Dumpling no more - only the strong survive and we did No.1

[Teaandcakeplease]

At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinkin' I could never live without him by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin' how you did me wrong
And I grew strong

This thread is for ex dumplings Any dumpling that feels like she has "mostly" moved past crisis into an "almost" sorted state can post and chat here as we continue our quest for serenity with a lot of laughs along the way and support.

Yay thanks Tea.

And we did survive....

Thinking I will dig out some more survival songs when I get a chance....

Great plan lovely.

Right Ex H is popping by to see the kids as he hasn't seen them since before I went away for NY. So I better get off the PC

Well I'm posting at work so not so darn easy to chat

As BE has flown to Bumpkin now we dont get visits any more really although a few things coming up with DS (), so may see him

Amazingly, Ds is currently staying with BE. Praying that BE will help.

I wish my xh would fly somewhere

Actually although I was angry hearing him say we could move into rented accomodation the bit about him looking everywhere has been positive because I was dreading he and I would be scouring the same small area for the same kind of house and I sooo didnt want him on my doorstep.

Well I was considering not posting until I was in a more Gloria Gaynor frame of mind but I have to say my anxious glum mood is not shifting.

I just dont understand why these latest ow at the family gathering or ow on a beach with him and my dc is gnawing at me. I have gone through it my mind and I have concluded its an attack of remembering him as a person he wasnt and falling into the trap of turning on the spotlight onto our split instead of what it really is which is anxiety about my future primarily finding work and moving house.

I realised last week that as we are about to sever financial contact and have long since severed emotional contact that I am on my own . As in no longer under the protective wing of a man and shame on me but it feels quite scary tbh.

Anyway Happy I hope this year brings good things for your ds

Tea have a lovely birthday with your ds , what a lovely age

I think maybe I should have posted this tale of woe on the old thread because I dont sound very ex dumpling do I

Well in my opinion you are very together Getting and this is just a blip. We all have those. I too need to think about housing and money now that xmas is over having put the divorce on hold pre xmas because I was living in a Tv mini series.

I'm also worrying about work as I'm finding it hard to do the job with all of the ds issues at home. Called the doc today to give her an update and as always she said .

I must admit that I dont really think about OW at all except to think that anyone who would behave like she has must be pretty unpleasant. They therefore deserve each other. But then Bumpkin is miles away and my dc show no interest in her. I may think differently soon as after the xmas episode ds has in the end gone to stay there. So I will end up with some reports no doubt.

The armageddon moment for me would be ds coming back home and me losing my job. Then I would be truly f**ed and we would all need to join together in a midnight visit to BEland clothed in ku klux clan hats.

Hi all Yay new thread!:)

I used to be very angry with OW but now just think of her as someone with low integrity and wonder how anyone bothers with some one who patently is ready to stab anyone in the back!

And also another friend just shook her head and said when thinking about their long term prospects together: 2 such selfish people........

But of course contact with the Dcs or being replaced in any new way could of course flare up things again. We're only human and Getting you have dealt with your situation with great grace! We all have bad days but the whole point is that these are getting less. As with everything else these bad days will pass and we will have better days.

((Happy))Hope DS benefits from his stay.

One thing that has helped me recently being manless is to find a great local guy who will come round and sort anything in the house for a reasonable amount (no small feat in London) :)

Oh this is too funny

Arf arf.........

Ooohh a new thread . Waves to all.

Getting you are bound to have a bit of a slump facing house move.

Tea, is it your ds's birthday? My dd is 4 tomorrow

Happy, also hope ds benefits from time away atm. ((Hugs))

Well have been having loads of fun with Norm . Things have kind of progressed to another level since my wobble at xmas (thanks Pink & you were right ). It's almost terrifying to realise I am developing deep feelings for someone new but at the same time it's made me realise that I am actually capable of falling in love again & tg xh didn't rob me of the ability to be able to open my heart again . Other then that just enjoying life here with dc's & bracing myself for court next week but holding onto positive thoughts.

This is where you all are! Hooray! Tea - that other thread is bloody hilarious!
I'm feeling really good girls. I'm amazed at how far I've come in such a short space of time. I think this last dumpling moment has really made me realise what's important in life - me, the kids, people who love me and are worth it. I'm feeling more peaceful than I've done since getting a divorce and him leaving me 3 years ago on the 7th Jan. Really, serenity is returning. And it's such a good feeling!
Happy birthday to little starting as well!

ps - am I allowed on here? Feeling quite amazed at how far I've come with the help of you dumplings...

Hi Goo, loved your pics . You look gorgeous & have true dumpling spirit. You have indeed come a long way well done.

Goo, your pics are lovely, what animals are your DC holding ?

(my exh left almost the same time as yours, time really flies doesn't it, I can't believe it's 3 years). My serenity is returning as well and I never really believed it would. It's such a relief.

Goo I cant see your pics

Well, amazingly it looks like it's possible that DS may stay with BE. I hope it works out. After last week it just cant work here any more. Sad but if he has a chance there then its best he goes. And I will pray that he does have a chance there.

Starting, very excited about you and Norm. So happy for you x

Happy Birthday to your DS Tea .

And to your little boy Starting

Went to bed mega early last night, time to gear up for the PIL visit today, see you all later.

Just popping in to say happy birthday to little Tea and little Starting. I'm not qualified to post here (yet). This is the thread I aspire to be on but look out for me on the other one, won't you?

Happy birthdays to little tea and starting

Morning everyone x

Oops happy birthday little Starting. Missed that one.

LC and Where, you pop in as often as you like .

Morning all.

Hi everyone! Well, pink you made me laugh. The boys aren't holding animals - they're giant pine cones! Still chuckling at that one. And it is such a relief to have serenity. First time really in two years for me. I know I'm fine on my own. Starting to enjoy life for what it is. I never thought I would say that.
Happy birthday to the little ones - hope they both have a lovely time with their serene mums :)
Happy - I'll add you to list so you can see pics - sorry I missed you it wasn't deliberate. And you are being very philosophical about your DS. It's the right attitude and very strong of you.
Starting - very glad all is well with Norm. It shows how far you have come that you can start to allow someone into your heart again.
Well, the days are getting imperceptibly lighter, which is wonderful. I can almost feel spring in the air. Hope everyone is well. Lots of love x

Added you Happy. Have a look at my little boys holding pine cone animals!

Hi ladies...not quite ready to join you yet but i hope i soon will be

Hi Marble, how are things?

Ah, lovely photos GooGoo

Me philosophical about DS? Yes, I guess so - if he can be ok there and we can be ok without him then I'm happy. Let's just hope it can be that way.

Always feel a bit posting about it on Dumplings threads as its not what they're about really but sadly that's been the big worry in my life for so long now that I have to talk about it!!!!