The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The New Year Wine Offers!

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Hello all.

We are the Brave Babes. We're on the Battle Bus, travelling around sobriety and going day by day, hour by hour, through the detox hell of not drinking, cutting down or sometimes even not.

Come say hi. We won't bite.

No doubt one of us has been where you are now......

It's fine. No judging, no nasty jibes, just us, the BBs.

Come meet the others..................

very good isindie - sounds like you 'is' in de better place tonight.

My drinking reason d'etre was pretty similar to yours:

• Poor me, this is my secret reward to myself for being so 'nice' and accomodating to everyone else;
• Fuck you world, parental/authority figures etc, I am an adult and I will bloody drink if I want to so there; and
• Actually underneath all the functioning and the hard work and the trying to be a good person and the trying to prove how responsible I am and worrying about the planet and the people and cooking, cleaning caring, anticipating needs, soothing conflicts, oiling the cogs, calming the storms, etc etc ...I am not really grown up and responsible at all and I just want someone else to look after ME sometimes.

Evening embracing - just keep on in the 'new way'. You sounds like it's working for you.

isindie - nice!

mouse - we shared the wine. DH is in bad way with fucking stupid rugby injury, so a bit all over the place before the wine. But we were very good. Not even 11, and off to bed, not in the slightest drunk.

Night, night, lovely Babes!

evening all. the glasses in the bath thing worked a treat - My life has now been changed for the better!
Silver - how did you break the rib? Hope you get some pain relief.
With DH and DS away I have had a lovely weekend and have been drinking, yes, but will be back on straight and narrow tomorrow. Had a lovely evening with just the two teenage DDS, watching Swan Lake and bitching about the dancers and costumes while ingesting vast quantities of chocolate!

I love the Brave Babes thread.
Apart from drinking on a weekend two weeks ago, I have enjoyed my new found sober me.
I have in the past been out of control with booze and a lot of what is shared here has resonated with me. People pleasing and a reward and the odd f*ck you have been my excuses.
This is my first post so hello and goodnight.

Good Morning all.
Hope you all slept/sleeping well?
Hope the ribs Silver, foot Isinde, aches and pains Mouse are at least a little better.

I'll drive Gerald today. I've checked the oil, tyres etc and filled with petrol. The heater's on and I've put some of the seats back for the injured, poorly and weary. I've chosen a very calm cd to listen too. We can always change it later when we get rowdy

Welcome Toomanybabies so lovely to 'meet' you and well done on your two weeks. Are you coming out with us today? Have you got loads of babies? I'm intrigued by your name

Where shall we go?

Isinde your thoughts resonate with me too.

Along the lines of trying to please people, avoiding conflict, trying to be positive, trying to do everything. My dear parents are very rarely satisfied with anything. (I just got a sharp pain in my stomach writing that

So I drink to relax and then really like the feeling of being chilled and not worrying about anything, then a lot bit of f**k you all pops up and hey presto....one big drunken mess

So there you go, some early morning navel gazing

Isinde loved your poem. Not seen one for a while

ruby glad you're getting dressed, we wouldn't want to start a whole series of threads on how people shouldn't wear their pjs to drive a bus (if you don't ever browse the AIBU topic, you'll not understand that). But the good thing about being here is that you can wear what the hell you like. No need to put on a good face for other people, no need to pretend you're happy and sober when you're dying inside. Just acceptance, support, advice and understanding.

Hello everyone! I would like to cut down on my drinking a bit. Last night I took our pup out, and he ran off on his lead and sent me flying head first into the gravel. I have a bit of a thick lip and a cut on my hand to show for it, and I don't think I would have flown so far or so fast or so head-first, had it not been for the amount of wine I had drunk!

I have reached a situation where I do not think that drinking makes me into a bad person, so I kind of accept that I drink too much sometimes. I would like to be in a position where I drink less if at all.

When I am out with friends, I do not feel compelled to drink until I fall over (I have a bus to catch). Having been treated for cancer, I fear the chemical treatments hugely, especially when i wake up with a grubby winey head!!

