem drinker and heavy drinker (apart from the madness)
am intrigued.........