Dumpling no more - only the strong survive and we did No.1

[Teaandcakeplease]

At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinkin' I could never live without him by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin' how you did me wrong
And I grew strong

This thread is for ex dumplings Any dumpling that feels like she has "mostly" moved past crisis into an "almost" sorted state can post and chat here as we continue our quest for serenity with a lot of laughs along the way and support.

When will it open Elsie ? I almost feel ready. Think it should be soon while we still have most of our marbles.

We could have a trial run in the summer, a bi dumpling meetup wearing purple cardies and wee stained pants and pretending we don't recognise our DC.

That might be me next weekend on our nite out pink ,its been 3 yrs.

OK guys, dancing here to this

Patience, your XH is just weird.

DB has a nursing home up your way Goo, we could all move up there.

Hmm

I prefer "nasty bastard"
Do other people not have these conversations with their X s ?

Just me then

I have nasty convos sometimes with mine. But I try to avoid him, I guess easier now he's gone so far away

The Saint is actually vaguely curious I think and thinks I am having an affair. He is wrong of course but I will let him believe what he likes. As he thinks it's with someone he knows I think it's quite funny as he's a bit confused by it

Lovely to see all the chatter here tonight. Think I'm just working my way out of a bit of depression that descended since legal separation. I think I've been in a bit of a haze re-evaluating my life.

Goo, that sounds awfull for your poor ds's & of course you too trying to deal with it. I don't know how you manage to juggle job into the mix!

ET, haven't read the other thread but sorry to hear your ds is still struggling. I think that's always the hardest part to deal with, the damage these men do to dc's!

Patience, detachment all the way.....

Happy, glad you're getting a bit of peace

Pink, lovely to read your long posts

DCS, lovely to read that you had a nice date, hope it continues to go well for you

Kate, will be dying to hear how date no2 goes!

Happy, that's great . Let him be pondering it away lol. Only thing is it couldn't be an affair could it as he already did that

Oh hi, Starting, glad you're coming out of the haze.

Hmm yeah, of course affairs would be his thing, quite right

I think in his new life I am the ultimate pain in the arse .
I understand why /drama triangles and all that/,so now I am aiming for "the sexy as fuck -completely indifferent-X wife look."

That's a good look Patience. I did the same when I last saw The Saint. And afterwards my hairdresser (who is male old friend) said 'And you wore those jeans, bloody brilliant'

All about accepting,he ain't coming back.
I don't want him back.
Better for everyone he doesn't come back.
And once again trying to salvage what I can from this bloody mess.

Hope ur ok starting sending ya hugs.
Such an emotional time for ur wee family x

I prayed when he left ,on my knees I prayed to God to give me strength to split for good this time.
My kids get a second chance now.

It just took me 15mths to get here,I was with him 15 yrs,94-09 ,maybe its finished ,maybe this is it now .

Quietly anticipating a new life without X s doom vibe.

Also realising that I'm not looking for a bloke.if it happens it happens but right now I don't need a bloke.
Just interested in the rebuild now ,strengthening my foundations and growing confident thru achieving success in life.
2011 is all about me regaining my fabulosity x

Well I think you're getting stronger all the time Patience!

You wait til your mn night out. It will be fabulous and you won't look back.

Thanks happy one time we will have a drink together x

He is a nasty bastard Patience, as you say in your earlier post. No doubt about it. My Ex H never speaks to me like that. I'm amazed at how you can retain your dignity, as I think I'd hit the roof everytime.

Love the idea of the nursing home ladies

Well there's still a few posts left on this thread until it's full, but I've created the No.2 thread here for when it is full.

Kate how did it go? I want to live vicariously through you, what can I say.

Thought I would sneak a last post on this thread as catching up has put a huge smile on my face

Thanks for all the support re my cousin and sadly I think like some of you that it will end in tears AND they didnt use a condom even after he was open about seeing a lot of people since his divorce

Well I wish all dating dumplings well but serenity is restored and its just me me me for now

Elsie the stuff about your ds..my goodness..but back on true form with your wit. Yes please register me for the dumpling home

Pink great post yesterday and it is different dealing with older dcs reactions to them leaving. I still think my dd has a lot going on in her head about everything but shes not a talker.

Happy glad you are enjoying your music and some peace from ds issues

Patience no my xh doesnt talk to me like that either. A big soap and glory fan here too its such good value

googoo sorry you are a house of illness and I hope you can all hide under a blanket in front of the TV and get better

Kate hope the date went well

Tea are you doing the card ?

Well I had a lovely night last night and have woken up today full of positivity. January has been a crap month and now its time to shake off pointless worrying and gloomy outlooks and start grabbing life by the throat again.

It could be ages before I actually move and I need to feign closure as much as I can now because otherwise I am wasting time treading water and making excuses for certain things on the grounds that I am stressed about ie moving etc.

As a good start am off to London shortly to the Royal Academy to see an exhibition and then probably a film later on. Going down with a nice friend who I havent got to spend a lot of time with in ages so we can catch up. Like you said Pink I will get old but not lonely as I am so lucky to have such a lot of lovely friends !

Have a good day everyone see you on the new thread

No condom? Eek! Is she mad?

Enjoy your day in London Getting Sounds lovely.

Ooh, why did I fall asleep at 10.30 last night? I missed loads. And I'm still in bed now . Will catch up and post over coffee and choc croissants .

Oh dear. I'm now ill and boys are getting a bit better - coughing and fighting. Going to be a long day :(

Oh yuck. Poor you Googoo Hope you have plenty of supplies in.

Thanks tea,LOL so much has happened on here in a year eh !

Onwards and upwards.

Let nothing disturb you.
Nothing frighten you,
All things are passing.
Patience obtains all things.

Away to check out some dinosaurs.....

Legs still sore from kick boxing btw

Getting only one word for UR cousin......
Chlamydia ..........