I must go and cook lunch and tidy up a bit. The dogs have been chewing logs by the fireplace.

morning!! , blimey! loads of new lovley babes!, hello to all of you! im jwn and im a right old alkie boozer but i have been sober for nearly 8 months!!! , believe me, if i can do it there is hope for everyone!

wasnt about yesterday as dh took me on a surprise day day out, had a lovley time, a bit of a walk, a bit of lunch and a bit of shopping! , he knows how to treat a girl!

today we are off to see the kings speech, im looking forward to it, i have a wildly varying taste in films, i like either good period dramas or total blood and guts, cant bear 'romcoms' or right girly shit

dd starts her new course tomorrow so is now going through the wardrobe to get 'the right look' - i know it will be pretty bizarre and look strange on the 6am train, might wake everyone up though!

btw, a bit of a navel gaze - i have always had 'fuck you' attitude, done my own thing, lived life as fast as possible etc - since becoming sober i feel i have kind of 'connected' with the world - i like the feeling of being capable of rational thought (dont always do it but its nice to know i could if i wanted! ), i really love the sense of peace i have in my head, serenity is proberbly too strong a word but its getting there!, i love the calm peaceful feeling i have when i open the front door, knowing that i havent caused a crisis or a row, i love the fact that i am making proper memories for when im old, not just drunken moments in time iyswim?

oh well, enough of that, off to tidy up! see you all later!

Just watching the Corrie omnibus, oh dear, another soap disappears off the viewing list - can't watch EE and now can't bear to watch Peter Barlow falling off the wagon.
Sorry to all you intellectual babes who probably never watch any soaps

Morning afternoon.

Been in bad all morning too cathcing up on much needed sleep.

Welcome to the bus new faces

I'll be in and out today, have a million and one things to sort out, amoungst which is to cut DD's hair.

That should be fun!

Anyway, JWN - YOU ARE AMAZING!!!!! Well done on getting so far. xx

'been in "bad" and "cathcing" up' - whoops, clearly not enough sleep!

Hello ladeez! Milflaw not back until Mon, I think!

Mouse so sorry to hear that you are feeling grot with no sleep. I hope your day has been reasonably restful.

Hello to all babes newer than me , you will never regret coming on to this thread, I have never been online like this before, and it has immeasurably made my life better. You can say anything, as much, or as little as you like, no-one will judge or offer you anything but help and support. We also share the good stuff, which is all part of us all, as well .

Venus , Indie, I think that this may be the "people pleasers" club, I wonder if that's why we I thought I got respite from wine .

Indie make sure you get some of your poems down in hard copy, I still have a story that I made up for my two, and printed out 10 years ago (were computers invented then? )

"The King's Speech" was just brilliant, I love Helena Bonham Carter, such a dude!, and Colin Firth was pretty amazing too!

DC1 was at the comedy awards last night, and texted DC2 to say that he had had a chat with David Mitchell, shame, I fancy the other one!

I hope you have all had a good day.
Much love
xx (always wanted to do that, what does it mean?)

Hahahahahaahahahahaaaaaahhhhhaaaaa

thurso - it stems from a thread I think about awkward situations?

Massively trying to get this right to do the poster justice but basically, I understand it to mean 'anyone for a Pomme Bear'?

So, A says to B 'did you know XYZ was shagging 123?'

B says 'Oooooh, no, I didn't' in a very Kenneth Williams style voice and then the host says 'Anyone for a Pomme Bear'

I hope I've got that right!

Thank you Mouse

I shall try and use that, more cryptic than elephant in the room . Maybe I can train DH, so that if I say "do you fancy a Pomme Bear" he will know that we need to talk!

How are you today?
I worked all morning , but then DH and I went for a long walk near Arundel, all over the downs, and stopped for a drink (cranberry, lime and soda! for me), came home and read the papers [bliss, icon].

Venus just thinking, I had the builders in for three bloody months last year, almost drove me to a breakdown, by the end of it, I swear I was in Stockholm syndrome, I cried when the last one left .
However, you do forget it, a bit like chilbirth (or so a lot of people say, I can remember mine!)

childbirth, wasn't in Antartica!

I'm good thanks, off to put my grubby Nemo in the bath!

has anyone taken co-codamol before - all I have done is sleep (and thrown up once) - literally ALL day? x

You have. That's what paracetamol and codeine is....... We've talked about this before lovely....

It shouldn't make you feel sick, assuming that you are on 500mg of paracetamol and 30mg of codeine per tablet? 2 to be taken every 4-6 hours?

You need to eat with them babes.... make you fuzzy but not sickly IME.

Although, I should imagine I am immune to painkillers now.

You okay? xx

Silver co-codamol is quite strong, Mouse is right, you should try to eat something, can you do that?

I am on the 500/30mg dose - ones i had before were 500/8mg. Just drank a glass of water and promptly threw up my tea I ate about 20 minutes ago...............

Silver - milk? Line your stomach? Yes the 30's do knock you queesy if you're not used to them