Am I right in my conviction, lovely DP has done something unforgivable and I really think we're over

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We went out with a big group of friends yesterday afternoon,long pub lunch as most were off work due to the snow, he went home as he started to feel unwell.

I had a seizure in the loo, was taken to hospital by ambulance(this has happened a few times and is being investigated, possible epilepsy). DPs best friends wife came with me, made sure I was okay and was generally lovely.

I came home to a horrid email from DP, heres part of it

THANKS A FUCKING LOT, had half the village ringing me when I was ill in bed thanks to another of your 'episodes'. Can't believe you dragged Laura to the hospital in this fuking weather. You really worried people. I've had no sleep as the phone was contstantly ringing. Sort yourself out.

No 'oh my god are you okay?' etc Just that shower of shite.
I am stunned by this. What would you do?

In what way can he be considered "lovely"?

What would I do? Pack his bags, that's what. Wanker.

Clearly he doesn't believe you are ill

Dump him. That's an OUTRANGEOUS way to treat someone. And I would keep the email and show all your friends.

Yeah, I should have put previously lovely.

I swear I must attract the bad types.

knob. Nuff said, you know what to do.

As the partner of someone who has seizures a lot..I am horrified for you!!! How dare he say this to you??

I would never tell someone to leave their partner..but if you do have epilepsy then your life will change and you need someone supportive..obviously thats not him.

Im so angry for ya..what did you do???

We don't live together, I was taking things very slowly for various reasons.

Not sure I'm really asking for advice, just needed to unleash, and be reassured he's ann utter wanker.

What an awful man. You should feel glad to be rid of him.

Are you OK now?

Define lovely and see if your DP fits the bill. Not a nice man.

I haven't replied yet. I'd call him but I will need serious restraint.

yes, he's a wanker.

if you've been taken to hospital in an ambulance, you are hardly putting him out, are you?

run, run, run.

and tell him where to stick it.

Surely you know that he doesn't love you?

get rid of him NOW, esp as if its early in the relaitonship.

irishma, thanks, this is what I was thinking. it's a pretty terrifying thing as it is and I can't believe his attitude.

I need a hug, just not from him....

You came home to an email? Where the fuck was he?

That is pretty hard to forgive, IMO. He makes it sound as though he believes you keep having these seizures on purpose to get attention or cause people inconvenience. Really not nice.

Also, if the phone was disturbing him so much when he sooo needed to sleep (poor baba), why did he not just unplug it? Is he not very bright?

If you're not living with this guy (and I'm guessing have no children with him) then get rid of him.

As you mentioned that you "must attract the bad types", then perhaps it's time you thought about why and how you're doing that.

What was the cause of his illness? Does he have a serious and/or life threatening condition, or a severe mental illness that means he is not always in control of his behaviour? (I imagine you would have mentioned this in your OP if this was the case?)

His behaviour as others have said was really unpleasant and unreasonable; is there a reason for it?

Reading between the lines I am guessing, perhaps wrongly, that he had a few too many drinks, went home in a bad mood with a tummy upset/mild cold symptoms and then went to bed not caring about you?

Sorry to hear about your seizure and your awful experience in hospital as well.(other thread)

OMG. Thank fuck you don't live together. I could never forgive something like that. Hope you are ok x

Unbelievable - what a cock. By the sound of it you don't live together so that should mean getting rid of him is easy.

CoteDAzur, one of the reasons I was holding back is he's been a little full on. 'I've never been in love before, it's fate that we both moved back to our hometown at the same time, etc etc.

Sadly I know all the warning signs as my exH was horribly abusive.

Oh I see (slow typer!), I didn't realise you don't live together!

It sounds like he doesn't believe you are genuinely ill.

Frankly you do not need someone like that in your life.

Get rid.

Since I posted you have updated. Your posts about him ring Very Loud alarm bells. I echo what others have said, walk away, don't put it off. End the relationship before you get in deeper.

He had way too many drinks, and actually has depression so shouldn't be drinking. It's not an excuse though.