First sex after DH. Scared shitless

[longweight]

Last time I was dating I was 18, stretchmark free and didn't have any body hangups.

I have met someone who seems great, been dating for a month and I really fancy him. He has been living with his ex wife while they sold house/had joint christmas with kids and just moved into his own place.

All our dates so far have been public places but he has asked if I want to come to his new house and I'm terrified of the sex thing.

He's an athlete and very fit. I've seen photos of his ex and she is gorgeous/toned/pretty. I'm fit/healthy weight but without clothes it's not pretty.

We'd agreed to take stuff slowly but there is a lot of sexual chemistry and I really want to but scared he won't like me once he sees me naked.

just to say I am waiting for that s**g too, loosely speaking

Another fervent lurker.

Me too! If Mr Muscles thinks anything like my DH, that 'business girl' outfit will have him like putty in your hands! Well, a bit stiffer than putty, we hope :) Shag support crew is cheering you on!

Thank for vote of confidence around outfit. I have never been called foxy in my life!

Grace I know I'm not overweight it's just the expectation that when you look healthy in clothes you will have a taut body underneath. Curvy bottom = big ass but I'm embracing it since hiding it isn't an option.

Did I mention his muscles? If all else fails I'm hoping to shag mrspickles instead, she sounds game and very lovely.

Slight aside, in heels I am same height or taller. I always wear heels and he never seemed bothered. Is this ok?

Great thread. Good luck, can't wait for update x

Is it wrong that I now feel rejected and passed over in favour of MrsPickles?

I'm game too!

Bloody hell blinder do I have options? I'm like a crepebellied, swings both ways gigalo!!!!!

I can see this conversation now. "hey mr muscles, lets get it on, and should you change your mind here are a couple of my gorgeous online cheerleaders ready to takeover. Meanwhile they would like to letch at your mighty fine arse, maybe take a few snapshots."

GO LONGWEIGHT!

shakes pom poms, attempts splits but has to waddle off for a sit down

When is the date again??

Tuesday. Two more sleeps!

Hope you have lots of fun longweight, you will look gorgeous, and when he sees you, he's going to have only one thing on his mind,mmmmmm xx :o

Blinder...lol dont attempt the splits unless you can do them, tell you what....you shake the pom poms and i'll do the splits for you...hahaha :)

Longweight - glad that you are enjoying the highs and lows of the build up to the date.

Can I (cynically) advise you just to relax and enjoy the ride and not expect too much emotionally. I am sort of saying that you need to take a little pressure off of yourself. At a minimum the guy would like to get into the sack with you. And most men like real women as opposed to tabloid cut outs. Seriously, don't surrender all the psycho power in your relationship so early!! Cynical, I know, but you sound a little vulnerable .... some of your validation needs to come from you/within.

Enjoy the build up.

I am going to shave my legs on Tuesday even though my cheerleader outfit has 40denier tan tights. That's how excited I am.

MrsPickles and pinkhair we almost have a troupe! Let's work on our rhyme. To start us off...

Ahem

Longweight longweight you're the bees knees
Dazzle Mr Muscles with your 32Gs!

Can you tell I don't get out much any more?

Ahem

Longweight longwieght you're the bees knees
Dazzle Mr Muscles with your 32g's
There's no need to worry, or be in a hurry
cos as soon as he sees you, he'll be all in a flurry!!!!

Blinder, i dont get out much either!!!!!

LW- remember you chose him and he will be grateful....I hope that he meets your standards

blinder and pinkhair

Hi, I'm with the others I'm sure you look fab and it's just a confidence thing :) Would about doing something to boost your confidence first - go for a spray tan or mani / pedi, the little things can make you feel really good. Or invest in some new (non tacky) underwear that you feel good in?
Being sexy isn't about being flab and stretch mark free :)

That cheer is going round in my head. I love it!!

Tdada I know I am worrying excessively about the naked thing. Otherwise I don't feel emotional about the dating/relationship. I'm enjoying it very much and if it ended I would be very disappointed but not bereft. I'm not sure what you mean re pyscho powers or him meeting expectations. My last sexual partner was very vocal about my flaws and pretty much despised me so Muscles doesn't have to do much to raise the bar.

Honestly this thread has made me feel so much better about the whole situation and given me a giggle to boot.

Wannabe - I'm using daily body lotion with a hint of tan, it's quite nice.

Christ, if he's even making a fraction of the effort you are I'd be impressed!! But the main thing is that all this is going to boost your confidence. It's about you liking you as much as it is about him liking you (sorry that sounds horribly cheesy pukes on keyboard ).

As someone whose ex-H would not have sex with me for years and years, has lots of body hang-ups/no confidence etc, and who had my first shag since marriage breakdown a couple of weeks ago I can say that I feel so much better about myself. It has really cheered me up knowing that someone finds me attractive and wanted to have sex with me. So here's another one excitedly waiting for Tuesday! :)

Congrats on your shag Maggie I know exactly where you are coming from.

He will probably have a shower and a shave, maybe iron a shirt. I don't mind as I will feel fab because I am bronzed and have a neatly waxed undercarriage.

LW - not a good choice of words by me. Just meant that you should ensure that you keep a measure of emotional control so that this man doesn't take you for granted too soon......From your post above it sounds as though you are in a good place though. Best wishes

Thank you tdada