It's all about......ME! :)

[BibiBlocksberg]

Hello to all and a Medal for those of you that stayed over all 16 pages of the 'It's all about him' thread.

Since it has gotten so big and since I will most likely going to be droning on about this for a little while I thought it would be easier to just start a new thread.

Must say I prefer the new title

For those that didn't read the mammoth previous thread, in a nutshell it's about me dithering to leave partner of 8 years. No sex life for a year, he's very self centred and unmotivated etc, no future to speak of, fed up.

Finally told him I want to split up last night so am now using MN as my lifeline to ensure I really do get out of this excuse for a relationship.

Thank you all again for letting me do this and your support :)

:)

Good luck!

Hello Bibi

I didn't post on your last thread. I just followed it and thought, please leave him!

I had a similar experience although the boredom and inertia would be broken intermittently by high drama and nonsense. Since I left, nearly 4 years ago, I think I've crammed about 10 years worth of living in! And I have the baby that I never could have contemplated having before.

Your thread was so sad but you come across as so unbelievably sweet I'm sure you have tons of good stuff coming your way.

My top tips for getting away and staying away are -

Don't listen to his whiney phone calls saying his life is crap without you etc. Whiney texts etc. he's probably high anyway. Like SGB and AF said, they are just pissed off that they have to wash their own socks.

Mine also started that "so and so says this about you" "everyone thinks you are dumb / horrible / making a mistake etc." Well, I'm not 14 and still at school so I don't care...

Physically remove yourself - don't see him at all.

Date for fun - people who you have no intention of settling down with.

Only do things you want to do and keep on doing this!

What a great thread - well done! Have a lovely Christmas Bibi x

He he he - posting on two threads.

How needy greedy am I??

"Don't listen to his whiney phone calls saying his life is crap without you etc. Whiney texts etc. he's probably high anyway"

Have to listen to it in person for a while longer before I can look forward to ignoring phone calls only :) :)

I didn't post on your last thread but I am unashamedly BUMPING this.

Being on your own in so much superior to living with that selfish whining boy!!!

Lots of luck and hugs.

ooh this must be the new Bibi minus Captain Sorry thread.

How lovely.

How's things this morning?

Followed the last thread without posting but wanted to say WELL DONE for getting your life back.

Have a lovely Christmas doing what you want to do , seeing who you want to see and watching what you want to watch! Then 2011 can be the fresh start you need.

ooo, only just spotted this

here was me thinking you only had one thread

how greedy are you ??

anyways, t'other one is full now so here we are

Can't believe AnyFucker got the last word in on the old thread

Still tired and ill today thanks for asking ElfPants but life goes on (what a trooper I am)

Meant to say last night btw 'BARBECUE BEEF' rules!!! All other super noodle flavours are inferiour!!!! Was typing on i-pod stuck in an alarm clock so typing tres awkward :)

Have been v. organised and put a nice casserole with looooads of garlic in the slow cooker before I left for work so things are looking up in the dinner stakes :)

bibi...I did give you the opportunity to have the last word, but you were too slow so I nabbed it

I know AF - just didn't want to let the naked truth stand in the way of a good complaint :)

I'm liking your new thread

Thanks Grace, am going to have to work very hard to make this one as exciting as the last.

Have run out of useless blokes to leave for the short term

Well, hoo bloody ray for that
Merry Christmas!!

Yes indeed! Why not go out and kiss some boys at New Year?

Mind you, you might still have your "I am a mug, kick me move in with me" sticker stuck to your back for passing cocklodgers/stoners/whingy-whiners to see. So maybe think about how you're going to get it removed.

I'm another who was following your last thread and cheered a big cheer when he finally left!!

Keep us updated!

"Well, hoo bloody ray for that
Merry Christmas!!"

Yes, and to you!!

I wonder if that Kleeneeze or whatever it is sticky stuff remover works for 'Big Mug, move in with me and sponge off my energy for 10 year labels'

If not we'll have to have a Chilli and rip off the label party

"I'm another who was following your last thread and cheered a big cheer when he finally left!!"

Thank you silent lurker chrysanthemum38 :)

This is going to be a fantastic thread .

feeling needy myself

Yes if I we can keep this thread going it will provide a handy 'what happened next' guide for others in a similar situation.

I do often read broken off threads and wonder whether that person ever resolved the query/kicked out the abusive idiot etc etc

Lets face it, there is nowhere else on the internet for the sort of real life gold MN provides.

I know, I checked - for years!!!!

ok, I'm here now (out from the shadows) for some holiday cheer.

for the next step I suggest some harmless flirting practice. It always cheers me up around this time of year.

Good thinking.

Are you alright ReallyFab? :)

No thank you for asking Elf.

please help me on my mental health thread

Found you!!!

great last thread and looking forward to hearing the exploits of an unleashed Bibi!!!

Is the world ready

wassup IAm??

Aaaaahh, lovely casserole that was even if I do say so myself.

I'm just sitting here marvelling at just how relaxed I'm feeling. Thought for a while I'd be all sad and mopey on my own but no sign of that.

Amazing really just how much Cap'n sorry's seemingly constant bad moods kept my own mood down.

Got home tonight and he'd been to pick up a few more of his possessions. No note, no text to say he'd been - nothing.

A part of me is quite pissed off with that, not sure why I expect him to show me any more respect now than he did when we were together but there you go.

I guess a part of me was hoping that all of this was going to galvanise him into some sort of effort.

Instead he seems happy to have let the whole thing die with some crocodile tears, a bunch of roses and some feeble insistences.

Just privately musing, not trying to attract replies :)

Hope you're all having a good evening if you are reading through this though.