condom in pocket. We're here again.

[worriedbee]

I found a condom in DP's pocket while doing the washing the yesterday. Done some snooping and came up with a text message in his phone "Yeah I had a great time x"

The rest of the texts are deleted.
Not great is it.

Possible mitigating factors:

• the condom is one of ours. We have just been away - perhaps he picked it to take away.

• there were some lying about (our room in a tip with stuff after returning after holiday!) perhaps he picked it up because it was lying about.

• he has lots of friends, male and female, the text could be innocent I guess

• he always deletes his texts every so often (phone old and crap so not much memory)

• he's not hiding his phone from me or acting suspicious in any other way

Still, really not great is it.

We've been getting on really well. I know that's no indication of fidelity.

We've been here before. Bugger.

Last time I suspected cheating, after much soul searching I challenged him, and ended up feeling completely reassured. I don't feel I can challenge him this time. If I'm going to challenge him again I would need solid proof I think.

no need for the I was just being friendly, very often people don't notice its an old thread

and FWIW, I think you would give good advice

It's not that old though is it? Less than 6 weeks - maybe that's enough time for the OP to have found the evidence she was looking for...

After reading this it I would like to know what happened if anything

Why were you looking on his phone? Surely that means that there is no trust to begin with.

Thanks PeterAndre, I am in my own little world most of the time hence the :)

What's occurring, OP?

'What's occuring' - love it.

Be nice to have an update but the cynical me says that we haven't had one because she is still with him.

Which is of course her choice regardless of the fact he's a lying cheating twat